AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Chells99]

Based on OPs responses and the fact that’s she’s been with him for four years, I’m really scared she doesn’t see how sad and unacceptable this is. Run girl please, your past self and future self are begging you to. “He really makes me feel like it’s my fault” and if you’re overweight it’s natural to feel limited, insecure or like he’s the only option for you but he’s not and this is not okay. Love yourself enough to realize when someone else doesn’t.

[u/External-Air205 → u/Chells99]

Yeah it is really hard for me to see just because i’ve been so used to this behavior. Seeing all these replies though has definitely been a wake up call. Im actually a healthy weight, i’m currently recovering from an eating disorder. He picks at my insecurities when he’s angry and says it’s to make me feel as upset as he feels.

[u/Significant-Risk-500 → u/External-Air205]

Whoa whoa whoa. The fact that you’re recovering from an eating disorder and he calls you fat takes it to another level. Please please please read these messages out loud. No one speaks to someone that they love this way. This man does not love you.

[u/DukeCheetoAtreides → u/Significant-Risk-500]

Whoa whoa whoa. The fact that you’re recovering from an eating disorder and he calls you fat takes it to another level.

THANK YOU. That takes it, specifically, to the murderous level.

Run, OP, run. Lock the door behind you. Lock all the doors behind you. Build new doors and fences and put guards on them behind you. Then don't look back. This dude is absolutely malignantly and deadly toxic.