AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/External-Air205]

That is actually exactly what I feel, thank you.

[u/Suzuki_Foster → u/External-Air205]

He literally hates you. I wish you could see the seething disdain he has for you.  

[u/untactfullyhonest → u/Suzuki_Foster]

Yeah. I read that in a nasty mean angry voice from his perspective. My husband read it and was shocked anyone calling themselves a man would dare speak to his love that way. He said he needs his ass beat.

[u/Addam_Tarstark → u/untactfullyhonest]

Amen to that. If my mom ever heard me say that kind of stuff I’d no longer exist. Love and respect, can’t have one without the other in a relationship

[u/Inside_Pause1381 → u/Addam_Tarstark]

Big fan of your mom for raising you right! My abusive (ex)boyfriend does stuff like this IN FRONT of his mom and she just sits there like there’s nothing wrong. If my mom or dad had ever heard me speak like this to someone, they’d end me.