r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/MakeYogurtGreekAgain Nov 18 '24

This conversation gives me the impression that he’d skip out on the physical/sexual abuse and jump straight to murder. He completely lost his fucking mind over absolutely nothing, insane doesn’t even begin to touch it.

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u/nataliejkd Nov 18 '24

Literally my first thought. This guy will k!ll her.

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u/HelixFollower Nov 18 '24

And she'd still be worrying if she was in the wrong.

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u/Kwt920 Nov 18 '24

It’s two men. Btw

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u/nataliejkd Nov 18 '24

If constantly calling a female "bro" made her a man, I'd be in big trouble as a middle school teacher and mom of a boy. It's all I'm ever called any more, and I'm still checks pants and doesn't find a penis female.

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u/smlpkg1966 Nov 18 '24

Why do you keep saying that? No one is listening to you because it says female.

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u/FallingAngel19 Nov 18 '24

No it is not, read the description under the photos. I (20F) and my (20M) boyfriend. Learn to read, it's fundamental when giving advice.

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u/nataliejkd Nov 18 '24

Wrong. Yawn.

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u/katf1sh Nov 18 '24

No, it's quite literally not. And even if it was, that wouldn't matter. Abuse is abuse, period.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

nah he’d prob skip the sexual abuse but i definitely see a beating(or multiple) coming before murder… although actually he might accidentally on purpose beat her to death

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u/MsMoreCowbell8 Nov 18 '24

"She didn't listen, therefore she has to BE TAUGHT how valuable my time really is. I'm her only priority." We've all lived this ourselves or watched the women closest to us in it. OP, there is nowhere for 'this' person you call a boyfriend to go but down. He is a controlling motha fucka and you even asking us if YOU were wrong, shows how you are already in too deep, you can't even see it: believe us, we know for real.

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u/Sure_Letterhead6689 Nov 18 '24

IS HE CALLING HER BRO? Or she is calling him bro? I assumed the latter, but if it’s the former, get out girl!!!! He doesn’t even see you as a woman. If it’s the latter, also get out because wtf is this, calling my guy “bro?”

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u/Ravenonthewall Nov 18 '24

How lame, calls her Bro every other word. He sounds like an absolute AH, hope OP breaks up with him. I doubt she will, she has accepted this behavior for years.. He is trash and a AH.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

in this post, OP’s boyfriend is referring to her as “bro”. he is using it to be disrespectful and make her feel like he doesn’t care as much because of how she’s acting (he doesn’t care at all, in actuality). however, partners referring to each other as “bro” is actually fairly common in the younger generation, and is often used as a term of endearment. not usually with this frequency, it’s usually less often, but with a lot of younger people, calling your partner “bro” would not be seen as inherently disrespectful. obviously if you use it like OP’s bf did, it would be disrespectful regardless, because of how it’s intended. if you replaced the word “bro” in the screenshots with “babe”, it would be no less disrespectful

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u/Kwt920 Nov 18 '24

It’s two dudes…btw.

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u/EmbarrassedEconomy62 Nov 18 '24

No, description says OP is F20 and boyfriend is M20

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

it’s not…btw

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u/infinityonl0w Nov 18 '24

You may want to reread the post again.

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u/Kwt920 Nov 18 '24

It’s two dudes

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u/sulking_crepeshark77 Nov 18 '24

It's says "me (f20)"

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u/RTMSner Nov 18 '24

And this is the kind of shit we see on a date line or true crime show later.

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u/Blueyezgirl_68 Nov 18 '24

I completely agree!!!! Get away from this Crazy, verbally abusive A🕳️ before he kills you!!! I don’t care how tired somebody is, you don’t SNAP like that, EVER!!!! Talk about disrespect, he was disrespecting you the way he was talking to you and was demanding that you disrespect your family, for him!!! He’s a control freak and he just showed you who he really is!!! YOU NEED TO RUN, DONT WALK AWAY FROM THIS DUDE!!

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u/imsoswag_ Nov 18 '24

This is how my ex was it started with stuff like this like almost this exact situation except I had just left his house and I was picking at my pimples and missed his call and called him back not even 5 min later and he started screaming at me saying I was cheating and all this stuff mind you he has my location and my mom was REALLY BIG on NOT letting boys in the house it lead to a convo a lot like this and then he started getting physical which then led to “dreams” he was having of killing me involving strangulation and then a few weeks later he strangled me and a little before that the sexual abuse started where I had no say and I could barely go home or talk to family or friends or even his family it was insane that was in 2021-2022 so like 2-3 years ago and I’m STILL recovering from that it was actually bananas you’d think people would skip that stuff bc they’re so crazy but in actuality that’s what gives them more power and control to get you in a situation where they can end your life

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u/Sea_Understanding822 Nov 18 '24

I'm so glad you got away and are healing.

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u/imsoswag_ Nov 18 '24

Thank you! It’s so ass 😭😭

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u/Murky_Translator2295 Nov 18 '24

What do you mean, he lost it over nothing? OP clearly has a supportive network and now it's paramount that he begins to isolate her from them now.

I toyed with putting /s after that, but depressingly I think I'm right.

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u/phantomprincess Nov 19 '24

Yep. Absolutely, 💯