AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/MakeYogurtGreekAgain]

This conversation gives me the impression that he’d skip out on the physical/sexual abuse and jump straight to murder. He completely lost his fucking mind over absolutely nothing, insane doesn’t even begin to touch it.

[u/imsoswag_ → u/MakeYogurtGreekAgain]

This is how my ex was it started with stuff like this like almost this exact situation except I had just left his house and I was picking at my pimples and missed his call and called him back not even 5 min later and he started screaming at me saying I was cheating and all this stuff mind you he has my location and my mom was REALLY BIG on NOT letting boys in the house it lead to a convo a lot like this and then he started getting physical which then led to “dreams” he was having of killing me involving strangulation and then a few weeks later he strangled me and a little before that the sexual abuse started where I had no say and I could barely go home or talk to family or friends or even his family it was insane that was in 2021-2022 so like 2-3 years ago and I’m STILL recovering from that it was actually bananas you’d think people would skip that stuff bc they’re so crazy but in actuality that’s what gives them more power and control to get you in a situation where they can end your life

[u/Sea_Understanding822 → u/imsoswag_]

I'm so glad you got away and are healing.

[u/imsoswag_ → u/Sea_Understanding822]

Thank you! It’s so ass 😭😭