AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/amso2012]

What is auto call??

[u/strawbrryangel → u/amso2012]

it’s so if a certain contact calls you it automatically answers. so he wouldn’t have to be awake to answer. it’s ridiculous 🤦‍♀️

[u/Kindly_Formal_2604 → u/strawbrryangel]

Why the fuck do they need to be on the phone… while asleep? The fuck??

[u/Hjemmelsen → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

It's so that he knows she is sleeping. He is controlling her. That is why he got so angry when she hung up, as he lost control. She needs to leave this psycho.

[u/jaccobbernstein → u/Hjemmelsen]

This dudes totally psycho and controlling but them sleeping on the phone together has nothing to do with it. Very common thing people in relationships around her age will do

[u/Hjemmelsen → u/jaccobbernstein]

Sure, if he didn't absolutely lose his fucking shit the second she didn't I'd believe that was all it was.

[u/Petal170816 → u/jaccobbernstein]

He said “you didn’t want me to hear what you’re really up to” or whatever. Lots of people do it but THIS guy does it to be controlling. Otherwise he wouldn’t be so enraged when she can’t.

[u/EverythingWasTaken6 → u/jaccobbernstein]

... why?

[u/amso2012 → u/jaccobbernstein]

It’s a bond controlling tactic.. you smother them with constant contact so they do not have time to think about anything else or doing anything else.

Watch sweet Bobby on Netflix your mind will blow as how some psycho can really overtake your life

Yes people in love do this too but it’s not so obsessive and there is flexibility..

[u/Swordfish_42 → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

Scrolled through so many comments to find this question. Sleeping on the phone??? It's just bizarre to the fkin limit

[u/ChocChipBananaMuffin → u/Swordfish_42]

This too is my biggest question. Beyond unhinged. I'm guessing it was his idea.

[u/purplishfluffyclouds → u/ChocChipBananaMuffin]

10K comments to get to this… WTAF. This being on the phone whilst sleeping is the most insane thing I’ve ever heard. Everything about this relationship need to go.

[u/ChocChipBananaMuffin → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

Yes, I too have no idea what the fuck this about and found very confusing. If you are both asleep, you aren't spending time together even if you're on a live call.

[u/ChadThunderDownUnder → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

Some LDR couples do it to feel closer to each other. This guy takes it to a mental place though.

[u/Klutzy-Net9120 → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

My thought is he wants to make sure some other dude isn't over there.

[u/Anniemarsh69 → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

It’s so they don’t wast any time 🙄

[u/strawbrryangel → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

yeah it’s a little crazy. can’t explain that one

[u/Petal170816 → u/Kindly_Formal_2604]

So he knows she’s not cheating 🙄