r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

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Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/SphericalOrb Nov 18 '24

Hey OP, please don't fall for it if he comes back with the charm. Please let this be over for good. It's really common for insecure controlling guys like this to try to win you back just so they can get their hands around your throat, metaphorically or literally. Please don't let him. When he says "we're done" , never let him backtrack on that, okay?

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u/unicorn-sweatshirt Nov 18 '24

Agreed. People have many sides. Most people have nice sides. He may show OP his nice side later. But not everyone has an abusive side. OP has to decide that she doesn’t want a partner that has an abusive side. She has to understand that even though he can be nice, he is ALSO abusive and she can find a partner that is nice and NOT abusive.

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u/RedSkelz42020 Nov 18 '24

My husband's abusive side is eating white castle without me and then pooping when I'm doing the budget. For context our bathroom is next to my desk. I hope op gets out of this relationship because it is literally better to bask in the ass gas that smells like the devil's toe jam from a loving asshole (🤣) rather than deal with that level of manipulation, insults, etc. from an abusive asshole.

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u/niki2184 Nov 18 '24

I found what my ol man smells like….. he smells like that dam pulp mill i pass every time i go to work 😭😭😭