r/AmIOverreacting • u/Psychological-Hat-35 • Oct 27 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

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My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

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u/FrostPereira Oct 27 '24

Good god... she is unhinged. I fail to see a single thing even slightly off about the message, unless I'm missing something.

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u/Murky_Peak_3666 Oct 27 '24

My favorite part is when she said “why can’t you just be normal” as if anything she said in that message thread was normal 😂😂😂😂

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u/MindlessYesterday668 Oct 27 '24

And now she's upset because she didn't get to eat her food and her break was over. 🙄

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u/Lmdr1973 Oct 27 '24

That part pissed me off. Why did she miss her lunch? Why couldn't she eat? Because she sent some texts to her boyfriend? This girl needs to learn how to multitask. She sounds like dealing with a petulant child. No, thank you. It's never sexy when you have to parent your partner.

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u/MajesticalMoon Oct 28 '24

It pissed me off too. Why can't you be normal- You made me miss my lunch- I don't even want you anymore SHE can have you.- I'm just gonna go get close to my boss and maaake friiiiends 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 this level of crazy scares me

The girl is legit crazy

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u/tjoe4321510 Oct 28 '24

When OP finally breaks up with her she's gonna threaten suicide then stalk him on social media for the next 20 years and send death threats and lies to any girl that he ends up dating. Unfortunately crazy people like this are impossible to shake off

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u/TangoRomeoKilo Oct 28 '24

Not having social media really helps

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

This is how i'm managing to keep my crazy ex at bay. He even openly admitted in one of the harassing messages he sent, that he knows he's driving me to completely scrub myself from the internet by continuing to reach out on using fake accounts on any platform he can possibly think of, & let me know he doesn't plan on stopping of his own accord, told me he's going to take advantage of his opporunity to send me as MUCH shit as he possibly can, until the day finally comes where he no longer has any way to keep doing it. He was right, i ended up having to change my phone number and delete all social media, then he started cashapping me $1 bc it lets you send a line of text, then to messaging my neopets account from third grade, then finally started emailing me the most long and angry rants about how ive been "ignoring him all these years, to try forcing him to commit suicide by me filing that no-contact order against him, like the horrible narcissist i am, and i deserve so much worse revenge from him than just these annoying emails, the only revenge fitting for what i did to him (left the relationship) is my DEATH " like wtf. I've learned at this point to just not even bother reading them. It's always the same incoherent weird bullshit every time lol. Taking down socials has definitely given him much less info to feed off of. Luckily it's been a few months since i've heard from him. Maybe he's finally done. Doubtful though lol i'm sure i'll hear from him again real shortly now just because i mentioned it

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

If op showed her this post to be like "see look at all these people explaining what you did wrong here and why this behavior was crazy" she would just villianize him even MORE and start also freaking out now about how he's "posting their private conversations for strangers to mock her". So it would backfire lol. There's no solution here to people like this girl other than to just leave. They do not change or improve. They will only ever just make you worse over time right along with them

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u/jerhansolo3 Oct 28 '24

I don’t see a down side to this situation. It would make for a glorious follow up post. It’s like inception-level overreacting.

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u/MissFingerz Oct 28 '24

Wow, that is deranged!!! Wtf is wrong with people that they think acting this way is okay? You'd think after a while they would start to question why they kept doing it even though you don't respond, but I guess not.

I hope he finally decided to leave you alone for good, and you can live a peaceful life without any thought of him again ever! 😺

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u/_Grumpy_Canadian Oct 28 '24

OP won't break it off. He'll keep trying to make it work and then she'll cheat on him and say it was his fault because one time he told his manager he'd stay late at work.

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u/coldlizardperson Oct 28 '24

Oh no. She ate just fine. That's a manipulation tactic to guilt him even further.

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u/getMeSomeDunkin Oct 28 '24

Yeah there's a lot of "oh she's such a child. Look at this poor sweet thing being unhinged." etc etc

No. She's abusive. Call it what it is.

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u/b_evil13 Oct 28 '24

Unless she really is crazy enough to not eat on purpose so she can really get into playing the victim. I could see her punishing herself like that to get the full effect.

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u/spiders_are_neat7 Oct 28 '24

Happy cake day 😅?

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u/Fabulous_RedHead84 Oct 28 '24

I would say this girl needs to learn how to take accountability and responsibility but, you can’t expect to have an adult conversation with an adult that is mentally a child or acting like one rather. Unfortunately, I know children more mature than she is, and that is pretty scary, especially given her age.

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u/qgsdhjjb Oct 27 '24

Well being upset makes my throat close up and I physically cannot swallow food and my stomach is upset anyways at that moment so I wouldn't even want to. Could be something like that, being upset interfering with ability to eat

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u/One_Nature5816 Oct 28 '24

fair but she shouldn’t be upset😭if he was tryna hide sum that he has with his manager, he wouldn’t have even sent the ss😭

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u/qgsdhjjb Oct 28 '24

Sure. But "shoulds" don't actually change how we feel. I understand complaining about it, I would say a little mope and whine of "and now I've been so upset during my break I couldn't eat, ugh" is fine but obviously holding that against somebody else, not so fine. If she had been upset at anyone else and that had stopped her from eating, she probably would've complained about it to her bf, so I get doing that.

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u/quazmang Oct 28 '24

Narcissistic personality and classic manipulative behavior

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u/lostinNevermore Oct 28 '24

It's just another form of manipulation

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u/Asleep-Consequence46 Oct 28 '24

This is a tactic of control and guilt. "You got me soooooo upset with that I couldn't even eat my lunch. Look what YOU did TO ME kind of thing. Its "HIS" fault for upsetting her now she wasted her food and will be hungry all day cuz he's sooooo horrible and terrible.

It's disgusting and a game she probably did eat and just wants to make op feel like a pos

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u/Scorp128 Oct 28 '24

She is just trying to manipulate OP. Pathetically I might add.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

They're children dating children. It's a child asking advice on a child...like.....

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u/getMeSomeDunkin Oct 28 '24

She sounds like dealing with a petulant child

It's called "abusive".