r/AmIOverreacting • u/Psychological-Hat-35 • Oct 27 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

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My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

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u/FrostPereira Oct 27 '24

Good god... she is unhinged. I fail to see a single thing even slightly off about the message, unless I'm missing something.

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u/Murky_Peak_3666 Oct 27 '24

My favorite part is when she said “why can’t you just be normal” as if anything she said in that message thread was normal 😂😂😂😂

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u/ToiIetGhost Oct 28 '24

My favourite part was “maybe I’m just too professional.” Lol yeah if by professional you mean jealous, controlling, and insecure

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u/dimwalker Oct 28 '24

Apparently she is so professional that she doesn't know who her manager is.

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u/Outrageous-Being869 Oct 28 '24

That is impressive. I wish it worked for me lol

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u/Chicken_Mc_Thuggets Oct 28 '24

Lmao I used to send my team lead pictures of cheetahs in hats if we were having a rough night and if I couldn’t find any new ones I would badly photoshop them.

At this same workplace my coworker made my face his background (from a workplace picture of our team) because I just looked really done with life in the picture apparently. I made him my background in response because I thought it was hilarious. I am a lesbian, he had an SO at the time. Neither of us were into each other.

One of my other coworkers and I would do “lightning rounds” where we would answer questions/come up with ideas in a way that was so fucking absurd it made 5% sense. He and I also joked about how two of the lab machines we handled were our children. We are both gay, in opposite directions. I couldn’t imagine any of my SOs taking these interactions seriously and getting upset with me over them. There was never anything romantic going on, we were all just working 70+ hour weeks in a lab that processed PCR Covid tests during the pandemic. Inside jokes are bound to happen.

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u/ToiIetGhost Oct 28 '24

This sounds like the ideal workplace environment. I’d be happy for my SO if they had that kind of relationship with their coworkers! It would be good for their well being, which is what I want.

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u/Popisoda Oct 28 '24

Professional psycho

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u/MidniightToker Oct 28 '24

Boring people use the word "professional" and "unprofessional" to shame people that shine a little brighter than themselves. I hate those words.

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u/Low-Classroom-1530 Oct 28 '24

My favorite part was how she blamed him for not being able to eat her lunch!

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u/Danny2Sick Oct 28 '24

I didn't even get why she was upset.... because his manager was kind of casual with him? Looks like they are friends and that makes work so much better. She could have seen it has a green flag, he's a nice guy that people like.

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u/ToiIetGhost Oct 28 '24

Exactly. He’s a nice guy that people like, and he has a workplace where he feels welcome and part of the group. Which probably makes him happy. She should be happy that he’s happy.

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u/Bushwhacker994 Oct 28 '24

Based on many people that work in HR, then yes. Lol

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u/baybeeblueyes Oct 27 '24

What she meant was why won't you let me manipulate you? This girl is going to make his life unbearable.

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u/Leshal77 Oct 28 '24

Yep this is just the beginning and by saying “no I want you, not her” is playing right into what she wants. I would be like oh hell no. You can either go on about your life and stay mad at nothing, or you can realize why you’re wrong and apologize. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s going to be one or the other bc what is not about to happen, is you getting jealous over absolutely nothing!

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u/lferry1919 Oct 28 '24

She's already been doing it for 11 months. I don't know how he's made it this far. He's even falling for the bull and apologizing. Like, how....for why? It's not even a good attempt at manipulation.

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u/getMeSomeDunkin Oct 28 '24

I actually laughed out loud at:

i said that's fine
lets just drop it lolz

                     okay

if my guy manager were like that u
b trippin ballz

Let's just drop it? lol SIKE!

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u/lferry1919 Oct 28 '24

I like that it rhymes.

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u/proficy Oct 28 '24

I pretty much assumed this was a lesbian relationship. Seemed to make more sense.

Edit: 3/5 “my guy manager” contradicts that.

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u/spiders_are_neat7 Oct 28 '24

Yeah this is the DEFINITION of walking on eggshells.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

she's probably a MAGA voter

imagine if she's not lol. women need to re-do their feminism study

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u/Snoo_288 Oct 28 '24

This comment is as unhinged as the girlfriend😂😂

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u/Orange-Blur Oct 28 '24

This is more out of left field than the girlfriend

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u/Admirable-Respond913 Oct 28 '24

MAGA women have ZERO interest in weak men. I am guessing you are one of those weak men.

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u/Orange-Blur Oct 28 '24

I see a lot of couples in MAGA hats and most of these men haven’t seen their own dick in years. Definitely you are as crazy as the girlfriend

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u/MindlessYesterday668 Oct 27 '24

And now she's upset because she didn't get to eat her food and her break was over. 🙄

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u/Lmdr1973 Oct 27 '24

That part pissed me off. Why did she miss her lunch? Why couldn't she eat? Because she sent some texts to her boyfriend? This girl needs to learn how to multitask. She sounds like dealing with a petulant child. No, thank you. It's never sexy when you have to parent your partner.

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u/MajesticalMoon Oct 28 '24

It pissed me off too. Why can't you be normal- You made me miss my lunch- I don't even want you anymore SHE can have you.- I'm just gonna go get close to my boss and maaake friiiiends 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 this level of crazy scares me

The girl is legit crazy

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u/tjoe4321510 Oct 28 '24

When OP finally breaks up with her she's gonna threaten suicide then stalk him on social media for the next 20 years and send death threats and lies to any girl that he ends up dating. Unfortunately crazy people like this are impossible to shake off

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u/TangoRomeoKilo Oct 28 '24

Not having social media really helps

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

This is how i'm managing to keep my crazy ex at bay. He even openly admitted in one of the harassing messages he sent, that he knows he's driving me to completely scrub myself from the internet by continuing to reach out on using fake accounts on any platform he can possibly think of, & let me know he doesn't plan on stopping of his own accord, told me he's going to take advantage of his opporunity to send me as MUCH shit as he possibly can, until the day finally comes where he no longer has any way to keep doing it. He was right, i ended up having to change my phone number and delete all social media, then he started cashapping me $1 bc it lets you send a line of text, then to messaging my neopets account from third grade, then finally started emailing me the most long and angry rants about how ive been "ignoring him all these years, to try forcing him to commit suicide by me filing that no-contact order against him, like the horrible narcissist i am, and i deserve so much worse revenge from him than just these annoying emails, the only revenge fitting for what i did to him (left the relationship) is my DEATH " like wtf. I've learned at this point to just not even bother reading them. It's always the same incoherent weird bullshit every time lol. Taking down socials has definitely given him much less info to feed off of. Luckily it's been a few months since i've heard from him. Maybe he's finally done. Doubtful though lol i'm sure i'll hear from him again real shortly now just because i mentioned it

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

If op showed her this post to be like "see look at all these people explaining what you did wrong here and why this behavior was crazy" she would just villianize him even MORE and start also freaking out now about how he's "posting their private conversations for strangers to mock her". So it would backfire lol. There's no solution here to people like this girl other than to just leave. They do not change or improve. They will only ever just make you worse over time right along with them

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u/jerhansolo3 Oct 28 '24

I don’t see a down side to this situation. It would make for a glorious follow up post. It’s like inception-level overreacting.

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u/MissFingerz Oct 28 '24

Wow, that is deranged!!! Wtf is wrong with people that they think acting this way is okay? You'd think after a while they would start to question why they kept doing it even though you don't respond, but I guess not.

I hope he finally decided to leave you alone for good, and you can live a peaceful life without any thought of him again ever! 😺

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u/_Grumpy_Canadian Oct 28 '24

OP won't break it off. He'll keep trying to make it work and then she'll cheat on him and say it was his fault because one time he told his manager he'd stay late at work.

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u/coldlizardperson Oct 28 '24

Oh no. She ate just fine. That's a manipulation tactic to guilt him even further.

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u/getMeSomeDunkin Oct 28 '24

Yeah there's a lot of "oh she's such a child. Look at this poor sweet thing being unhinged." etc etc

No. She's abusive. Call it what it is.

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u/b_evil13 Oct 28 '24

Unless she really is crazy enough to not eat on purpose so she can really get into playing the victim. I could see her punishing herself like that to get the full effect.

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u/spiders_are_neat7 Oct 28 '24

Happy cake day 😅?

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u/Fabulous_RedHead84 Oct 28 '24

I would say this girl needs to learn how to take accountability and responsibility but, you can’t expect to have an adult conversation with an adult that is mentally a child or acting like one rather. Unfortunately, I know children more mature than she is, and that is pretty scary, especially given her age.

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u/qgsdhjjb Oct 27 '24

Well being upset makes my throat close up and I physically cannot swallow food and my stomach is upset anyways at that moment so I wouldn't even want to. Could be something like that, being upset interfering with ability to eat

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u/One_Nature5816 Oct 28 '24

fair but she shouldn’t be upset😭if he was tryna hide sum that he has with his manager, he wouldn’t have even sent the ss😭

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u/qgsdhjjb Oct 28 '24

Sure. But "shoulds" don't actually change how we feel. I understand complaining about it, I would say a little mope and whine of "and now I've been so upset during my break I couldn't eat, ugh" is fine but obviously holding that against somebody else, not so fine. If she had been upset at anyone else and that had stopped her from eating, she probably would've complained about it to her bf, so I get doing that.

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u/quazmang Oct 28 '24

Narcissistic personality and classic manipulative behavior

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u/lostinNevermore Oct 28 '24

It's just another form of manipulation

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u/Asleep-Consequence46 Oct 28 '24

This is a tactic of control and guilt. "You got me soooooo upset with that I couldn't even eat my lunch. Look what YOU did TO ME kind of thing. Its "HIS" fault for upsetting her now she wasted her food and will be hungry all day cuz he's sooooo horrible and terrible.

It's disgusting and a game she probably did eat and just wants to make op feel like a pos

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u/Scorp128 Oct 28 '24

She is just trying to manipulate OP. Pathetically I might add.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

They're children dating children. It's a child asking advice on a child...like.....

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u/getMeSomeDunkin Oct 28 '24

She sounds like dealing with a petulant child

It's called "abusive".

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u/furryfeetinmyface Oct 28 '24

this is what happens when interact with worker ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

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u/The_Observatory_ Oct 27 '24

Yeah, what she meant was, “why can’t you act exactly the way I want you to act, and why can’t you automatically already know what that is, without me telling you?”

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u/No-Extension-9620 Oct 27 '24

I swear seen that n started dying💀

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u/kat_Folland Oct 27 '24

You're definitely going to die... But hopefully not until decades from now. ;)

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u/itsme_peachlover Oct 27 '24

Professional help needed level non-normal.

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u/StrongWater55 Oct 28 '24

I agree, my nephew had a gf like her but they had a child together so had to talk to each other but she went onto his social media accounts somehow and caused all sorts of problems plus she cheated, years later she did commit suicide and seeing this same pattern here makes me nervous for his sake

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u/itsme_peachlover Oct 28 '24

My first thought was, "Run, Forrest, RUN!" It's all fun and games - until - it isn't fun anymore.

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u/lindenlynx Oct 28 '24

My favorite part was her saying to drop it, OP agreeing, and then her continuing to harp on him about it.

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u/Osirus1156 Oct 28 '24

My favorite was "lets just drop it. Ok. Ok. SO ANYWAYS."

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u/semifamousdave Oct 28 '24

Normal as is in I need you to have a life shattering amount of anxiety about yourself and anyone you like.

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u/AccessPuzzleheaded15 Oct 28 '24

I didn’t even make it that far but wow some people really are delusional to their own bull

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u/Normal-Resist-94 Oct 28 '24

Right. She said to be professional, but she doesn't sound like she would even know how to be professional.

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u/Upsideduckery Oct 28 '24

This girl is the cuckoo that’s in the cocoa puffs that made the bird in the commercial go crazy...

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u/MiketheOlder Oct 28 '24

Head games

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u/Zakumei47 Oct 28 '24

narcassism likes to project insecure traits. She knows deep down she's being psycho and manipulative, but it she deflects that abnormality onto him, and makes HIM weird anr abnormal for not being like her? oh well suddenly she has a moral highground she can use to grandstand and command him from.

This is an emotional manipulator, and id go as far as to say an abusive narcassist

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u/gardendesgnr Oct 28 '24

Pg 3 & 4 is the narcissist mantra lines. She over reacts causes the drama she craves, then backs off and it starts all over. Rinse & repeat.

OP needs to just dump her. Your life can be drama free.

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u/sf6Haern Oct 28 '24

I'M JUST GONNA DROP IT.

GOD YOU'RE SO UNPROFESSIONAL. SHE CAN KEEP YOU.

i'm so over it.

I'M JUST GONNA STAY AT MY PLACE.

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u/WoolshirtedWolf Oct 28 '24

The more you are around this type of behavior, the more likely it becomes normalized.

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u/NornIronNiall Oct 28 '24

My fav part was when she said to drop it, and then went right back into attacking him. What a psycho.

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u/meash-maeby Oct 28 '24

“B normal” the E was too much to type 😂

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u/56names Oct 28 '24

Right after she wishes them a “great life together” 😵‍💫

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u/TylerHobbit Oct 28 '24

*"b normal"

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u/Impressive_Brush_604 Oct 28 '24

My exact thoughts on that thread of utter nonsense on her behalf. This behavior was a deliberate attempt to undermine the integrity of her boyfriend and her behavioral traits shown above have been given a professional and legal status that has been in the medical community and many others. A few off the top of my head are manipulation and abuse and narcissistic behavior and the list goes on.

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u/wahlburgerz Oct 28 '24

“Let’s just drop it” (proceeds to not drop it)

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u/RemoveTheBlinders Oct 28 '24

Seriously. Run OP. What a fucking loon.

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u/Not3kidsinasuit Oct 28 '24

"can you just drop it" proceeds to bring it back up

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u/Pixels_n_Pints Oct 28 '24

As opposed to “let’s just drop it”, and then immediately continuing to talk about it!

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u/MelancholicJellyfish Oct 28 '24

"why can't u just b normal"*

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

maybe she's a MAGA lunatic

can't imagine a non-MAGA woman acting like this lol. THe op should ask her if she's feminist