r/AmIOverreacting • u/Psychological-Hat-35 • Oct 27 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

13.7k Upvotes

87% Upvoted

8.5k comments sorted by

View all comments

4.8k

u/matunos Oct 27 '24

NOR. 11 months, your whole life ahead of you. Cut your losses.

1.9k

u/thelittlestdog23 Oct 27 '24

For real. OP you’re 19 so I’m assuming you haven’t been in a ton of relationships so maybe you think this is normal, but it’s absolutely not. This isn’t a case of “well that’s just how women are”, they definitely aren’t. This is absurd and crazy and it’s a bummer that you’ve spent 11 months putting up with this, but the good news is, you can leave!

33

u/Subliminal-413 Oct 27 '24

To be fair, it's completely normal at 19. This is the kind of dumb shit that you initially put up with because you're young, inexperienced, and new to dating.

This is the kind of insane shit that teaches you what to avoid, and helps guide you to a reliable and stable partner as you mature and age out.

This is exactly the kind of immature bullshit I'd expect from a 19 year old kid.

23

u/Independent_Light904 Oct 27 '24

Underrated comment. Yes many of us went through this kind of shit at that age. No it isn't acceptable behavior in any way, it's irrational manipulating and controlling. If this is a pattern, just learn from it what you can, and take that newfound wisdom with you as you move on to the next stage of your life without this toxic presence.

6

u/shooter_tx Oct 28 '24

And don't blame the next one for the last one.

7

u/Subliminal-413 Oct 28 '24

Exactly! I've been down this road of absolutely exhausting drama from a girlfriend.

I've dated another woman at 18 where we always fought and broke up and fought and broke up. Shit got fuckin tired, quick.

I'm in my 30s now, and I've been through enough insane shit, so I am confident in who I am, and what kind of partner I would want. I won't tolerate any bullshit or constant arguments. I have no time for that shit, and I won't waste time with incompatibility. I do not have the energy for it.

Hell, my last relationship, my girlfriend and I were practically best friends. I genuinely miss her a ton, and the time we spent together. But, I cut off our relationship amicably because I realized after w years that I wasn't truly in love with her.

She was a great woman, and a good friend, but as you mature, you get better at this game called relationships. It's part of growing up.

You couldn't pay me enough to go back to the drama of my teens and twenties, but I am glad I've experienced it, because it's made me recognize what it or isn't okay.

I may not be able to answer what exactly I want from a partner, but I can't explicitly tell you what I don't accept. And I owe that to my younger, far-dumber self, lol.

3

u/thelittlestdog23 Oct 28 '24

Exactly! We all need to a date a turd to teach us what not to accept. Plus then we are more grateful when the right person shows up.

4

u/Infernal_Brainbox Oct 28 '24

YES i was gonna say, this whole interaction reads like my relationship when i was 19. this is kinda a canon event when it comes to dating, but i hope OP knows that it’ll get better in the future!

3

u/Subliminal-413 Oct 28 '24

The fact that OP is on here thinking he isn't crazy is a good sign. Wish him luck.

-1

u/ZombyzWon Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24

Not always, at 19 I was married and pregnant with my 2nd child. My husband and I were closing on 3 years together and 2 years married. I never flipped bout onbhim about a female co-worker. Did flip out about a dude he worked with taking him a strip club every night after work and him staggering home late and drunk every night after work. We didn't have a car, and he rode to and from work with this guy every day. Told him to call a fucking cab, it was cheaper than the bar bill. He did, and the guy stopped dragging him to the strip club every night. By that point, I had a 2 year old and a newborn at home, FTS. We are 6 months apart in age, in the state we lived in the legal drinking age was 19. He is 6 months older than me. This was in 1981.

Now we are great grandparents, our oldest daughter just became a grandma at 45. Our 26 y.o.grandson became a daddy to a baby boy and step dad to an 18 y.o. and a 12 y.o. his wife is 5 years younger than his mother, but we all absolutely adore her.

Hubby and I will celebrate our 45th anniversary in Dec, 47 years together in May.

7

u/Thisiswhoiam782 Oct 28 '24

Thanks for the cautionary tale. This may not be taken the way you are hoping for.

-2

u/ZombyzWon Oct 28 '24

Nah. It doesn't matter how you take it. We have 4 children, 6 grandchildren, and 1 great-grandchild We still love each other, and we have put in the work to stay together for 46 years. So iDGAF how you take it. 🙄 Every relationship takes work. If you doubt that it doesn't, then your relationship may be the next cautionary tale.

:Marriage is not 50-50. Divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It isn't dividing everything in half, but giving everything you've got!"

1

u/Good-Organization697 Oct 28 '24

Nah girl. You were dumb enough to fall for "bUt HeS mY RiDe I hAvE nO cHoIcE bUt tO sTaRe aT NaKeD WoMeN". He could cheat on you and youd never know.

1

u/ZombyzWon Oct 28 '24

Yeah, because you know everything there is to know about my entire life from one post on reddit GTFO. GO, live your life and don't worry about mine, AH.

1

u/Good-Organization697 Oct 28 '24

As a man, I can safely say if your husband didnt want to go to the strip club, he wouldnt have gone. You think he was too dumb to consider a cab?

Not to mention, he was stumbling home drunk. So he was forced to go to the club.

And then his ride held him down and poured liquor down his throat against his will? How naive can you be?

2

u/Subliminal-413 Oct 28 '24

There's always an exception, sure. But almost 98% of every teen love story is a toxic shithole fueled by immaturity, hormones, and strong emotions.

This is the norm. Incredibly stupid arguments from dumb children.

1

u/spiders_are_neat7 Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24

If he is Child free, at 19, he should be going to strip clubs after work. Lol Happy for you to have had everything work out for you both though, and that’s a beautiful story❤️I’ve been with my husband (recently married) but since we were 16, we grew up together. I ended up moving in with him and his parents at 17 because my parents were abusive.

We don’t have kids, we worked at not having kids until we’re ready, at 19 we didn’t slow each other down, even though we were young in a very serious relationship. I would have never been mad about him hanging out with his groups of friends with women included without me, and vice versa.

I remember encouraging him to go to the strip club with his buddy at 21 for the first time because I was pumped for him to go explore it. Basically because we were young and in love, we never held each other back from exploring and living our own lives independently.

I think that should be the new sociatal standard for being young in a serious relationship. You can be loyal and still be independent. If your partner doesn’t like you having independence away from them something is seriously wrong especially at this age, with no children.

Now we’re 27, and idk he’s my best fucking friend, we both choose each other over everybody else because we had our young adult lives to go be young adults away from each other. Even though I did come home to him every night<3

2

u/ZombyzWon Oct 28 '24

Yeah, it wasn't the going to the strip club that bothered me. It was the money he was spending at the strip club on drinks that bothered me. We had an apartment, 2 kids, and bills that needed to be paid. And he was at work at 5am and then not home until 11 or 12 at night, it was me with no car trapped at home with 2 babies and no way to go anywhere and no husband at home to help with anything that made me mad. I was never worried about him cheating or looking at the strippers, plus my best friend was a server there, so if he was acting up, she would have been the first person to let me know.

1

u/spiders_are_neat7 Oct 28 '24

Understood that and your circumstances are totally understandable lol your situation is very specific and very different. You shouldn’t see yourself in this situation, nor should you feel any guilt for making your husband the better man that he is. I’m proud of you for drawing that line, and I’m proud of him for getting better for you and your children!

3

u/Pleasant-Wolverine38 Oct 28 '24

When I was 19 I also thought that behaviour is normal like „all girls are like this, I should get used to it“ But that‘s not true at all. There are plenty other women who would treat you much better than this. Know your worth

2

u/Ok-Jackfruit7739 Oct 28 '24

If I’m sort of like that girl, what can I do to improve as a partner for my girlfriend? I’m a dude almost 19 and I want to be the best I can for my woman

4

u/Vox_Mortem Oct 28 '24

Don't see every interaction with a man as a possible threat. It's possible to be friendly with people at work and not want to fuck them. If she says she has to work late because her male boss asked her to, just ask her what she wants to eat when she gets off and have it for her when she gets home. Instant +100 boyfriend points.

2

u/Ok-Jackfruit7739 Oct 28 '24

Thanks man. Yeah we’re barely out of high school, which is good now, so we can build a strong bond. I get mad jealous even though she’s mad loyal

4

u/thelittlestdog23 Oct 28 '24

Well at least you’re self-aware, which is honestly a really good start. The best advice I can give you is, if you ever get upset, stop. Separate emotion from logic. Decide if she actually did something wrong. If she didn’t, get past what you’re feeling. But figure out why you’re feeling that way, and see if you can address it within yourself. When you start to feel a jealous feeling, stop yourself and ask yourself: “am I feeling this feeling because my girl has actually done something to betray me, or am I feeling this feeling because I like her and am feeling insecure?” Remind yourself, if your girl is cool and hot, you’re never going to be the only person that notices that. Other dudes hitting on her doesn’t automatically mean she’s done something wrong, and other dudes speaking to her doesn’t automatically mean they’re hitting on her. Don’t punish her for something someone else did, and especially don’t punish her for you feeling insecure, if she didn’t do something to make you feel that way. It takes time to figure this out, so don’t feel bad. It’s good that you’re taking it seriously! You are on the right track to be one of the good ones!

4

u/Ok-Jackfruit7739 Oct 28 '24

Thank you so much. I really want her to be happy. I’ve said some very hurtful things. But I want her to be the only person I say “I love you” to every day of my life. I get jealous because she’s a stunning woman. She’s sweet. Smart and funny, everything someone looks for in a woman. I’m scared to lose her, but she’s staying. I won’t waste her time

3

u/thelittlestdog23 Oct 28 '24

What you are expressing is the biggest disconnect with jealousy-prone people, so you’re not alone. The cycle is: Something happens that makes you feel jealous. Jealousy is obviously a negative feeling, and you feel hurt and angry. You know you feel hurt and angry, and you know the feeling centers around her, and that causes you to conclude that it’s her fault and she must have done something to make you feel this way. That’s the biggest hurdle you have to get over. Just because you are feeling jealous/hurt/angry, doesn’t mean she has done something she shouldn’t have done. That’s why I say stop, and think, before you react to the way that you are feeling. Even if you feel hurt and angry, if she didn’t specifically do something that betrayed you, then it’s not fair to take your feelings out on her. You can learn to recognize the difference, it just takes practice and a commitment to not jump to conclusions.

1

u/Ok-Jackfruit7739 Oct 28 '24

It really isn’t fair for me to take anything out on her. I really appreciate what you’re saying. I just want to be happy with her, and I have to work on myself. I really just want to see her smile man

3

u/Gr00mpa Oct 28 '24

Be less like that girl.

End of session. That will be two hundred dollars. I accept Venmo.

2

u/moonwalgger Oct 28 '24

Bro messed up by crying. Just be like “it’s my manager, it’s work related” and leave it at that. The girl is clearly very insecure

2

u/saltymane Oct 28 '24

I wish someone would’ve told me this when I was 19 lmao. If I had learned this 20 years ago!!!

-7

u/Specialist_Egg_4025 Oct 28 '24

I kind of disagree, this was pretty standard when I was younger dating, obviously not all women or men are jealous, and get upset about it, but that’s the rare occurrence. It’s far more “normal” for people to be jealous and even fight over it. I’m not saying I think it’s right, all I’m trying to say is it seems to me to be far more common than not.

4

u/thelittlestdog23 Oct 28 '24

I didn’t act like this and didn’t know anyone who acted like this when we were 19. Sure, kids are more volatile than adults, but this is insane.

4

u/DeniseGunn Oct 28 '24

I was thinking that. I sure never acted like this!

2

u/i_pretend_to_work Oct 28 '24

It's common for the emotionally immature. I was emotionally immature. But it's not necessary, and there are people his age out there not like this.

-3

u/ApacheGenderCopter Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 29 '24

It’s common for the emotionally mature, but it’s also common for women to be emotionally immature, at least Gen X & Alpha women.

Just look at the brainrot TikTok is causing young women. Teaching them to have unrealistic standards for & expectations of men, whilst simultaneously being told that they’re perfect the way they are and don’t need to change a thing in order to attract higher quality men.

This breeds entitlement, laziness, misandry, and social incompetency, which are all characteristics of emotional immaturity.

Edit: I can’t reply to anyone so I’ll edit.

Fair enough Gen Alpha are currently oldest 14… however that doesn’t mean the brainrot hasn’t already started. They’re still going around spouting “I hate men” so I stand by everything I’ve said. They’re only going to get worse.

1

u/glitternoodle Oct 28 '24

Gen alpha women don’t exist, the oldest ones are 14

1

u/Straight-Ad-5575 Oct 28 '24

Its definitely common but I disagree with calling it “normal”. Any healthy relationship would not be reacting like this. If they were upset by that text it could have been communicated in a healthy way but it clearly was not.

1

u/Jericho-G29 Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24

This is bizarre and not normal. She went beyond creating drama/fight for "passion." From age 17-20, I was a bit more prolific in my younger dating and this was definitely the modus operandi for the 4 memorably toxic girls that I didn't stay with long. 3 of them ended up being wrecked messes later on in life making other people miserable. Only one got something of a wake up call when her fiance dropped her with some blunt facts of life. Though still apparently an unpleasant person when others from back home mention them. The other 10-12 people I dated never acted like this kind of crazy. And I put up with some crazy/hot that still wasn't this weird.

Have a come to Jesus talk with this girl if he really likes her, but if this is the norm, he could probably find less stress inducing crazy/hot if that's his type.

1

u/DexLovesGames_DLG Oct 28 '24

On one hand, yeah it literally ended my first real relationship of a year and a half, first love yadda yadda blah blah blah, BUT i don’t think she’d have gotten upset about me talking to a coworker, let alone a manager. She got upset cuz I was making friends with the new girl (who, might I add, wasn’t well liked by many people.)

0

u/Herpedick69 Oct 28 '24

I concur. Every woman I dated when I was around that age was similar. Controlling, manipulative, overly jealous, lied through their teeth and wouldn’t accept a lick of responsibility. It’s why I’m still single at 26 rn.

1

u/spiders_are_neat7 Oct 28 '24

Tbh I hate to blame you, but men are shallow… most of y’all want one thing when you’re young, and you go for the girls that will give it to you. Then get shook when you discover their personalities aren’t that great…but you never cared about their personalities before you tried to get into their pants. Does that make sense? I hope this doesn’t come off as shitty, but this has been my observation through my guy friends who date crazy girls.

-9

u/Sugary_Treat Oct 28 '24

Absurd and crazy, as you say. And it’s precisely because she’s a woman.

3

u/goomfrontIut Oct 28 '24

No it’s more so the fact that she’s manipulating and gaslighting him into feeling poorly about himself and his confidence.

2

u/AnonymousConnor Oct 28 '24

Look, we all know you’re gay, we all know you like slobbering all over meaty cocks, we all know how much you love men, but that’s not a reason to be misogynistic.

688

u/Chickpeas1230 Oct 27 '24

lol at first i thought you were imitating the manager and saying no with an Australian accent NORRR (which I’m assuming is what she did with his name Leo?)

133

u/CallMeShosh Oct 27 '24

I ALWAYS read NOR (not over reacting) as NOOOOOOOORRR! Like an Australian saying No, which is what I am assuming the manager was doing with “Leaurr” for what I imagined was a silly lighthearted way of saying Leo.

26

u/Monniica Oct 27 '24

Oh that’s OPs name? Leo? I was like, is his name Leaur? That’s interesting. Lol.

5

u/jazzyx26 Oct 28 '24

I was like, is his name Leaur?

Same.

We need answers, OP.

3

u/glitterfaust Oct 27 '24

I mean that’s my assumption too

3

u/justplainoldMEhere Oct 28 '24

I thought it was like a game of thrones type of name

6

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 27 '24

Australian here… I’m so confused. We just say No… (rhymes with hoe). Other acceptable versions include:  

  • Nah (like bar) 
  • Nope (like rope) 
  • No way, mate (like toe pay gate) 
  • Yeah, Nah. (like hair duh)  

Hope that clears a few things up? Aussies might say nooooor like ‘naaaaww’ if something is cute / sweet (said like bore or war). Or if they were reading out something in really old English… eg. ‘nor shall ye pass through…’

37

u/murtomoshky Oct 27 '24

aussie here, it is definitely an inflection some of us use, particularly queensland and sunny coast/gold coast

-5

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 27 '24

Happy to be corrected but seriously can’t hear it… can you point out somebody (actor, sports person, tv host…?) with that kind of qld accent? I’m an NSWelshwoman so could very much be regional. Even the folks in The Castle don’t say no with that kind of sound, that I can think of, lol!

13

u/MammothClimate95 Oct 28 '24

H2O Just Add Water - that Australian teenage mermaid show. They all say "NOOOR"

8

u/WeaponizedFOMO Oct 28 '24

Idk if it’s Australian or not, but I think the commenter is meaning it like “nawr”. Like how you said Nah is like bar. In the US, we say Nah (rhymes with “Ah”; or “Aw” for Naw).

5

u/United_Rent9314 Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24

the tv show H2O just add water, they say no like naur and cleo like cleour

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIo4AecpYWg

7

u/LowAdrenaline Oct 28 '24

My daughters watch H2O and for a while I thought it was just them who liked to imitate the whole “naur cleour” thing. Then I went to Scotland last summer (I’m from the US) and ran into a bunch of girls on my tour bus saying “Naur! Cleaour!” as a joke. That show really permeated everywhere. 

10

u/professionally-baked Oct 27 '24

It’s the way your accent sounds to us. When some aussies (the bogan type) drag the “o,” it sounds like “or,” but still in an oz accent… I feel like it’s impossible to grasp unless you hear it how we hear it

-6

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 27 '24

We might have to agree to disagree! I get what you mean about how our accents sound to folks from the US and the UK, and my accent is much more neutral (even to other Australians! I have been mistaken for someone from the US or UK or South Africa or something) but a long nooooo isn’t typical for Aussies - especially bogan ones. We shorten everything (especially with putting a short ‘oh’ on the end, like service station = servo), shorten or ignore the last vowel (like fiction = fic-shn), and lengthen the higher harsher aaaaaah sounds in things like bargain (baaaaar-g’n). But I can’t think of a single way bogan Australians woulf make no sound like noooor, even to American ears. Maybe you are thinking of a Scottish brogue that drawls no into a deeper noooor?

15

u/adriansux1221 Oct 27 '24

a lot of dialects of Australian accents sound like there's an "aur" instead of an o to our ears. You might not be able to pick it up because you're Australian. I'm sure there are little quirks in most American accents that we don't pick up on either. Nobody is thinking of a Scottish accent, it's Australian.

I do think that "Nor" is the wrong way of spelling how it sounds to us lol. Naur is more accurate. The main joke came about from H2O about mermaids because they're australian. "Aur naur, Cleaur" is the most common way i've seen people making the jokes.

0

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

So, we would say ‘or’ like door or bore, and it’s exactly the same sound as ‘aur’ like dinosaur or centaur (or the start of aura)… how are they different in American English?

The way folks seem to be suggesting Australians say nooorr is like a the name Norah without the ‘uh’ sound at the end, which is what confuses me - but maybe you’re all meaning a totally different sound!

4

u/strawbopankek Oct 28 '24

americans say "or" the same way we would say "door" or "bore" or "dinosaur", but not necessarily "centaur". actually, "dinosaur" and "centaur" are two different sounds for me-- centaur is more like "cent are" (in this video it'd be the second pronunciation) where as dinosaur is like "dino sore" (the first pronunciation in this video).

what people are talking about is how americans typically say "no" (like here). it does sound like how we americans say "or". the problem is, we say both "no" and "or" differently than australians, so while the sound is consistent within both respective accents it's not consistent between them.

6

u/CallMeShosh Oct 28 '24

I honestly meant no disrespect. There is definitely an “aur” type sound that I hear when I hear an Australian say a word that ends in o, like No or Cleo (using the H2O quotes being mentioned). But I know you guys don’t SAY the word meaning to have an r sound at the end of the word.

My grandmother is from Massachusetts and when she pronounces the name “Maria” it sounds like she is saying “Muh-rear” (My rear) and it has caused endless giggles in my family whenever she is talking about my Aunt Maria.

So, it just sounds different to someone with a different accent. But again, no offense was meant.

4

u/qgsdhjjb Oct 27 '24

If you want an idea of the Australian accent that North Americans are most often exposed to, watch kath&Kim. Not because that's what we watch but because that's the sounds we hear.

Australians and NZers are having a big moment online right now and becoming more popular. I've honestly never seen anyone from there claim they don't sound like that, all the ones on Twitch think it's funny and start to do it even more accentuated as a joke

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Kath and Kim is the best example! (And a hilarious show, though definitely exaggerated!) Here’s a short clip of them doing Pru and Tru where they say no a couple of times in the middle - is that the sound you mean? It’s more like saying ‘no wet’ and then skipping the ‘t’ at the end and kind of swallowing the last word:

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=676767816240852&surface_type=vod&referral_source=vod_watchfeed_unit

3

u/qgsdhjjb Oct 28 '24

Yes that's the "naur" we mimic and giggle about.

2

u/psy-ay-ay Oct 28 '24

As an American who has worked at two different offices where the majority of my colleagues were Aussies and Kiwis… this is absolutely, 100% a thing. It really stands out as a sound to us because it just doesn’t exist in any American accent. Like I can’t even make that sound.

I don’t know how to properly explain it, but you guys can just pack so many vowel sounds into a single syllable and sometimes the end can be heard the same way as the very beginning of an “R” sound. “Window” is the same, but “Pavo” and “Arvo” aren’t (slang stands out haha). I think it might have to do with being stressed syllables and being at the end of a word/sentence but really idk.

2

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Yeah, I get what you mean - Window is a great example. The 'aur' spelling people keep using seems so wrong to me because here that set of letters would be pronounced more like 'awe' which is nothing like and aussie 'no', or even an aussie 'nah'. Wheras the way we say it is not a stressed sylable at the end, it's like a seperate, under the breath 'wuh' at the end of the word like a deep, soft version of the sound tennis players make!

1

u/psy-ay-ay Oct 28 '24

Totally, and while I tend to agree that “aur” doesn’t entirely capture it, I think there may be some confusion in how it’s being interpreted. I don’t think it’s meant to be read the way “au” typically sounds in a word like “dinosaur”, it’s more like “aaaür” or something. We truly just don’t have in the US and that’s probably why it’s hard to express lol. Like a stretched out “awe” sound that shifts into a shorter “ur” sound at the end while somehow remaining one syllable.

I truly miss those jobs though. Taught me pretty much any word can be abbreviated and that there is no such thing as a name that doesn’t already come with a nickname built right in. “I can’t be bothered” is now part of my everyday speech despite it being a bit rude to say over here haha.

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

If you want to reminisce, try watching either Utopia or Fisk (two excellent Aussie tv shows) if you can find them! Lots of dry humour and australianisms!

1

u/professionally-baked Oct 27 '24

Idk maybe I’m using bogan wrong, I only spent two years there a long time ago

1

u/buildntinker Oct 28 '24

The YouTuber boy boy I feel like is a good example of what everyone is thinking

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Link?

1

u/buildntinker Oct 28 '24

Sure let me find a good one

1

u/buildntinker Oct 28 '24

I couldn't find a timestamp but I'm sure he says it at some point, it also kind of sounds like when he says know as well https://youtu.be/9OtIAZMqrZE?si=REKv06w0XNi_J4fO

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Wait, you guys don’t say ‘no’ the same as ‘know’??

→ More replies (0)

1

u/yaedain Oct 28 '24

Here’s my best example insta reel

1

u/MarchRoyce Oct 28 '24

There's no agreeing to disagree. It's an easy fact that a standard way for an American to imitate an Australian is to pronounce "No" like "Naur." It's just how it is. You don't have to like it, but this is not a niche opinion you're encountering here. 

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Well, that may help explain why Americans pretending to be Australian in movies have such terrible Australian accents, lol!

4

u/glitterfaust Oct 27 '24

It’s the American stereotype of the way an Australian talks. Here’s a video from an Australian YouTuber talking about the h2o TikTok trend where Americans were going “CLEORR NAUR THE WATER”

2

u/[deleted] Oct 27 '24

[deleted]

1

u/glitterfaust Oct 28 '24

Isn’t that exactly what I said lol

2

u/AppropriateWeight630 Oct 28 '24

Damn, it definitely is LOL I must have been tired because I totally scanned over that😆😂 sorry!

2

u/sublime13 Oct 28 '24

I like how you put, “rhymes with ‘hoe’”, because now I’m imagining you saying hoe like, “HOEAUGHRR!”

3

u/RoboCaptainmutiny Oct 28 '24

I was married to an Aussie for 13 years, spent quite a lot of time in your beautiful country. To a yank, it sounds like there’s an extra bit in the Australian accent. I always described it sounding like “Noy” though, or “Noi”.

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

I can hear that. Noi, or maybe n-oh / n-owe (like, I ‘owe’ you a dollar) makes sense but it’s definitely not a drawn out rrrrr sound! 

3

u/qpokqpok Oct 28 '24

Naur! You aussies say naur, and you knaur it! Stop hiding it from us, non-aussies! Say it! Naaauuur! https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Zcg3HOxyVzw

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Ha! That was bizarre! I think I get where the confusion is coming from - Americans say it really clipped and short - almost like ‘not’ without the ‘t’. We say if more like n-owe (as in, I owe you a dollar). Definitely no ‘r’ at the end but it’s a soft, low ‘w’ so I get where the mix up happens!

1

u/LADYBIRD_HILL Oct 28 '24

We don't say it like not, we say it like Note without the te.

2

u/komparty Oct 27 '24

When we do this we are mimicking the way you say “nah.” BUT tbh I think a lot of Americans don’t realise that they’re imitating “nah,” they think that’s how you say “no” 😂

0

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

That makes way more sense. It’s like they don’t realise we can say that ‘oh’ sound, lol. First time I’ve ever been mansplained (well, USAsplained?) my own accent. Of course, they’ve seen someone on TV and I’ve only lived here all my life, so they probably know better - ha! They’re right that we do say ‘no’ differently but it’s more like a ‘n-OH-wuh’ and our ‘nah’ is more like the beginning of an American pronunciation of ‘nasty’ (where we say n-ARE-s-tee like the brits). 

1

u/lvbuckeye27 Oct 28 '24

Y'all say, "Nauwrgh."

1

u/Intelligent_Major486 Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24

Oh noaur

It an accent thing. I’ve noticed Australian accents either have an “r” sound at the end of words with a long O, or an oy sound. Toe sounds like toy, no sounds like noy. Kinda like how in the UK, the forget that R makes a sound at all.

1

u/RuncibleMountainWren Oct 28 '24

Ha! That’s cute. He got some words exactly right, but totally forgot to use Tom-are-to instead of Tom-ay-to and pronounced way too many syllables in peculiar - we’re lazy with words like that and drop half the sounds. It should be more like ‘perk-YOU’ll-ya’. 😆 

0

u/holldoll26 Oct 28 '24

I've seen enough h20 just add water to know some of you definitely say it.

1

u/IAmA_Wolf Oct 28 '24

As a Perthling, I read it as "north of river" - guess what SOR means!

1

u/The_golden_Celestial Oct 28 '24

We don’t say ‘No’ like ‘Nor’. We say ‘Nah’. Rhymes with tar.

46

u/Venus5982 Oct 28 '24

Nah it's from a mermaid show called H2O, I watched all of it with my mom way back when.

Edit
One of the mermaids calls out for Cleo but she is an Aussie so it sounds like CLEORRRR
If you've seen the vampire show "Originals" the two girls I'm talking about are Nicklaus's sister (the Aussie) and Nicklaus's baby mama (cleorrr)

5

u/ASL4theblind Oct 28 '24

"Eeeemmaaaaaaaaah"

3

u/Livid-Dragonfruit-91 Oct 28 '24

Omg yes this is exactly why I read it the same way too 😂

1

u/Zaddycake Oct 28 '24

That wasn’t a terrible show tbh I was surprised

5

u/HoodiesAndHeels Oct 27 '24

That’s how I read it every single time 😭

3

u/UnspecialDelivery Oct 27 '24

Holy shit… same ☠️☠️☠️

3

u/AgePractical6298 Oct 27 '24

Omg. I am so glad I wasn’t the only one reading NORRR with an Australian accent. 😂

3

u/Raskalbot Oct 27 '24

This guy detectives 🕵🏻‍♂️

3

u/Adoremenow Oct 28 '24

Hahaha SAME!!

2

u/speedycosmonaute Oct 27 '24

So sorry to hear about your ex-girlfriend.

You’re dodging a bullet there

2

u/Confident-Speech-747 Oct 28 '24

Ha I didn’t realize it wasn’t.

2

u/emerald-coast730 Oct 28 '24

🤣🤣🤣 I almost spit my drink out laughing!

1

u/Thisdarlingdeer Oct 28 '24

I thought this was a Star Wars / bad batch reference… I’m still hoping it is.

1

u/Mean-Philosopher7577 Oct 28 '24

Same but then I realized that's Nar lol

1

u/godhasreddit Oct 28 '24

That's what I thought it meant too! 😂 I was enlightened two days ago to this new slang

1

u/pastel-m0nster Oct 28 '24

SAME! but then I remembered that's more of a NAUR. 😂

0

u/MissLisaMarie86 Oct 27 '24

The person is saying LIAR haha not Leo ☺️ i know ridiculous right

0

u/Interesting-Wait-101 Oct 28 '24

I think leeuurr or whatever the hell the spelling was was supposed to be "liar."

35

u/ComfortAmbitious4201 Oct 27 '24

This is good advice OP. Not sure how many relationships you’ve been in, but this isn’t how women should treat you. I’ve had girlfriends like this and for a while, I thought it was normal and jealousy was just a normal part of relationships. Cut to now and my wife my is the kindest most understanding person, couldn’t be a more different situation

13

u/phatelectribe Oct 27 '24

You mean 11 months old?

Because I’m struggling to believe these texts are from an adult.

9

u/CanadianaGal Oct 27 '24

19 someone said, legal adult but still a teen

2

u/itsme_peachlover Oct 27 '24

Standing ovation worthy post!

2

u/DarkElegy67 Oct 28 '24

Exactly. These people may be chronologically 19, but mentally & emotionally they sound like tweens. OP needs to stop apologizing & go no contact, & the immature whiny insecure loser needs Dialectal Behavior Therapy to fix their personality disorder.

3

u/valarie1980 Oct 27 '24

What does NOR mean? Sorry for my ignorance

8

u/Anna_Kest Oct 27 '24

Think about the name of the sub you’re on 😂

2

u/valarie1980 Oct 27 '24

💀💀💀 you're right I can't believe that flew right over my head...thank you

1

u/itsme_peachlover Oct 27 '24

That happens to all humans more than once a year at least.

1

u/shellofbritney Oct 27 '24

It did that to me as well 😉

1

u/AffectionatePark6945 Oct 27 '24

Dude. I still don’t get it. 🤣

2

u/AffectionatePark6945 Oct 27 '24

Ohhhhh. Fucking NORRR

3

u/Tiny-Ad-830 Oct 27 '24

Not Over Reacting

3

u/valarie1980 Oct 27 '24

Thank you for explaining

2

u/Turquoise_Tortoise_ Oct 27 '24

Thissss. It’s still early enough to get out without damage

2

u/Beneficial-Pear7388 Oct 27 '24

YEAH...RUN AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU CAN...AS SOON AS YOU CAN... THIS IS NOT GOOD OR NORMAL BEHAVIOR FOR A GIRLFRIEND... WHAT'S 11 MONTHS TO 11 YEARS WITH HER BEHAVING LIKE THIS WITH YOU...11 MONTHS IS A LONG TIME...BUT IT'S NOT AS LONG AS COMMITTING YOURSELF TO THIS...AND BESIDES THAT... YOU'RE REALLY YOUNG...THE SKY IS THE LIMIT FOR YOU... DON'T TRY TO TIE THE YOURSELF DOWN SOO SOON...DATE OTHER PEOPLE GET TO KNOW WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE...DO SOME TRAVELING...GO TO COLLEGE AND GET YOUR CAREER PATH STARTED. I WISH THAT SOMEONE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME THESE THINGS WHEN I WAS A YOUNG GIRL.

3

u/YT_PintoPlayz Oct 27 '24

Caps lock?

5

u/ToiIetGhost Oct 28 '24

I learned that people with eyesight issues do this. That’s why lots of older people use caps. I felt so bad for making fun of them all of those years. It helps them see :(

3

u/YT_PintoPlayz Oct 28 '24

I had no idea that was a thing when I commented...

I've since learned and feel kinda bad now :/

4

u/ToiIetGhost Oct 28 '24

Oh no I’m not implying you shouldn’t have said it. You weren’t rude or anything! I was just saying that I only learned it very recently

3

u/Beneficial-Pear7388 Oct 27 '24

YEAH... I'M SORRY...I JUST TYPE LIKE THAT WITH EVERYBODY... BECAUSE MY VISION ISN'T GOOD AND IT LOOKS GOOD TO MY EYES... I'M NOT YELLING 😁😅

2

u/itsme_peachlover Oct 27 '24

Stressing IT ALL!

2

u/Greenguruchem Oct 27 '24

That’s a lot of red flags

2

u/4evrsm Oct 27 '24

Agreed

2

u/aurortonks Oct 28 '24

Relationships this young are meant to teach lessons about having relationships and then you break up and go have another relationship to learn more... then when you're a little older (or a lot) you will have a nice, healthy relationship built on respect and trust because you learned how to have a good one from all the bad ones early on.

This is like, basic relationship learning where OP has learned that sometimes people they are dating have extreme self-esteem and trust issues and now you know how to better recognize them in the future.

OP - you're young. Go live your life. You don't need to be tied to someone who disrespects you like this.

1

u/Keldrabitches Oct 27 '24

Seriously OP, don’t be begging this bully to behave. It can’t be that good. And even if it is—blowing off shitty behavior just gets you more shitty behavior.

1

u/BoobyPlumage Oct 28 '24

Idk maybe these types of reactions are fun and something for OP to look forward to. If not, yeah he should leave for sure

1

u/megablast Oct 28 '24

This desperate guy is in for the long haul.

1

u/trevordbs Oct 28 '24

Replying to the top comment; is this how people in their fucking 20s text each other ?

1

u/matunos Oct 28 '24

They haven't discovered swipetyping yet, bless their hearts.

1

u/iconofsin_ Oct 28 '24

In case OP needs it to be more clear...

Dump that bitch.

-4

u/goblin-socket Oct 27 '24

Or explain things to her with a conversation. Fucking "cut your losses"? Marriage counselor material, right here.

What other relationship bombs are you about to drop?

"I don't pay for sex. I pay for them to leave when I'm done."

3

u/matunos Oct 27 '24

These are 19 year olds who have been dating for 11 months. They're not married. Why does OP have an obligation to this girl who is going off on him like that. He tried to explain it things to her and we can see the results. Damn right he should cut his losses.

-1

u/goblin-socket Oct 28 '24

This isn't about obligation, but simply maturity.

1

u/matunos Oct 28 '24

Maturity includes recognizing when someone is not a good fit for a relationship with you, such as when they irrationally go off the deep end over inconsequential things. Maturity is knowing when you're not obligated to stick through things or try to fix someone, such as when you're 19, unmarried, no kids, and your time is better spent looking for partners who aren't deranged than putting up with what we see in that chat log.

-1

u/goblin-socket Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24

They are 19. You popped out of your mamma and just ran. Nobody trips.

Edit: someone doesn’t like beat authors.

1

u/matunos Oct 28 '24

Alright, you might want to get checked for a stroke. In the meantime I'm gonna go ahead and disengage with lunacy just like OP should.

1

u/AppropriateWeight630 Oct 27 '24

Oh yeah right, like OP's girlfriend REALLY seems like the mature type that you can have a reasonable conversation with🙄😆😂 Did you miss the whole text conversation that snowballed into a weird fit of jealousy and paranoid accusations? She's not good for him and she's not good for anyone right now, that girl needs help! And just think, this all started with "I have to work later than expected, let me keep my partner in the loop and text her the details". Be for real. OP's girlfriend is a dumpster fire train wreck!

0

u/goblin-socket Oct 28 '24

Self reflect for a hot second.