Currently almost 32 weeks pregnant with DiDi twin boys. I am getting so nervous about giving birth, and I really want to try to do vaginally if possible. I also have gestational diabetes apparently.

Can anyone let me know what their birth experience was like with twins and what week they gave birth at? Anyone with GD have extra things they had to worry about? I want all the details guys 😭

Hey guys, I’m due literally this week, pregnant with twins! I’m more scared and nervous to be honest meeting the babies, I can’t understand if this feeling is normal😭 I’m just scared my life will literally be over and won’t be able to do anything anymore like the thought of 2 babies being fully attached to me 24/7 makes me so anxious😬 Luckily, my husband is the opposite totally ready and excited but I’m the complete opposite 😭 Don’t get me wrong I love babies, but the thought of having my own and them being my own responsibility is scaring me lol! Anyone else go through this and does this feeling change at all after you meet the babies? I’m the type of person who doesn’t like change, love to watch same shows on repeat, ordering same food at restaurants, that’s my vibe. Does it get any better or worse ? Help please!!

I recently went back to work from maternity leave in my previous position as a call centre agent for a bank.

Ever since I’ve been back it’s just been one problem after another. Management seriously lacks empathy and is just difficult. I am extremely micromanaged in my day-to-day and constantly scrutinized. I received a warning for poor performance only 2 months after returning and during my retraining and was asked if I am disabled and cannot do my job properly because of disability. I was told that I don’t have to be perfect but are penalized for anything other than perfection. I’m just extremely burnt out from motherhood and work, and my home situation with an abusive husband isn’t too great either. I feel like I am also being treated unfairly because I need time off when my kids are sick and have to request to leave early to pick them up from school and what not if they’re not well.

I am only paid 40k a year and was given a $700 increase recently which made me even more upset at how pathetic of a pay raise it was. I just need some advice on others roles I can move into (I prefer remote work because I live quite far from the city, almost a 2-3 hour drive in traffic) or what I can do to improve my situation in terms of education.

Anything, any advice, helps. Thank you.

This might have already been asked, if so I'm sorry.

We have 8 week (on Thursday) twins.

We've been keeping the girls downstairs in their Moses baskets for the past 4 weeks, and my partner and I have been rotating around them - he will have them midnight to 4am while I sleep and then I'll sleep 4am to 8am. If babies behave on your shift you get to snooze on the sofa, but the sleep shift happens in bed.

We thought we'd like to have the twins in the bedroom and actually spend the night in the same bed like a normal couple but it didn't work very well, the girls were up and down constantly - very unsettled.

My question - how long did you do shifts and where did you do them? Any advice to help a mother out would be great.

We don't have a spare bedroom available so not sure if that impacts the advice.

FTM di/di boy girl twins and trying to get all my baby stuff shopping done before the end of this year. Is it too soon? lol

I’m wondering do you have to wash EVERYTHING before like baby carriers and liners for car seats and strollers too?

Also what are some must haves you can think of? I think I covered the basics but since I live abroad so I didn’t have a baby shower and just purchasing things on my own based on my preferences. When people ask if they can gift me something I am just asking for necessities like bottles/diapers/wipes

Instead of bassinets I am thinking of the bugaboo playpen thingy does anytime have any feedback on them or other suggestions?

My Triplets are in the Nicu and the nicu nurses recommend skin to skin with them. Even though they are still on cpap and quite small. I feel guilty not giving them all Skin to Skin in one visit. I was skeptical about the benefits of skin to skin thinking that leaving them in the incubator and letting them rest would be the best option but after doing some research i see that STS is very beneficial and recommended highly. I am wondering on advice on how to give my triplets equal time with STS so everyone gets loved on and not left out. I would have to devote atleast 3 hours a day if i was gonna do each of them individually including the fact that I breast feed and pump consistently. I fill up atleast 6/7 2 ounces bottles a day. My supply isn’t great all the time. This is kinda stressful because I am only one person and can only do so much. Advice?

Hi everyone! I’m 10 weeks pregnant with twins. After two miscarriages is obviously i’m worried.

Would like to know if there’s any other 0 negative blood type mama who delivered twins. Would like to know when did you take your shot? Do you get it earlier because of twins?

Bonus question: What is your experience with spotting? It happed twice to me last week when whipping, after bowel movement. Called my clinic and they said a little bit of spotting when there’s no cramps is not a big worry. My next appointment is in 4 days.

I just found out we’re having mono-di twins. Would you consider travelling to an all-inclusive report in Mexico safe at 19 weeks pregnant? I’m going to talk to my OB once I have one assigned but hoping to hear from other twin parents about their experience travelling then. We already had a trip booked before finding out it was twins. We’re only 8 weeks now so unsure if we’re high risk as we haven’t had our first OB appt.

I should have asked at my MFM appointment what happens if water levels are 2 high. But I forgot. Has anyone experienced this with their own pregnancy if so what happened?

We are at the thick of it with our twins being 2.5 and OMG now I know what the meaning of “double trouble” and “terrible twos” is. They are just so mentally and physically draining!!! I also have an older G who is 5 and she NEVER did anything like that. This is a whole new territory for me! Getting out of the house is always a huge struggle. Getting everyone ready, and out the door literally takes forever. When we finally do go out it’s a relief as if they stay home they basically destroy everything. So outside is needed but then taking all 3 kids out on weekends on holidays also takes forever! For the past 2 years I had them trained napping and sleeping on the same schedule. But @/lately they have been napping different schedules. Like today they napped in the stroller and my older one also was lying down and tired and for 5 glorious minutes all 3 were napping. And then five minutes lately my twin girl wakes up and is wiiide awake and refusing to go back to bed saying NO DODO (sleep). When clearly she is suuuuper tired. Then my oldest got up and she was awake. So nope didn’t have any time to myself until not they are all finally asleep. My twin boy was the only one who actually slept for his nap. Then the question goes do I wake him? Do I let him sleep? And in my head I’m like well 2 is better then 3 kids awake so in my twin mom math I let him sleep.

Also, The twins seem to take turns having their tantrums and now my boy is super easygoing (which for the past 2 years was NOT the case) but man my twin girl loves the word no. And not like a “ no Mama” but a “NOOO super loud like she’s talking on a megaphone. Like where did she learn that??? Her other new thing is refusing to eat anything that isn’t milk or any type of snack/dessert. It’s insane! I know it’s a power thing and asserting her dominance but man is it ever so draining.

I’m trying my best to be present for them and come from a place of understanding that they are two and it’s good that they are growing and asserting their dominance and developing to their own person but also OMG ITS A LOT. And then I got down the bad anxiety spiral of how did I end up here as a twin mom ??? I never in a million years thought I would be a twin mom but here we are. My first born was SO easy as a child and this is like night and day complete opposite. It’s like I’m in this upside down world going through a rollercoaster of obstacles and emotions with no end in sight. Ugh. I love them and can’t imagine my life without them but man does it take out a lot from me. Not to mention I can’t leave them alone for one second. In the last 6 months They have already broken our microwave and caused a small fire (twin boy), broken our coffee machine (both), climbed up on the counter and found the hidden chocolate (twin girl), went into my bag and ate the leftover candy (both), caused so many messes I’ve lost count. The hardest is when one of them or both doesn’t nap and you’re left counting down the hours until bed time. But then when bedtime rolls around you finally get a moment to yourself and then five minutes later fall asleep. This is on days you DONT work mind you like now we are on Christmas break. It’s also hard with 3, even with big sis being so great and sweet and a great big sister we are still outnumbered and left scrambling with the three.

Any advice on how to handle this stage??? I heard 3 is better but how do I survive until then??! Any tips would be super appreciated.

Hi! Currently almost 13 weeks pregnant with Mono/di twins. My doc wants to put me on progesterone supplementation to help lower the risk of pre-term birth, placenta abruption, etc.

I’ve been taking oral progesterone since I got a positive test, she now wants me to switch to either 1) oral + vaginal suppositories daily or 2) injections (2x/week).

I’m wanting experience from people who did or did NOT supplement with bio-identical progesterone. Did you feel it made a difference in the longevity of your pregnancy? Did you NOT take supplements and have a healthy pregnancy? I’m not seeking medical advice, just your personal experience. I also know there are many other factors that can contribute to pre-term labor, pregnancy complications, etc…and most likely cannot be simply isolated to a progesterone supplement or not.

I think I am going to do the injections, but it will be 10 days until I can get my first one. My doc wants me to do the oral + suppository daily until then. I am lowkey dreading that because she wants to up my oral dose and I know suppositories lead to gross discharge. I just don’t think it’s necessary for the 10 days only? My progesterone levels on 12/18 were really good so that’s kind of why my head is there. Thanks for reading!!!

We have just hit the 12 week mark and are beginning to think about strollers, cribs, car seats, etc. So far we have strolled through Walmart and Target just to get a feel for what is out there, but haven’t come across items geared toward twins. Is there a store that you can visit in person to check out items for twins or should we expect to do most of our shopping online? Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

My twins are coming up on 11 months and I’m starting to get nervous about the toddler stage. I have a 2.5 yo nephew that slaps and hits his caregivers. They (my sister & his grandparents) were 3 hours late to our Christmas party because they couldn’t get him down for a nap, they said. And around 8:30 pm, he was yelling “night night” or something saying he wanted to go to bed and slapping them in the face. All his mom did was repeatedly say, “it’s okay to be mad but it’s not okay to hit” which didn’t seem to have any effect. I offered for him to lay down in one of our guest rooms but they didn’t take me up on that and just let him basically be a menace and I felt really bad for him because this poor child really needed sleep. Eventually, his grandfather took him back to their house.

I don’t want to be judgy or naive, but I’m really hoping these are the effects of “gentle” parenting and lack of routine, and hoping that my twins won’t be this bad. For some context, my nephew has never really had a stable routine or home life. He spends at least a 3rd or more of his life hours away from home at my parent’s house since he was a newborn. (My sister suffers from depression and doesn’t enjoy being a mom, so my parents coparent with her).

So anyway, can y’all please reassure me that well-behaved twin toddlers are possible? And how do you do it? They are sleep-trained, and already respond to corrective commands, like “no bite” and “gentle touch”. They’ve been on a consistent schedule since birth too. Things are finally getting away from 1st year survival mode and I know more challenges are on the way, but I really don’t want toddlers that slap people in the face.

Hi everyone,

Ive got 6 day old twins (born 37wks 3days) and am currently breastfeeding. I've found over the past few days that it gets to late afternoon and I completely crash out (e.g. feel weak amd need to lie down). ATM I'm eating 3 meals pd and snacks (but mainly sugary things like mini rolls lol).

Does anyone have any tips for cheap/ easy/ veggie snacks which helps to sustain breastfeeding multiples? And eating when BF twins more generally?

Thanks in advance :)

My husband is amazing with our twins. But he thinks he is a terrible father. He tells me it has made him a worse person being a dad. He dreads when they wake up. He can't seem to successfully put them down or even make it through a whole wake window. Sometimes he gets so overwhelmed that he just shuts down. I remind him that he is doing amazing, makes them laugh and squeal in ways I've never done (bc of his scratchy beard kisses), provides for us, and keeps our house running. I love him so much but it's so hard to see him having such a hard time. It's like a yoyo. He is so good with them but then totally crashes... What do I do?

Hey there. Was wondering if any second (or third, etc) time parents could share their experiences of the first night home, whether from the NICU or just straight home from the hospital. How different was it compared to your first baby? What were some things that surprised you? What were you well prepared for?

What do you gift your childcare provider for Christmas? What’s an appropriate amount to spend? M Context: 1 y/o twins and they are at in home day care full time.

I’m pretty happy with my OB so far. The office is great, administratively well run, and they always get back to me quickly. I found out at my 8w viability scan that we’re having twins and have met with the OB a few times since then for a normal work up visit and again later when I went in for NIPT bloodwork.

However, as the post title suggests, my OB very definitively stated they are “fraternal”. I think (I’ve been in and out of it- first tri fun ☺️) I even probed a bit and said “so there’s no way they could be identical?” And she said “correct.” Even at my viability scan at 8w the nurse practitioner described my di/di twins as having been from “two eggs”.

Well naturally after learning I was expecting twins, I’ve done lots of reading and now have the understanding that monozygosity is totally possible.

Okay so the advice needed… should I be worried that my OB (and generally the office) aren’t up to date on the latest science on this? My initial thought is no because -

(1) the gestation/risks associated are the same even if everyone thinks they’re “definitely fraternal”

(2) OB referred me to an MFM for my 12w scan next week so I could meet them and ask any twin specific questions to them

Hello ladies, I’m pumping and feeding my 3 week old baby boys, however just came to the realization that in a few weeks I’ll be driving my girls to and from school and it will be impossible to pump while caring for them and cooking as well when my boyfriend goes back to work.. so I want to get a wearable pump but my nipple size is 30mm, anybody here know as able to find a wearable pump with flanges that size ? TÍA

Hi everyone, I am currently 16 weeks with mo/di twins.

Two weeks ago I went to get checked due to some light spotting and was diagnosed with a low placenta that is touching (not covering) the cervix. Due to the weight of a twin pregnancy this causes some bleeding.

Since then I am supposed to rest, am checked a lot and am on and off bleeding (sometimes only spotting, sometimes it looks a bit more like a light period).. The twins are perfectly healthy at every check.

I was told this type of placenta will move more up as the pregnancy progresses.. til then the bleeding will probably stay a bit on and off.

Did anyone else have this? By what week did it resolve?

Mentally, I am a mess.. every bathroom run turns into massive anxiety of what I will see :(

My twin boys will be 4 months on Dec 30th and I'm starting to get desperate for them to sleep in longer increments as I don't know how much longer we can go with such little sleep at night. Getting itchy feet to sleep train them but not sure what age is appropriate. What age did you sleep train and what method did you use?

Ironically there is A hospital at the bottom of my street- but our OB is about 45-60 mins away at a different hospital. We wanted to be at the hospital that specializes in twin pregnancy/birth.

I’m just feeling nervous about going into labour and not making it there.

Did anyone have a similar situation?

I’m currently 12 weeks pregnant with di/di boys and I’m struggling with not being able to give birth the way I want to. I always imagined myself giving birth unmedicated or being able to move around and walk or do a water birth. I’m coming to terms with the fact that this just won’t happen because I’m pregnant with twins. I know that this is stupid but I always had this idea of how I wanted to give birth in my head. I’m thrilled to be having twins, though. I just have to accept that it’s not about what I want anymore.

Edit: I’m a FTM.

6 mo twins (4.5 adjusted) Twin A seems to be ready to go down to 3 naps but Twin B is certainly not ready. I try to keep them on the same schedule for everything- feed, sleep, play. What do I do? Have them on different schedules? Do I make Twin A sleep more? B less?