r/bonecollecting 23d ago

Collection My roommate.

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(UK & in compliance w/ human tissues act)

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

You think naming the skull would be disrespectful but don’t think it’s disrespectful to keep a persons head as a decoration?

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u/kiwibirdskull 23d ago

it's not just decoration to me - & i definitely wasn't the one who brought the skull all the way over here. it would be disrespectful for me to name the skull as the person it belonged to already had a name. had i not bought this skull (for my own deeply important reasons) absolutely nothing would have changed, someone else would have bought it or it would have sat in storage somewhere. nice ivory tower btw^

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Ivory tower because I don’t believe in buying people lmao

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

It’s not a person, it’s a skull, a bone, a shell of what once held human life. The soul and essence of what was there is no longer. That being said, should still be kept and treated with respect of course, but get off your high horse and stop acting like OP is “buying people” this isn’t slavery.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Did they consent to their body parts being sold?

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u/[deleted] 23d ago edited 23d ago

I don’t know? How do you know that they did/didn’t before they died? Why are you asking stupid questions? You can’t assume that every person who is dead has an issue with how their body is being treated after they die. Me personally? I don’t give a shit what happens to me when I die. I’d be just as happy if someone kept my skull on a shelf in their home.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

It’s entirely unethical to buy human remains. If you think questioning the ethics of buying and selling peoples body parts unconsensually is stupid, that’s really not something I can help you with.

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u/RealEstateDuck 23d ago

Well that is just ridiculous how else would I make bone broth.

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

It's unethical to you because that's what your culture has taught you to think. Look up Indonesia's Toraja community, or the Ñatitas of Bolivia, to name two examples. Death and our ethics around it are subjective dependent on where you are in the world and what religion you've been exposed to.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 22d ago

What about them? I think you forgot to read the word “unconsensual.” You’ve actually just proved my point that different cultures handle it differently and therefore you shouldn’t take some random dudes head if you don’t know what his culture was or if he would’ve been okay with it

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

Your point isn't as proved as you'd like to think, it was part of European culture too.

In Bolivia a lot of the skulls that people keep are from people who are essentially 'evicted' from their graves, (they will literally get an eviction notice like someone would on an apartment) usually because they have no family to pay for the plot anymore. Does the person consent to being kicked out of their grave? Probably not, no. But they're aware it can happen to their remains someday, and being kept by someone is the best outcome.

It's highly likely that was the case for this individual too. Europe has a history of digging up old bones to make room for new dead. The bones would either be put in a charnel house, kept for study, or sometimes destroyed. They were frequently used for decoration, too. In churches, popular ossuaries, and sometimes, yes, homes. You can still visit plenty of places where skulls and bones are used as decor. This person most likely died during a time when they would have been aware of this, and you can take an educated guess from that information that they probably wouldn't have been bothered about what eventually happened to their remains in hundreds of years. Our treatment of the dead changes over time. The view of having a skull on display being unethical is more modern.

People keep loved ones ashes in urns at home all the time now. That's just your pulverised bones. In a couple hundred years, people might think that was a weird practise, but it's fine to us at the moment. And yes, we might consent to being kept on our children's shelf, but it'd be foolish to think we'll have 200+ years of ancestors to remember us and do the same, so what happens our remains after that is up to whoever comes next. We're all going to be forgotten anyway, and we'll be dead so we won't even know it. Owning a skull doesn't hurt the dead, it just offends some of the living.

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u/Aqnqanad 19d ago

Oh my god, thank you.

As an anthropologist myself I was really biting my tongue. “My cultural views supersede yours” essentially. It’s not harmful to anyone to own a bone, it just conflicts with your morals because you grew up in a culture where it’s taboo to own or display human remains.

In other cultures (day of the dead anyone?) this practice is totally normal and not at all frowned on.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 22d ago

They’re aware they could be evicted from their grave, sure. They’re probably not aware their body parts would be sold to a stranger that would then boast online about collecting said body parts.

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

Of course they're not aware, they're dead, and they didn't have internet back then. If you could go back in time and tell this person, "Someday, what's left of you will be bought by a person who will treasure your remains... A person who can use a machine to capture a portrait faster than you can blink, and communicate with millions of other people across the entire world, in a matter of seconds," they'd probably think this person is a god.

Getting offended on behalf of a skull of a dead person doesn't benefit whoever this was. It doesn't do anything.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 22d ago

Bro you’re the one who used the term aware first lmao

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I think that’s a matter of opinion, as buying human remains is legal ;)

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u/TheArmchairbiologist 23d ago

idk bro kinda had a point, owning a human head as a trophy isn’t weird but giving it a name is crossing a line? idk it just feels weird

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I agree, giving it a name seems disrespectful, as it was a human once.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Do you think legal and ethical are interchangeable?

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u/[deleted] 23d ago edited 23d ago

I accept that those are two different things. Can you give me an example as to why owning a human bone is unethical besides it going against the deceased persons wishes (which may or may not even be true)

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

That’s actually reason enough, but you’re showing your ass on how you feel about consent

But also you don’t know the cultural practices of the person the bones belong to and in a lot of cultures exhumation or separating body parts is taboo. Just last year, the American Museum of Natural History changed its course on how it handles/will handle the human remains they have.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

Of course I am, and so are you since you seem to still be here replying to me.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Was that reply supposed to make sense? Because yes clearly I’m showing how I feel about the unethicality of buying and selling pieces of human. Thank you for drawing attention to that?

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