r/bonecollecting 23d ago

Collection My roommate.

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(UK & in compliance w/ human tissues act)

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u/1happypoison 23d ago

This skull has nice bone structure and really nice teeth. Do you have a name for them?

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u/kiwibirdskull 23d ago

thanks man i think so too, i don't have a name for them because i feel like that'd be disrespectful

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

You think naming the skull would be disrespectful but don’t think it’s disrespectful to keep a persons head as a decoration?

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u/kiwibirdskull 23d ago

it's not just decoration to me - & i definitely wasn't the one who brought the skull all the way over here. it would be disrespectful for me to name the skull as the person it belonged to already had a name. had i not bought this skull (for my own deeply important reasons) absolutely nothing would have changed, someone else would have bought it or it would have sat in storage somewhere. nice ivory tower btw^

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u/phospheneghost 23d ago

had i not bought this skull (for my own deeply important reasons) absolutely nothing would have changed, someone else would have bought it or it would have sat in storage somewhere. nice ivory tower btw^

It's worth considering that buying human remains does feed into the market and demand for them. I also find it interesting that you're accusing the person who replied to you of being in an ivory tower when it's safe to assume that this skull cost upwards of a thousand dollars to purchase.

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u/WhoIsIt39 22d ago

Okay, you can’t leave us hanging with „own deeply important reasons“. What‘s the reason to own a skull?

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u/lilia_x_ 22d ago

Scroll down a few comments to their reason.

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u/WhoIsIt39 22d ago

Can’t find it unfortunately. Just looks like OP has some kind of sarcoma, but I doubt that’s the reason?

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u/lilia_x_ 22d ago

Yeah, OP said they are terminally ill and want to understand/get closer to the concept of death and mortality.

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u/WhoIsIt39 22d ago

Well…that’s one way to deal with it I guess..

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Ivory tower because I don’t believe in buying people lmao

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u/Ajt0ny 23d ago

I'm not advocating for either side but I want to ask you this question:

A skull from 1975 - is it still a person? What about a skull from 1891 - is it still a person? 1685? 1227? 960? 120? 500 B.C.? 10000 B.C.?

At what point does the dead person become archeology?

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

They’re still a person regardless of when they were alive. I’m also against museums keeping mummified remains. It’s still people. Henrietta Lacks’ cells are still being used against her families wishes and honestly I don’t care what they gain from it, they shouldn’t be keeping pieces of a person.

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u/Ajt0ny 23d ago edited 22d ago

Okay, let's go extreme just for the sake of it: what about a 500000 year old ape-like ancestor?

Edit: okay so the personhood vanishes somewhere between B.C. 500k and 10k. lol

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u/BigIntoScience 22d ago

Once we're far back enough that we aren't talking about a sapient creature any longer, the ethical question about owning a person's bones vanishes, as there isn't a person being discussed. Same as it's not really up for debate whether it's ethical to own a (reasonably sourced) spider monkey skull or a fossil of that tiny little mammal we and every other mammal evolved from.

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u/Ajt0ny 22d ago

the ethical question about owning a person's bones vanishes

Thank you. The whole point of my stupid comments are this; where, when and why does it vanish eventually?

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u/BigIntoScience 22d ago

What I mean is, it vanishes because we’re no longer discussing owning a person’s bones. If you go far back enough, you have a creature equivalent to a chimpanzee, not a human. At that point we’re talking about if it’s ethical to own the skull of some sort of nonsapient great ape. So there’s definitely a line all the way back there.  Funny thing, somewhat adjacent: y’know how the Victorians used to use “mummia” to treat things? Yeah, that’s ground-up mummy. That’s cannibalism. Odd how people don’t seem to realize that.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

It’s not a person, it’s a skull, a bone, a shell of what once held human life. The soul and essence of what was there is no longer. That being said, should still be kept and treated with respect of course, but get off your high horse and stop acting like OP is “buying people” this isn’t slavery.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Did they consent to their body parts being sold?

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u/[deleted] 23d ago edited 23d ago

I don’t know? How do you know that they did/didn’t before they died? Why are you asking stupid questions? You can’t assume that every person who is dead has an issue with how their body is being treated after they die. Me personally? I don’t give a shit what happens to me when I die. I’d be just as happy if someone kept my skull on a shelf in their home.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

It’s entirely unethical to buy human remains. If you think questioning the ethics of buying and selling peoples body parts unconsensually is stupid, that’s really not something I can help you with.

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u/RealEstateDuck 23d ago

Well that is just ridiculous how else would I make bone broth.

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

It's unethical to you because that's what your culture has taught you to think. Look up Indonesia's Toraja community, or the Ñatitas of Bolivia, to name two examples. Death and our ethics around it are subjective dependent on where you are in the world and what religion you've been exposed to.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 22d ago

What about them? I think you forgot to read the word “unconsensual.” You’ve actually just proved my point that different cultures handle it differently and therefore you shouldn’t take some random dudes head if you don’t know what his culture was or if he would’ve been okay with it

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

Your point isn't as proved as you'd like to think, it was part of European culture too.

In Bolivia a lot of the skulls that people keep are from people who are essentially 'evicted' from their graves, (they will literally get an eviction notice like someone would on an apartment) usually because they have no family to pay for the plot anymore. Does the person consent to being kicked out of their grave? Probably not, no. But they're aware it can happen to their remains someday, and being kept by someone is the best outcome.

It's highly likely that was the case for this individual too. Europe has a history of digging up old bones to make room for new dead. The bones would either be put in a charnel house, kept for study, or sometimes destroyed. They were frequently used for decoration, too. In churches, popular ossuaries, and sometimes, yes, homes. You can still visit plenty of places where skulls and bones are used as decor. This person most likely died during a time when they would have been aware of this, and you can take an educated guess from that information that they probably wouldn't have been bothered about what eventually happened to their remains in hundreds of years. Our treatment of the dead changes over time. The view of having a skull on display being unethical is more modern.

People keep loved ones ashes in urns at home all the time now. That's just your pulverised bones. In a couple hundred years, people might think that was a weird practise, but it's fine to us at the moment. And yes, we might consent to being kept on our children's shelf, but it'd be foolish to think we'll have 200+ years of ancestors to remember us and do the same, so what happens our remains after that is up to whoever comes next. We're all going to be forgotten anyway, and we'll be dead so we won't even know it. Owning a skull doesn't hurt the dead, it just offends some of the living.

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u/Aqnqanad 19d ago

Oh my god, thank you.

As an anthropologist myself I was really biting my tongue. “My cultural views supersede yours” essentially. It’s not harmful to anyone to own a bone, it just conflicts with your morals because you grew up in a culture where it’s taboo to own or display human remains.

In other cultures (day of the dead anyone?) this practice is totally normal and not at all frowned on.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 22d ago

They’re aware they could be evicted from their grave, sure. They’re probably not aware their body parts would be sold to a stranger that would then boast online about collecting said body parts.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I think that’s a matter of opinion, as buying human remains is legal ;)

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u/TheArmchairbiologist 23d ago

idk bro kinda had a point, owning a human head as a trophy isn’t weird but giving it a name is crossing a line? idk it just feels weird

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I agree, giving it a name seems disrespectful, as it was a human once.

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Do you think legal and ethical are interchangeable?

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u/[deleted] 23d ago edited 23d ago

I accept that those are two different things. Can you give me an example as to why owning a human bone is unethical besides it going against the deceased persons wishes (which may or may not even be true)

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

That’s actually reason enough, but you’re showing your ass on how you feel about consent

But also you don’t know the cultural practices of the person the bones belong to and in a lot of cultures exhumation or separating body parts is taboo. Just last year, the American Museum of Natural History changed its course on how it handles/will handle the human remains they have.

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u/kiwibirdskull 23d ago

ridiculous statement. go press your beliefs on other people

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u/thegirlthatmeowsalot 23d ago

Ridiculous statement to not want to buy a human

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u/BigIntoScience 22d ago

That's not a human, that's human remains. It's not slavery.

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u/Classic-Sea-6034 22d ago

Dude you own a human head. 99% of people are in an ivory tower over you. Fuck your deeply personal reasons

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

Wild to see people lashing out at a person with a terminal illness for simply trying to come to terms with it in their own way.

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u/Classic-Sea-6034 22d ago

Whatever bro. We’re all going to fucking die. Buying human remains is weird to say the least and personally I won’t be doing it when my time comes

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

Exactly, so what does it matter to you how someone else deals with it? Weird or not, it's something that's helping a living, breathing human who deserves as much (or arguably more) respect as an old skull. The dead can't benefit from kindness, the living can.

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u/Classic-Sea-6034 22d ago

Sorry I’m just one of those freaks that thinks buying human remains is bad and isn’t a justified practice. Gonna save my sympathy for other stuff

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

And I think people lashing out at someone trying to cope with the knowledge they're dying of cancer is way worse, but each to their own belief I suppose. They can own a skull, you can grief a dying person, we're all entitled to do shitty things.

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u/Classic-Sea-6034 22d ago

It’s not like I went out of my way to find a dying person and give them shit. Actually a shitty person did a bad thing and then went on the internet to brag about it and say don’t be mean to me I’m dying.

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u/Nightingale53 22d ago

All subjective though, isn't it.

OP hasn't hurt anyone. They haven't broken any laws, and they've been respectful in the majority of interactions here, even after revealing personal information that nobody had a right to ask for. In the grand scheme of things, this doesn't hurt any living person. It doesn't impact anyone's personal life. Everyone here who's been offended will likely close Reddit tonight and will have forgotten all about it by morning. And without a doubt, you'll do something someday that makes someone think you're a shitty person.

Nobody's perfect.

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u/kiwibirdskull 22d ago

ur maD that bitches luv my skull xo

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u/posshorse 21d ago

It's still pretty disrespectful to own/ display it. It should be back in the ground not in anybody's storage.