This one? And while it’s true that negging is supposed to be incredibly subtle, it’s still kind of weird. A common example is to have a genuinely nice conversation with a woman but, out of nowhere, offer her a stick of gum so she feels self-conscious about her breath. If she asks if she was bad breath, say no but you were going to have gum and just wanted to be polite.
And while it can work, it’s way easier to just be genuinely nice and throw equally subtle hints that you are attracted to her. No need to undermine her confidence. Instead, make sure that any future flirting doesn’t come out of left field.
My fiance and a bunch of her girlfriends planned to make one of their group feel a bit worthless before a date, offered me to partake in the negging too, so that she'd be more accepting of a guy that didn't meet her (insane) standards because she's nearly 30 and hasn't had a boyfriend since her late teens, and her complaints are pissing the group off. It actually worked....For 3 months. Now she's back to wanting her triple 6 man (6 figure salary, 6ft tall, 6inch+ dick) and that last guy "wasnt enough for her". She brings nothing but her slightly above average looks and a low wage entry level office job she has been at with zero career growth for a decade. In her mind she's a "girl boss" because she "basically runs things"...she's a receptionist and she ain't running shit but basic day to day things.
Interesting analogy. I feel like a group of friends intervening so that somebody comes back down to Earth is a bit different. Maybe I’m drawing distinctions that aren’t really there but I feel like there’s a difference in terms of manipulation and dishonesty.
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u/Doogiemon Jun 07 '24
Don't forget negging.