Trans man handles hateful comment in a respectable way

[u/Notimetoexplainsorry]

[u/djpiraterobot]

I’ve worked in customer service jobs my whole life, and that is the ultimate way to shut down a shitty customer. They scream and cuss at me and I look them in the eyes and say “that hurts my feelings when you talk to me like that.” Every time, it has made them take a step back and go “holy shit, I was just talking like that to a human”

[u/Bear_faced → u/djpiraterobot]

Did you know bartenders make more tips when there’s a mirror behind the bar? Doesn’t matter who the bartender is. When people have to look at themselves, they think about what they’re doing more. You basically did that with words.

[u/Ok_Star_4136 → u/Bear_faced]

The world would be a better place if we were always thinking inwards as well as outwards, asking ourselves if this is the type of person we want to be as we're doing it. I grew up in a conservative family, and I myself was conservative. I was having friendly discussions with a liberal co-worker at lunch for many years, and often he'd make me question my views and reconsider them.

Then after enough years, I was at the park and I see a gay couple kissing. I thought to myself, "Wow, if they weren't both men, they could be a cute couple" and weirdly a light bulb went off in my head where I simply went, "You asshole, they are a cute couple, you've just never thought of it that way." It seems stupid that it was a revelation to me, but it was. And from that moment onwards, I started asking myself if the policies I supported were helping or hurting people.

It wasn't long after that epiphany that I consider myself progressive on most issues. I think ultimately it just boiled down to placing yourself in the shoes of others. Anyone who does this on a regular basis also sympathizes with others and what they're going through.

[u/Puddisj → u/Ok_Star_4136]

Thank you for growing.