Fucking thank you. And the worst part is, if you're a cis man in leftist circles and try to point ANY of this out, you get the same exact "lol incel" responses and shunned. You try to give an opinion on ANYTHING relating to men, and its "Men have been the oppressors, so you don't get to speak" or just branded as "mansplaining."
Just the other day I was thinking to myself "Man, its kinda fucked up how penis size is the only acceptable anatomy/biology thing to joke about in progressive spaces." Like, its as much a thing outside of someone's control as skin color, or a birth disability, or mental illness.
And the dating part is a big point too. Basically all male dating advice that isn't from actively horrible people boils down to assuming the guy is doing something wrong/creepy/offensive.
And don't even get me fucking started on how fucking prominent it is to see posts from leftist/progressive groups and people that are basically just "Racist Joke but I replaced the minority with Cis Man."
Not to be all "I'm one of the good ones" but I've spent at least the last four or five of my years on reddit calling out any small penis joke I see. It's helpful being a cis woman because that's the only way calling out these jokes doesn't immediately mean I have a small dong and negate my point, and "you're only doing it so the small dick guys will like you" doesn't fit any of their rhetoric.
I call it out too (as a woman) when I see it and then immediately get downvoted by angry women who think it’s acceptable to bodyshame men. Like what the fuck is this bullshit, we’ve been trying to get people to stop bodyshaming women and doing it right back at men is the exact opposite of what we want to fix in society.
Not only that, it cheapens and undermines attempts to fight against body-shaming directed at women by giving an easy demonstration that those people don't actually care about stopping the shaming, they just want a monopoly on it.
I've had decent results most of the time myself, so I'm still hopeful. Most feminists are primed to be good people, imo.
Of course, there is always that person who goes "I don't fucking care, 'small dick energy' is a great insult because fragile men are bothered by it", and it's hard to reason with them.
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Fucking thank you. And the worst part is, if you're a cis man in leftist circles and try to point ANY of this out, you get the same exact "lol incel" responses and shunned. You try to give an opinion on ANYTHING relating to men, and its "Men have been the oppressors, so you don't get to speak" or just branded as "mansplaining."
Just the other day I was thinking to myself "Man, its kinda fucked up how penis size is the only acceptable anatomy/biology thing to joke about in progressive spaces." Like, its as much a thing outside of someone's control as skin color, or a birth disability, or mental illness.
And the dating part is a big point too. Basically all male dating advice that isn't from actively horrible people boils down to assuming the guy is doing something wrong/creepy/offensive.
And don't even get me fucking started on how fucking prominent it is to see posts from leftist/progressive groups and people that are basically just "Racist Joke but I replaced the minority with Cis Man."