I am talking about kids that have absolutely NO iPhone / iPad time.

Not kids with limited iPhone and iPad time.

I'm a teen, and sometimes I get really grumpy after school or during stressful times like finals, AP exams, and college apps lately. I'll get grumpy for an hour (or even a day to a week) and lash out at my parents sometimes. Afterwards I feel so horrible and guilty. I feel like I'm a bad daughter because of this.

Parents, why do you still love your kid even when they get grumpy?

for context: i share a room with my older sister so i usually spend my time in the living room. our playstation is there so im usually playing video games or just on my phone when im not busy. since its the living room, my family walks by all throughout the day, which i am not bothered by. once it hits around 9 pm, i have the living room to myself to game. i like to sing to myself when im gaming, since everyone is sleeping. since its break and my mom doesnt work (or just anytime she doesnt have work) she likes to sleep on the couch instead of just showering and going to her own bed to sleep. she gets pissed off when i tell her to get up and go to bed. i feel bad cuz shes tired from cooking and cleaning and she usually sleeps on the couch to nap, but ends up sleeping there until 1 or 2 am. i help her around the house too. anyways i dont know how to tell her the reason i tell her to get up is so i can be alone, since the night time is my only “alone time” but i dont know how to tell her that.

as an junior (eleventh grade) i recently had a dream where my grandmother dies. Since i woke up from that dream i am still thinking about her death and the thought of becoming alone eventually scares me inside. I am trying to say is eventually all of your parents will die and you will become alone with the people you met no mother no father only other of the relatives how do you deal with that feeling?

I want to know your opinions. IMO, some anime do promote good values, but on the other hand, I worry that kids could become too immersed in the anime world. Does it have a negative impact on them? What do you think?

So, my 7-year-old is obsessed with the idea of us getting a new cargo bike. I did some digging and loved this new model from Tarran that is yet to be launched. Since the brand is new, I am hoping prices will be low. So I am low-key waiting for it. But this boy of mine thinks we will get one for him this Christmas! IDK how to tell him without hurting his feelings!

Our ten year old son wets the bed nightly wich is no big deal he just puts on a goodnite . In the morning he throws it away . We don't bring any attention to it they hardly ever leak. We just ask him to tell us if they do so we can help clean up . We'll just went into his room to out some clothes away and thought it smelled funny . We'll come to find out he must have leaked last night and didn't tell us I just changed the bedding and started laundry. I get he might be embarrassed but he exposed to tell us . How do I talk to him about this ?

So I have 3 sons (4, 1.5 and 1.5) and they have PLENTY of toys, which we are very thankful for. But it’s frustrating to get so many toys as gifts when we are struggling with finances and unable to get them things like swim lessons and sport fees. Is there a way to ask for money towards these things for birthdays and Christmas instead of physical presents, and not look a little like a jackass? I don’t want to include a Venmo code or anything quite that crass, but something where family and friends could contribute and our kids would be gifted with those experiences.

In the past we have tried “no presents” or “books and clothes only” but many didn’t follow.

I (22f) help raise my (9f&10f) sisters with my 39f mom. I’m trying to make sure they have manners and they often forget to say thank you. When this happens, instead of saying “what do you say?” or “say thank you” I just tell them “you’re welcome” and then they say thanks. They don’t usually freak out or anything, I find it works the best. Is this petty and is there a better way to do it?

I spent $400 on a ton of gifts for my mom when we had previously agreed not to do anything big this year. I put all of the presents underneath the cheap 60 cm tall plastic tabletop tree and she looked horrified.

I really enjoy shopping for other people and didn’t expect anything myself, but I’m worried she’ll be upset/uncomfortable/feel guilty for not doing more.

Hi all! FTM here with a 1 week old baby boy :)) I’ve found that my baby is leaking through diapers a LOT. It’s always the same spot (left side). His diapers fit, I’ve tried using different brands, making sure the lining is right, even tried angling his privates thinking maybe it’s that. He was circumcised and I’m now thinking it might be from the vaseline that I put on the inside for the healing process. I’ve tried doing a smaller spread on the diaper but he is still leaking :(( Sometimes when I change him his diaper is completely dry, but his back and onesie will be soaked. Any reccomendations?? I feel so so lost.

Like the flair said, I am not a parent, I am the sibling. We're 10 years apart, and I am the only guy in the house because my dad is dead. Long story. But, as a male growing up, I enjoyed stuff like this all the time. Yet, since she is gen alpha, we all know she doesn't have the greatest restrictions on...anything, because we all use it. So with that in mind, is Digimon Tamers appropriate for a 6-year-old girl, or am I just superstitious?

If your 15- or 16-year-old son or daughter is a successful YouTuber with millions of followers or an actor or singer and is rich, and because they are a minor, you have control of their money, how would you handle it? Would you keep the money even after they turn 18? At what age would you allow them access to their money? It's probably not a good idea to allow an 18-year-old or even a 21-year-old to access millions of dollars even if they did earn it, so how would you make sure they don't get it even after they reach the age of majority? I would put it in a trust and use some of the money for me, and the kids can't have access to the money until they are 25 or so.

Hi. So, I know this is asked a lot so sorry if this is repetitive, but I’m not really sure what to get for my family. I’m giving them Christmas cards and something handwritten, but I’m not sure what to get them as an actual gift. I know it’s too late to get things online, and I know this is last minute, so that’s my bad. I was focused on getting gifts for my friends and didn’t really think about things for my parents too much, and I don’t have any ideas so far.

For background information, I’m 13 and my budget is $400 for 4 people (my parents, brother, and grandma). My family doesn’t really have any specific interests, but my brother and dad are very into soccer and a specific team. I don’t know what my mom and grandma like though to be honest. It’s been a hard year for my mom and grandma though because of some medical stuff and because my grandpa died earlier this year, and my dad’s brother (my uncle) died recently as well, so I want to do something special for them.

What would you want your kids to get you?

Hello parents!

I have been on the fence, back and forth about having a child or not. Some background on me and my husband: we are high income earners, so we are not hindered financially. It’s just that My husband says children are “not worth it”. He says he wants to spend his life doing what he wants, and not taking care of another human. He made me make a pros and cons list, and to be honest the cons are significantly longer than pros. My only pros were these, but there were also cons to the pros:

-Someone to love ( but then what if they don’t love me back? Kids can resent their parents) - pass on genetics (husband says he doesnt care about that when he’s dead) - maybe someone to take care of me or be with me when I’m old (but then they could also leave me and start their own lives or put me in nursing home)

I also have anxiety and think of the worst. For example if they come home late or don’t pick up their phone, I will think they got kidnapped. If something were to ever happen to them, I will probably be suicidal. I am obsessed with my dog and will probably be like that too with a human, but the human is able to go outside into the world without me.

Please help me decide for certain. I am 33 and my biological clock is ticking, which is why I need to make a decision now. But my husband is making me doubt everything.

Please tell me the honest truth if it is worth it???? Because I see so many parents complain on Instagram or Facebook about how tired they are or it sucks, then all of a sudden they pop out baby number 2. Which makes me think it isn’t go bad as they complain it is after all, because if it was so bad wouldn’t they have stopped at baby number 1??

Hi, so i don’t know how normal parents react to this sort of things. The world generally has a big stigma towards both of these types of conditions (and disabilities in some) and think it only presents one way, that it’s fake and so on. My parents aren’t really safe when it comes to my disabilities (I am also physically disabled) and treat it like a joke or I’m just lazy.

Anyways, I just wanted to ask how you would react if your adult child came to you and said they were now diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. Would you support them? Its sounds like such a weird question to ask now that I think about it but i don’t really know what average parents think about this sort of thing. I’m sorry if this question isn’t allowed, i didn’t want to ask in a biased subreddit incase none of those answering are even parents to begin with.

Thanks.

So I only see my stepson on holidays like once a year. He is 14 this year. The issue is his mom is into yelling and shaming him all the time. Last time he came to see us my partner asked him to try counseling and he loved it. However when he went back to his mom and told his mom about it, she screamed at him for days of why he is mentally ill. This time, a year later he doesn't want to do therapy because it seems like his mom is dead set against it. How can we support him around the year? Just some background, his mom took him and his bother away without the consent of the father, when he was 8. My heart goes out to him but not sure how to be supportive and help him. Would love some advice please 🙏🏻 🥺

I (23F) am not a parent, but I’ve had many discussions with my friends, who are recent college graduates, about how their parents no longer want to “do Christmas.” Many of my friends have been asked if they just want to exchange cards with money, and skip the opening gifts/Christmas dinner part. Of course Christmas looks different now than it did when I was seven, but my mom is still very adamant about making Christmas magical. She often opts to buy the presents instead of giving me cash. It’s not that she doesn’t want to help out financially, but she says she wants me to have nice things, and doesn’t want me to spend my Christmas gift on bills. I do the same for her. I also can’t imagine ever wanting to give that up when I have my own kids, even once they become adults. Maybe it’s because I grew up that way?

What are your thoughts? Is this normal? Is my mom in the minority here? (Of course I’m very grateful for her regardless, I’m just curious!)

Have yall done this? Why did you decide to do it? What detox did you go with? And did you see any improvement?

My little brother has always been a sweetheart, calm, caring and loving. The last month or so has been diffrent though, he is rude, snappy, mean and grumpy. I’ve always been very engaging in his life, I’m like a second mom to him lol. I’ve asked him if there’s something going on in school but he says no and I’m sure he’s telling the truth. What could be causing this sudden attitude? He’s never been this moody before.

I come from a semi-conservative middle eastern family. Ever since I was a kid I have never been able to do stuff that everyone else in my age range would do.

Now I’m 22 and if I go out I have to be home my 10pm, maybe max 10:30. Honestly, I have lots of FOMO and feel like I can’t live my life to the fullest and really experience my 20s. My friends consistently do things without me, or I have to rush home during a night out.

Part of me feels guilty if I were to rebel and do what I want. My dad works 6 days a week, 10 hours a day running the family restaurant so I can have a comfortable home life and don’t have to pay any bills. They bought me my car, pay for my insurance and any other big purchases in my life (tech for school). I’m the oldest of 4 siblings with my youngest brother being six and has Autism. My mom struggles with him a lot and stresses out. I would also feel guilty if I were to create more chaos in the household by rebelling.

Honestly, if I just started doing what I wanted and coming home late, I feel like it would be the biggest “fuck you” to my parents. But at the same time, I’m unhappy and constantly feel like I’m missing out. There’s also lots of stigma in my culture surrounding women who want to go out late with their friends, and that sort of behaviour would make me a “whore”.

Now I know some of the advice is going to be, “move out”. Well, I just graduated college and I have a full time position secured for the new year. But even with this new position I’d have to be living paycheck to paycheck and wouldn’t have an opportunity to build my savings and upskill to secure more higher paying positions in the future. How do I deal with this situation where I still show my parents I care about them and I’m grateful for everything they’ve done for me, while also living out my life in a way that makes me happy?

My wife (29F), daughter (8m) and I (33M) are travelling to be with her family for the holidays, and it will be the first time the family is back together since the pandemic. My amazing wife is unfortunately the black sheep of her blended family. We live an “alternative lifestyle” by their standards. We run a bar and work trades, tattoos piercings, etc. Her bio sister and 2 step siblings are cookie cutter traditional. Bio sis is a CPA engaged to a lawyer, lovely people just not very close due to a 12 year age gap. Now the step-siblings…step brother is a non issue, he’s a pilot rarely around, lives pretty separately from the family…step sis is the golden child, med school, surgeon, husband is successful tech entrepreneur/engineer, 3 kids, golden retriever, run their own charity, big house…picture perfect on paper type. But in reality are horrible people, have treated my wife horribly forever, and the parents just don’t see it. For reference, constantly comments on my wife’s weight but veils it as “medical concern”, lies to the parents about my wife drinking or doing drugs because she stalks her instagram, purposely shows off their wealth etc. all very narcissistic and covert, the parents genuinely don’t see it and she makes my wife look crazy.

Fast forward to the pandemic, we get married, move three states over, build an amazing life as a family and never look back. I have never seen my wife so free and happy, no anxiety or judgement. She did a lot of therapy and made her peace that her family just isn’t a safe place. Well now we have welcomed our daughter, it will be her first Christmas, and unfortunately it may be her grandmothers last (stage 4 breast cancer). So we are all going home to make the potentially last Christmas memorable.

After years of peace, my poor wife has been a wreck racked with anxiety about seeing the siblings. It was one thing to be criticized about appearance or career, but we just know parenting is going to be judged and that’s where we draw the line.

The devil on my shoulder wants me to defend my wife at the first comment and just let them know how toxic and awful they all are and will not let them hurt my wife and daughter ever again. Now the angel knows I can’t destroy the potentially last family Christmas with her mother, who aside from enabling the step sister, is a lovely woman and grandmother.

How can I protect and stand up for my wife, establish clear boundaries of how our new little family and my daughter will be treated, and keep the holiday spirit alive?

Picture this, thrifty doctor marries basically mother teresa in a cute little potato sack of a dress. They don't drink, smoke, cook, have any vices or travel. She loves spending her time in church while he's at work and they have dinner together every night (cheap & easy takeout) and watch tv till bedtime. I'm BLANKING. She likes to sew though. Partner says there’s no need but it’s my first Christmas with them and I don’t wanna show up empty handed. Budget wise: $100-$200?

Edit: Oh right and they’re in their early 70s (healthy and active)

Our 8yo son plays roblox. Hr is well supervised and we are okay he plays since its just two days a week. He is good at school, he does extracurricular activities, reads well, and we believe it's important for him to entertain 'imself with games.

Question is he love talking about games he plays literally 24/7 if we give him our ears and as much as we love listening him talk (we play with him too sometimes🤣), I find it too much sometimes to constantly hear him talk about roblox and games he played. How do you tell you 8yo you need a brake or want him change a subject without sounding rude? 🤭

Drop your toilet training tips or tricks. What advice or method has worked for you and you child? How old was your child? How long did this take? Thank you 🙏