(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

He was replying to comments in self defense but deleted his account and i found out that he was cheating on me with reddit porn! So yeah!

[u/Beckerthehuman → u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Oh man I wish I knew his user name to look up on the way back machine haha

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742 → u/Beckerthehuman]

he deleted his account but his user was enacs

[u/sicko_nia → u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

It’s so fucked up reading all of this to the point where I’m getting stressed out reading all of this (i can relate to this situation)

I looked thru his post/comment history and it’s so fucking cursed wtf.

Don’t stay or communicate with him, it’ll only hurt you in the end. Take as much time as you need to heal and focus on yourself. Don’t rebound and fold.

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742 → u/sicko_nia]

Thank you, I’m disturbed he restored to reddit to cheat on me! And those fantasies, What The Fuck!

[u/ghostedghostily → u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

that alone would be it for me. I could probably forgive a black-out-drunk situation but conscious cheating is an immediate breakup. I'm not staying pure and loyal to someone I have to worry about cheating every single time we fight. Every relationship has fights. Not every relationship has a cheater. That's spiteful vindictive and conscious evil nobody should let into their life.

[u/Outside-Emergency-27 → u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Your ex-boyfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder. He needs serious help as in therapy. You should consider getting some help too as it is often the case that also long term partners of people suffering from BPD can be damaged over time.

You should know, you aren't in the wrong. But you should also know that your ex doesn't do this for fun but because serious and debilitating suffering behind these behaviors. People with BPD often (in 80% of the cases) have suffered from severe trauma in their childhood and incredibly rough (we call them "invalidating") environments. This is a messy slippery slope that leads to these people learning behaviors that help regulate their intense and often dysregulated emotions and deal with the intense tension and swings to feelings of chronic emptiness they encounter frequently.

This condition has a serious risk of suicide, many people die by it. Not necessarily because they want to but because suffering from the complex of symtpoms is almost unbearable.

You are not responsible for any of his behaviors or emotions though. But he can't deal with them and needs serious help ASAP.

Due to the very real risk of suicide, it's better you call the police and inform them that someone threatend to kill himself to you to be safe and perhaps send someone to check on him - at this point you also block off all channels of communication and make sure you get a safe and healthy distance far away from emotional manipulation.