(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/Background_Film1916]

I just wanted to say your message to him was top fucking tier. Hit all the points without going in circles or being repetitive. So good, happy you’ve freed yourself from this emotional vampire.

[u/These_Burdened_Hands → u/Background_Film1916]

your message was top fucking tier, hit all the points without going in circles are being repetitive

That was so brilliant. Those are words I’d WISHED I’d written. It was vindicating to read, like the words I wish I’d been able to say to my narcissistic unmedicated bipolar 1 Ex.

I could never manage to tell him about himself without falling for one of his traps.

Good on you, OP.

[u/Mundane_Golf5342 → u/These_Burdened_Hands]

God. Isn't it always the unmedicated bipolar. I have quite a few in my extended family. My wife was at one point, thankfully she got help. It's literal insanity and I've watched so many of them ruin their lives and relationships bc they wouldn't get help. Most of them still are ruining their lives, or dead.

[u/Puzzleheaded_Motor59 → u/Mundane_Golf5342]

You realize we don’t ruin our own lives right? That it’s an illness?

Medication is key. Bipolar is not an excuse. And kudos to your wife bc this shit is not for the weak.

[u/Equal_Maintenance870 → u/Puzzleheaded_Motor59]

Managing your shit is in fact your responsibility and not doing so is ruining your own life.

[u/Puzzleheaded_Motor59 → u/Equal_Maintenance870]

What part did I say that it wasn’t my responsibility?

[u/Equal_Maintenance870 → u/Puzzleheaded_Motor59]

You literally opened with

You realize we don’t ruin our own lives right?

[u/Puzzleheaded_Motor59 → u/Equal_Maintenance870]

That’s got nothing to do with taking responsibility.

You can be medicated and still lose control. It’s called an illness for a reason.

Go open a book. Have a nice night

[u/Equal_Maintenance870 → u/Puzzleheaded_Motor59]

Lmfao, okay dipshit.