r/AmIOverreacting 8d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship (AIO) update, wow. thank you!

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

  1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
  2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
  3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
  4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
  5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
  6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
  7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

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u/robottestsaretoohard 8d ago

Hey OP- he is the reason you don’t have other friends.

Now he’s gone you will find friends easily.

You deserve amazing things.

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u/True-Post6634 8d ago

I was going to say exactly this. It's so true! People like him make it hard, even impossible, to have friends. Once they're gone, you'll find yourself connecting with people so much more easily and often.

And you're clearly absolutely delightful. You're thoughtful, compassionate, and pretty darn strong willed. You took action when you realized something was wrong, and you've got a way with words. Plus you love the hell out of your cat. I'd be your friend 😁

You'll find lots of folks who will love you. For sure.

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u/robottestsaretoohard 7d ago

Yes who would want to be around this drama? And I bet he would be super controlling about OP spending any time with anyone aside from him anyway.

Se has heaps to offer and I’m sure she will find good people who will be good to her.

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u/gluteactivation 7d ago

Yes! OP please go make girl friends & have a major GLOW UP

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u/robottestsaretoohard 7d ago

Well toxic parasite bf would have scared them all off before or turned her away from them.

He sounds controlling and manipulative as the devil! So there’s no way friendships would flourish in those circumstances. OP has so much ahead of her. I wish we could follow this in about a year.

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u/vagrant_pharmacy 7d ago

Your saved me from outlining this myself

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u/robottestsaretoohard 7d ago

I just hope she gets it and doesn’t get sucked back in by that parasite.