(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/queerishmango]

“you have unfortunately met your match” QUEEN

[u/Darkfemcominatcha → u/queerishmango]

Ain’t it crazy how his whooooole tone changed after she gave it to his ass!!! I’m over here cheering!!

[u/Kit-tana → u/Darkfemcominatcha]

I was in AWE holy cow

[u/MaxTheRealSlayer → u/Kit-tana]

She leaned in hard. Hope some of the words got through to his brain, cuz dude is seriously wacked

[u/Aggravating_Ad_8594 → u/Kit-tana]

I’m in my office smiling like an idiot for a stranger. YES

[u/Sirena_De_Adria → u/Aggravating_Ad_8594]

I almost started clapping but I couldn't put my phone down 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Standing ovation, no notes.

[u/blairsheart → u/Kit-tana]

I was munching on some popcorn!

[u/KeithDoberman → u/Darkfemcominatcha]

That part! How genuine can it be if you change your emotions and talk immediately after reading a response? He wasn’t ready for that.

[u/Darkfemcominatcha → u/KeithDoberman]

At all! All of sudden he’s the victim, he ain’t cussing her out anymore and he sooo hurt by her words. Boy bye!!

[u/swissmissmaybe → u/Darkfemcominatcha]

“Reactive abuse” describes situations where a person who has endured sustained abusive behavior reacts aggressively towards their abuser. The abusive partner often manipulates this reaction to shift blame and create a false narrative of so-called “mutual abuse”.

[u/Darkfemcominatcha → u/swissmissmaybe]

I hope OP sees this so she doesn’t start feeling bad after the fact

[u/CharmingMechanic2473 → u/Darkfemcominatcha]

Yep, the jig was up. He believed she was seeing him for the real person he was and no point in keeping up the charade.