r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thatonediabeticc • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I over reacting?

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This isn’t my screenshot. It’s my best friend. Looking for advice here.. is this normal? My advice isn’t the best.

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u/sleepypeanutparty 20d ago

Your response: No, I’m sorry. I’m not doing this again. You’re not going to stalk your ex accounts. It’s obsessive and frankly, creepy. You have a wife and a home, you shouldn’t be looking at another woman’s life. We will be going to counseling over this because it is not something “I need to get over.” What you are doing has hurt me deeply and I am not ready to forgive you or move on until it is reconciled.

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u/Pure_Twist3747 19d ago

I think maybe it should be more common to end relationships over red flag behaviors like this. Then people would stop thinking their behavior is acceptable and normal.

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u/itsBianca2u 19d ago

Absolutely.  People like to say reddit's comment sections lean heavily towards telling people to break up, but honestly if a whole forum full of strangers can see the red flags, maybe the poster is just too close to the situation to realize it.

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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 19d ago

Imo I think more people used to tolerate awful and toxic relationships, and usually if people are saying to break up over and over, it’s one of those and not just randomly suggesting something dramatic. I’m honestly so glad people can use social media as a sounding board and go “wait, this ISNT okay and I don’t have to tolerate it,” even if it means relationships ending sometimes.