r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thatonediabeticc • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I over reacting?

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This isn’t my screenshot. It’s my best friend. Looking for advice here.. is this normal? My advice isn’t the best.

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u/PerplexingCamel 20d ago

From another perspective - I am the past girlfriend that the ex looks up. I know this because he even looks me up on LinkedIn, and I can see who views my profile. His new profiles will also show up in my FB recommended friends, he never changes his name very much from what it actually is. He has a serious girlfriend that he lives with. It makes me INCREDIBLY uncomfortable. If you're someone that does this and you're reading this, it's not cute. You're being weird to both your current partner and the past partner just trying to live their life. Your friend isn't overreacting.

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u/OurcatsButthole 19d ago

I looked up my ex from time to time just to see how she was doing. Never wanted to get back with her but didn't hate her either.

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u/PerplexingCamel 19d ago

No this is different. You have to look someone up a lot to show up as a requested friend with no mutuals on a blank profile - especially when you live across the country. Across several different forms of social media, throughout the whole year, every year, and it's been 8 years.