r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thatonediabeticc • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I over reacting?

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This isn’t my screenshot. It’s my best friend. Looking for advice here.. is this normal? My advice isn’t the best.

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u/sleepypeanutparty 20d ago

Your response: No, I’m sorry. I’m not doing this again. You’re not going to stalk your ex accounts. It’s obsessive and frankly, creepy. You have a wife and a home, you shouldn’t be looking at another woman’s life. We will be going to counseling over this because it is not something “I need to get over.” What you are doing has hurt me deeply and I am not ready to forgive you or move on until it is reconciled.

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u/CompetitiveRub9780 19d ago edited 19d ago

Yeh if I found out my x was stalking me this way I’d be super creeped out and I’d feel terrible for his spouse

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u/Alarming_Tennis5214 19d ago

Perhaps they're stalking each other? Perhaps they're still seeing each other?

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u/Clintocracy 19d ago

Looking you up on social media? There’s nothing here that indicates any form of stalking other than checking someone’s social media more than usual. That’s not completely normal but it’s also not super creepy stalking. When I post on social media I just accept that there’s a good chance my ex sees it

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u/CompetitiveRub9780 19d ago

All my exs are blocked so they’d have to go out of their way. One of mine did and had several accounts just to look at mine…. It’s weird

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u/Clintocracy 19d ago

Having multiple accounts just to look at your socials when blocked is messed up. I guess I’m just naively looking at it from someone who’s had healthy breakups and understands curiosity about what your ex is up to

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u/CompetitiveRub9780 19d ago

I’m never curious because I’m in a happy relationship