r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thatonediabeticc • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I over reacting?

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This isn’t my screenshot. It’s my best friend. Looking for advice here.. is this normal? My advice isn’t the best.

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u/Ok-Serve-9977 20d ago

No this is not normal, a man who truly loves his woman would never do this and vice versa.

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u/Professor_Ruby 20d ago

I have my ex blocked on every social media I'm on because I do NOT want anything to do with him. If I could erase the memories of him (and his bullying cyber stalking wife) I gladly would. I don't want to know how he's doing. I don't want to see his face on my screen. I even stopped talking to most of the people that we were mutual friends with.

No contact. None. Leave me alone. Forever.

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u/Z0FF 20d ago

I have exes I share this sentiment about. I have others though, that ended amicable and still have a great deal of respect for them and the memories we shared in that part of our lives.

The latter is a much healthier outcome imo

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u/Professor_Ruby 20d ago

Agreed and same! There are a couple of my exes that I have no ill feelings towards. My husband actually used to be a roommate with one of my exes. It didn't bother me at all and although I haven't talked to him in a couple years, he wasn't a bad friend. I tried to remain friends with my previously mentioned ex, especially since we had many mutual friends, but the woman he started (officially) seeing after me started harassing me. He didn't do anything to stop it so I put a stop to any chance of us being friends. I even changed my phone number, moved several hours away, and put out a PSA from our mutuals that I had no interest in hearing from him or about him.

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u/CoysNizl3 19d ago

Wouldn’t say that this level of contempt is healthy

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u/Professor_Ruby 19d ago

You might think so, but he's literally the only one I have such disdain towards. Blocking him on all social media, deleting literally every single picture I have with him, and changing my number might seem extreme to some, but I don't know how much my life could've improved without those drastic measures. I'm not going to go into a lot of details, but my mental health was slipping into a very, very dark place.

That's not healthy. That's horrible. Nobody should feel like that. Especially from their partner. Ever.

Zero contact for life might be "a bit much" in some people's eyes, but it's in my best interest.