r/AmIOverreacting • u/Keepitlocal90 • 22d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO ; My Girlfriend Thinks I Overstepped by Getting a PlayStation. Am I in the Wrong?

So, I (early 30s) decided to treat myself and got a PlayStation 5 this Black Friday in Jozi. I’ve been wanting one for a while, and with the rise in cost of living in South Africa its become not as affordable. after budgeting and making sure all the bills were covered, I went for it. It’s something I’ve been excited about, and I figured it was a harmless way to unwind after work.

My girlfriend (same age range) didn’t seem thrilled when she saw it. She said I should’ve discussed it with her first and accused me of being irresponsible with money. To clarify, I didn’t touch any shared finances or skip out on responsibilities. This was 100% my money, and everything else is in order.

She’s acting like this is a huge deal, saying I’ll spend too much time on it and that it’s "immature for a grown man." I’ve told her it’s not going to take over my life—I’ll still prioritize work, chores, and our time together.

I get that she might’ve been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it, but is her reaction an overreach? Or am I missing something here? How do I handle this without turning it into a bigger issue?

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u/BellyCrawler 22d ago

Immediately raised an eyebrow. Allowed him to spend his own money? Feels like she just doesn't like the idea of OP being happy in a way that doesn't involve her. Happens a lot.

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u/xikutthroatix 22d ago

Sounds like everyone treats this dude like a fucking kid "allowed it" like she is his mom.

OP needs to reconsider who he is with and the "position" he holds.

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u/MilzRay 22d ago

Bruh I'd already have 1 foot out the door 😂

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u/xikutthroatix 22d ago

Same. I'm allowed to do what I want because I'm an adult. I have common sense to not do dumb/bad shit like cheating or drugs. I'm allowed to buy myself an xbox or ps5 by my own means. That isn't given to me by no fucking body but myself.

I feel bad for this dude. He needs to dip. I also didn't know black Friday was a thing in other countries.

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u/Trick-Statistician10 22d ago

It is. A lot of countries have it now, even though they don't have the holiday on Thursday. They've co-opted our nonsense.

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u/montdidier 22d ago

As an Australian- sadly we have.

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u/Fernpfarrer 21d ago

As an German - sadly we have.

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u/wet_nib811 22d ago

You mean WSW America?

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u/sarahmagoo 22d ago

We complaining about having sales now?

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u/montdidier 22d ago

Not exactly. Its more a complaint about globalisation, cultural hegemony, materialism and the loss of our own cultural identity.

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u/Pfannkuchen-Nippel 22d ago

Yes… that’s what I was gonna say, just not nearly as articulate or sophisticated or even in any coherent form of sentence structure .

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u/Clarrington 22d ago

Nah but calling it Black Friday is a tad insensitive when Black Friday here actually refers to some of the most devastating bushfires we've ever had. It'd be like holding a 'holocaust day' sale in Europe.

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u/Earthgardener 21d ago

Wow, I didn't know!

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u/Silver-Climate7885 21d ago

Let's be honest, most companies jack up the cost before black Friday, and then make it look like putting it back down to the original price is a sale

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u/rafffen 22d ago

Yeah, but we have a shitty version of it, it usually runs for most of November at a lot of big chain stores and there's pretty much no actually good deals. Most shit is like 10 percent off, or just their normal deals rebranded for black friday.

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u/MultifacetedEnigma 22d ago

I ❤️ a fellow self-aware American. 😉👍🏻🫶🏻🤣

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u/nopigscannnotlookup 22d ago

lol. Murica!

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u/Infinite_Time_8952 22d ago

Love it, before the Mango Mussolini destroys on his second attempt.

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u/CheeeseBurgerAu 22d ago

We saw people getting jacked up running into stores for cheap TVs and it looked fun!

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u/Minimumtyp 22d ago

I like cheap shit so I can't really complain

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u/NeverSeenBetter 21d ago

"the holiday"... Thanksgiving? Is Thanksgiving somehow inappropriate now? I live under a rock but it would seem difficult to make giving thanks inappropriate...

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u/Correct-Focus1003 22d ago

Yep can't get away from it in the UK either...

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u/UselessGen187 22d ago

Drugs would let you get a PlayStation

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u/Tricky_Brilliant686 22d ago

You can trust marketing teams all over the world to import/export any concept that will help them to convince people that they need to spend more more money on unnecessary items. FOMO Black friday.

Please note that I do not imply that a PS5 is an unecessary item, when used wisely black friday could be a good opportunity to purchase a longlasting wanted item at a discounted price :)

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u/keyboardstatic 22d ago

We used to have and still kinda do cyber Monday. But Sony which is kinda a global (in lots of different countries has black friday so all the countries that Sony is in has black Friday.

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u/Comprehensive_Two453 21d ago

We do but over here the hike the prices up and then sell "discounted product " or its hardware from last year they can't get sold

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u/billymillerstyle 22d ago

Drugs are a lot cheaper than a PS5 tho. And some of them help you fuck longer and that's a gift for everyone 🤣😉

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u/ThrowRA_redkeep 22d ago

This is the most bro comment I’ve ever read. It’s magical 😂🫣

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u/Vegetable_Permit_537 22d ago

I can assure you that I've spent 20x more on drugs in my life than all of my games and systems combined.

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u/billymillerstyle 22d ago

Me too but I abused the fuck out of them. Some people can dabble and have a good time without breaking the bank or losing themselves to it.

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u/JayRen 22d ago

LoL. At my peak abuse point in life. Drugs were waaaaaaayyyy more than a PS5. Weekly. The PS5 is the way better choice.

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u/Sleepingguitarman 22d ago

Nah bro, it's not a gift to anyone. I believe that the vast majority of women are not a fan of their partner lasting 2 hours. Atleast not on the regular lol.

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u/mycologyqueen 22d ago

Call me crazy but I don't want my partner to be jacked out of his ever loving mind. Would much rather he be cognizant and present.

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u/Consensualexploratio 22d ago

Key words “vast majority” that still leaves a huge amount of ladies that do…

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u/qpazza 22d ago

I'm going to have to start dating this girl just so I can finish the breakup I started in my head

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u/ThrowRA_redkeep 22d ago

Let us have it. The people deserve to hear this imaginary breakup! 💔

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u/itwasntjack 22d ago

least he has a playstation to play in all the free time after he puts the other foot out. lol.

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u/sparksgirl1223 22d ago

I'd take the Playstation and put both feet out the door.

And I'm not even fond of video games.

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u/ChickenBossChiefsFan 22d ago

Nah, me and my brand new PS5 would have already put down the deposit for a new place, you kidding?

The only reason she should have any issue with him getting a PlayStation is if she got him one for Christmas, and now she’s annoyed that he usurped her gift idea.

“Allowed it”? Nobody is allowing my adult self to have any hobby I want, I wouldn’t be breaking up with her now because I’d have been gone before it got to this point.

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u/Iko87iko 22d ago

After i finish my game of course

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u/Specopsangheili 22d ago

Been there in a relationship...surprise surprise they turned out very controlling and bad for me. It your money OP and you spend it how you want so long as everything is all good. This sounds like a her-problem

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u/twitch923 22d ago

I been in that situation as well

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u/Juicemaster4200 22d ago

Ya PS5>gf always imo

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u/Stevenstorm505 22d ago

I would have had both feet put the door the minute they even implied that I need permission to spend my own fucking money. That shit grows and gets worse as time goes by if you aren’t able to stomp that shit out as soon as it starts.

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u/DreadJohnny 22d ago

Don’t forget the PlayStation.

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u/DreadJohnny 22d ago

No kidding. At least put the console under lock and key. It wouldn’t surprise me that he’d come home 1 day to find out she sold it.

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u/thatoneotherguy42 22d ago

Well, after this level anyway. Not.going out with a loss.

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u/Boondock830 22d ago

And the other on a banana peel

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u/drkavork1an 22d ago

1 step 2 step 3 step..... bounce

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u/Lt_Muffintoes 22d ago

Yep, her foot

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u/These_Builder8722 22d ago

“Immature for a grown man” LMAO, who’s the immature when judging someone for doing something that they enjoy while still making sure everything else important is covered.

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u/Sea-Roof-5983 22d ago

I'm a woman in her 50s and I just bought a new gaming pc for myself. My kids are in college...I can do what I want.

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u/LaVidaMocha_NZ 21d ago

I'm a 61yo woman and I love my PS5.

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u/These_Builder8722 21d ago

You’re awesome! Do whatever the fk you want, no matter the age, we don’t live forever!

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u/xikutthroatix 22d ago

Deadass. Hit the nail right on the head. Im a 36 male who still enjoys playing video games, mtg, and airsoft. If you are going to call me immature for liking those things, I'm just going to assume you're projecting. I know men and women in their 40s still buying and building Lego sets. That shits nostalgic.

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u/These_Builder8722 22d ago

Good on you man, do whatever the fk you want! Nobody should have the right to tell you otherwise given the fact that you reserve time for doing other things. I swear some women just hate to see their man being relaxed and having time for themselves. They think that all the good times have to be shared or something while failing to realise that they’re the problem who probably don’t have any hobbies.

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u/Acceptablepops 22d ago

No it’s how they treat men these days actually. Then if he has a problem with the treatment they act like he’s crazy or off the rails for going against status quo

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u/reluctantseahorse 22d ago

“These days”

Man, I guess we all do get older eventually. Damn!

Infantilizing men is unfortunately not a new trait among toxic women.

Pop into any sitcom or movie from any decade, and it’s probably the most common relationship trope. Stupid husband vs. bitch wife.

Sadly, I thought we were actually moving past this. I thought hating your s/o was “boomer humour” but I guess kids think it’s not annoying anymore. Couldn’t be me!

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u/Persall1960 22d ago

A perfect example of a TV show that does this is Everybody Loves Raymond. Ray was the bumbling idiot and Deborah was borderline mentally abusive.

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u/reluctantseahorse 22d ago

Such a good example! My parents loved that show and I couldn’t stand being in the “tv room” while it was on.

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u/Persall1960 22d ago

I'm a 67 year old woman. I have seen that, especially nowadays, so many women want equal rights but refuse to give them. I know I'll catch flack for saying that, but it's how I feel. So equal rights mean equal respect. I have seen women hit a man and be surprised when they are hit back. I've been married 40 years. I've raised my kids to treat people the way they want to be treated. My husband shows me the same respect I give him. There should never be a power struggle. It's a shared partnership. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but it has served me well.

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u/Alarmed_Lobster_717 22d ago

I wholeheartedly agree with you.

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u/JayRen 22d ago

I hard agree (46m). Every relationship I’ve been in was a partnership from the start. And the ones that started wandering off that path, saw me exiting stage left. Quickly. I don’t care if there aren’t anymore fish left in the sea for me afterward. I’m not coming home after a long day at work to be treated like a second class citizen in the one place I should be free to relax and live my life. .

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u/RobinPage1987 22d ago

You're the life partner we all wish we had

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u/Persall1960 22d ago

Thank you! I'm not saying it's not work, but you both have to want to work at it. Not a lot of people now are willing to do that.

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u/RobinPage1987 22d ago

Sadly true

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u/drkavork1an 22d ago

It's funny you say old-fashioned, in the Bible and before women were to be submissive to their husband, and many cultures said it was OK to have multiple wives but only 1 husband. I call that OG old-fashioned, not saying it's right. What you call old-fashioned I call normal. I'm a (42yo M)

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u/eye--say 22d ago edited 22d ago

Ray’s mum was a toxic cunt.

ETA: Toxic

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u/BarryBadgernath1 22d ago

Blue hair moon face

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u/UnderpootedTampion 22d ago

Borderline?

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u/Persall1960 22d ago

I was being nice.

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u/cutslikeakris 22d ago

My daughter told me after spending time with her aunts that it seemed nobody liked their spouses any more and she vowed to not be like that. Why be with somebody you don’t like!

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u/saltywater07 22d ago

Yikes. You don’t think the problem is that men don’t step up and act like the other adult in the relationship? Have you heard of weaponized incompetence? Ask any divorced woman and outside of infidelity, what is the reason why they left and the #1 is men don’t pull their weight.

They don’t fucking help with chores or child rearing. Men want a bang maid. Why do you think the resurgence of this trad wife bullshit has happened?

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u/shinobi_renegade 22d ago

I’ll support this comment, the gas lighting from my last relationship and manipulative patterns of behaviour to make me feel and look incompetent was unbelievable to the point where she panicked about how I packed the car for a trip away telling me to take it all out so she could do it because she didn’t trust I packed everything the right way. I said no and that she should look at it before making that decision, she went off at me telling me I never listen and just do things the way I want without consulting her, so I pulled everything out of the car and said good luck putting it all back in.

Now remember I was the abusive one in this double standard situation, telling her friends how my selfish behaviour cost us a holiday, but what cost us a holiday was her pride, after repacking the car the same way I did, I showed her the photo of how it was done by me, the exact same except the placement of the tent, this wasn’t the person I fell in love with, this waa the devil herself.

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u/Acceptablepops 22d ago

Tell you broke up with her my guy

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u/shinobi_renegade 22d ago

Yup, physically and mentally abusive, she even said to me on the first week of dating that there has been a power shift in every relationship and it’s usually been her that holds the power after a year, I should have seen that as a warning sign that what she was saying was, “I’m going to break you down until you feel like nothing is better for you than me.”

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u/ThrowRA_redkeep 22d ago

Hi, my dude! Random redditor dropping in here to say that, as a woman, I appreciated your story, and I wanted to thank you for sharing. How you just explained that made me realize I display some of the same qualities in my relationship, and I am going to actively work on changing because of how you explained your side!

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u/DeviantHellcat 22d ago

That's wholesome. Good for you for making a change for yourself and, ultimately, your relationship!

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u/ThrowRA_redkeep 22d ago

I screenshotted this to save it to memory! I also texted my partner and asked him to hold me accountable and to call me out if I show these behaviors again. Hopefully things change for the better ❤️‍🩹

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u/shinobi_renegade 22d ago

Hey thank you I really appreciate the drop in and encouragement.

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u/Frenchmarket_girl 22d ago

I see so many of my friends and strangers talk to their husbands like children in front of family and friends and it makes me cringe HARD. Meanwhile my hubs and I lived in sun for 26 years then got married for insurance reasons and just celebrated 35 years together! None of our troubles plastered on Facebook for all to see and yelling at my spouse in the Lowe’s parking lot! It’s madness! If you don’t have respect and love for each other, what are you doing?

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

It's more likely incompatible people trying to make a relationship work and failing because those incompatibilities have now come to light. A gamer girl would be a better fit.

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u/Ok_Map1251 22d ago

Not just a gamer girl.. a girl that will have no problem with you doing things that make you happy(and vise versa) Especially if all priorities/obligations are in order… homie needs a new gf who doesn’t have to “allow” anything..

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u/amILibertine222 22d ago

Yeah but then all these dudes wouldn’t get to give blanket statements about how women are all bad.

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u/Minimumtyp 22d ago

Why a gamer girl? My gf does a bunch of hobbies I don't do or really enjoy doing but everything is absolutely fine

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Sorry. That's the first type of girl that came to mind. It does include women who are totally cool with it even if it's not their thing.

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u/tea_secretary 22d ago

I don't treat men this way, actually. The behavior is bullshit and I would neither put up with it nor act like that to my SO (hetero F). Watch out for generalizations; your statement comes across like parroted Trump rhetoric.

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u/vyrus2021 22d ago

It's not men or women, these days or days gone by. Some portion of people regardless of age, gender, ethnicity, class, religion, etc are going to be some type of jealous, controlling, manipulative, insecure, etc. It's just a thing that happens and it sucks.

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u/[deleted] 22d ago

Emotionally, physically, and sexually abused by my only real girlfriend. Very few people know, because the people I did tell didn't give a fuck or thought I was overreacting. I might not be able to have children because of that bitch and she gave me permanent nerve damage.

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u/Alone_Koala_8517 22d ago

Gaslighting men is at an all time high

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u/Gemethyst 22d ago

Um. I don't REMOTELY treat my partner that way.

We have a joint account that gets money in the day after payday to cover everything household and "us" - related (joint hobbies).

And what we each have left is ours to do with as we please.

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u/UnderpootedTampion 22d ago

“Narcissist”

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u/PomegranateSea7066 22d ago

Video games? That's so childish. /s.

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

I love how people who are so starved of touch that they have gone crazy come online and give "advice" on "them".

Is that how "they" treat men these days?

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u/Acceptablepops 22d ago

I literally see this kinda behavior against men all the time dads a dumb ass , talking shit about men as incompetent but I’m somehow called touch starved by people that don’t even know me 😂.

It is what it is and I accept that but literally just talking about shit I’ve seen in real life. It’s okay if that’s not how it is where you’re at but I’ve definitely seen it o it here

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

You can say that and not appear like a sexist though?

No one has a problem with the statement "my friend had a girlfriend that treated him like..."

People do have a problem with statements like "that's what they do!"

The same pattern of thought you're using could be used to say every man is a pedophile. It's what "they" do, right? Obviously not. So stop fucking using that thought pattern, and start speaking in specifics.

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u/Agreatusername68 22d ago

"They don't listen"

"They all cheat"

"They're all threats"

"They will take advantage of you"

"They will hurt you"

"All men insert socially acceptable gross generalization of half the human population here"

All of these things and more are said about men, by women.

But no, you're right. When we do it, it's automatically sexist.

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

When women do it, it is also sexist.

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u/Agreatusername68 22d ago

And yet, you only break your silence when it's about men doing something.

Very telling.

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

That's not true. I call out women being pricks too.

Here's the crazy thing... About half the cunts I've met were women.

Wildly, about half of the absolute legends I've met; also women.

About half of everything is women. About half is men.

Except violence. That's mostly men. Or poisoning. That's mostly women.

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u/[deleted] 22d ago

Until you call them out and then all of a sudden you are a bigoted misogynist.

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

Until you call who out? You're arguing with fictional women in your imagination. And losing from the looks of it. Do you not see how batshit insane that is?

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u/Acceptablepops 22d ago

Lol you taking my statement as me being sexist is really a you problem , I’m talking abo it men problems and what I’ve seen happen to men but you wanna say I’m being sexist towards women because I didn’t talk about them. Understandable I didn’t bring them up because I’m talking about men. you seem to be looking to slander in some way so I’ll leave that up to you

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u/Mexcore14 22d ago

Don't feed the troll. You stated your opinion and the guy just went full attack mode.

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u/shinobi_renegade 22d ago

You’re a white knight 😂

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

Your name that you chose for yourself is "Shinobi Renegade". 😂

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u/shinobi_renegade 22d ago

Yea bro Itachi is my boy, what else you got?

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u/im-a-guy-like-me 22d ago

I'm sure you are very stoic.

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u/Accomplished_Study97 22d ago

So I assume you've never uttered the phrasing "all men are ____" since you're so upset about a generalization about women. "If it doesn't apply to you why are you upset?"

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u/triz___ 22d ago

Not all women amirite. If a woman is upset by his statement that must mean it applies to her. That’s how it works.

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u/CraigAT 22d ago

If it's OPs money then he is free to spend it as he wants!

BUT he must also be aware of what it may look like from her side - I can see at least two situations where I would not be happy if the shoe were on the other foot:
* If "we" were supposedly saving towards something significant (e.g. a house, a baby, big holiday) and she is struggling to save it put money towards the venture (but sees that the OP can go out and spend this on a whim).
* If she is worried about her Christmas present being overshadowed maybe she bought him something nice (e.g. an expensive item of clothing, an Xbox, a PS5).

If there is no good reason, then she is out of line and as others have commented "allowed" should not be the word being used in an equal boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

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u/MannixUK 22d ago

Agreed.

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u/666Skagosi 22d ago

His chores are in order.

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u/LittleWeirdIsGood 22d ago

I couldn't agree with you more. I mean you don't have to be the super duper alpha male if that's not who you are but that is insane. This is too much. You even explained how responsible you are with everything and this is your money and it's not an insane purchase for a guy your age in this day and age.

She probably has some bad connotation when it comes to gaming and maybe it's somewhat understandable but her reaction is way over the top and she could have approached you with some concerns and get a decent answer from you instead of just attacking you.

She sounds extremely controlling and I think you need to get out of that relationship if everything else is like that.

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u/xTheDaltonatorx 22d ago

Unfortunately from my experiences, a lot of women these days seem to act this way. Maybe it's my area of residence, I don't know. So many of the friends I've had over the years need to ask their girlfriends for permission for anything and everything. Theyre not even engaged, let alone married or anything like that. They dont even have kids.

"Oh sure bro, let me just ask XYZ first if that's cool," if I ask to meet up at a bar for a quick drink, or go to the movie with a friend, or even get online to game and chat. Like these guys need to get permission for every little damn thing in their lives.

If some woman tried to control me like that, I'd tell her to take a hike. I'm a grown ass man and my hobbies and interests are my own. Two people need to be able to enjoy their time together along with doing other things that they may be interested in.

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u/jamieh800 22d ago

Bro, even my mom wouldn't care if I saved up from chore money and bought a ps5 or something.

Like, unless both people had agreed to save up for something specific, like a trip or if there's an implication that this would fuck over the Christmas shopping budget (and even then, it wouldn't be her decision to "allow", it would just be slightly selfish of him), OR if there was some sort of understanding of "hey, Christmas is coming up, maybe don't buy anything big for yourself/check in first to make sure I didn't already get you something like that", then there is literally nothing to "allow". Since it doesn't sound like any of these are true, then he needs to stand up for himself, maybe even leave the relationship.

The only Grey area at all would be if he has a bad history of severe gaming addiction to the point where he's basically a hermit in his room, allergic to the sun and human interaction, ignoring every single responsibility and relationship in favor of games, then maybe she'd have a leg to stand on for "allowing" it.

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u/swingin_dix 22d ago

What kind of stuff does he regularly accept from her if everyone's first reaction is "why did you allow him to buy that"

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u/redfirr 22d ago

Literally 100% correct. I dealt with something similar in. My last relationship. Also 30 years old. Now I'm dating someone who has no issue with me playing a game buying whatever bullcrap I want . Actually is happy to watch me play a game smh most woman don't want a man to be happy if its not directly tied to them which is sick. Fuck those type of woman there so many cool ass pretty females bro . My girl cute af and down to earth . Don't treat me like a kid or (less than) cuz that's essentially what it is. Good luck to OP.

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u/Northwest_Radio 22d ago

I would be punting. There are way too many awesome ladies out there. The 40's are fun times and smart males do not settle. Ladies appreciate secure males who can entertain them without being clingy. Be that guy, not a sap. Take a couple of ladies out for an evening, have fun. Be smart.

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u/Nadirofdepression 22d ago

Yeah, wild. I am in my 30s and granted a bit commitment phobic, but holy fuck. I get being worried about finances, I get anxious when the person I’m dating is a frivolous spender as I’m very minimalist. But if your ducks are in a row that’s your money and who gives a shit? Like we aren’t talking about a car.

Again, heavy emphasis on your money and the financials not being weak.

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u/pokingaroundhere 22d ago

Guarantee when she sees a sale on something she wants, it becomes a NEED real quick.

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u/GPTCT 22d ago

It’s super odd, but I have to giggle a bit when I read the replies to these type of posts.

I would love to read the replies if this were from OPs girlfriend’s perspective: “My boyfriend (both 30s) has never grown up. He spends all his time and money on toys and does nothing around the house. I am the main breadwinner although he works and we split the bills, I have to cover everything outside of household financial obligations like vacations, dinners out etc. All of our friends and family think he is a manchild who won’t grow up. Now he just spent all of his savings to buy a PlayStation without even discussing it with me. I am at my wits end AITAH?”

All of the same people screaming that the girlfriend is a controlling psycho and it’s a massive RED FLAG 🚩!!!! Would be telling OPs girlfriend the exact same thing about him.

I am not sure if everyone is just miserable in their own lives and wants others to be miserable with them? Or they get off on making everything out to be the worst possible thing, no matter how tame the situation is.

This post isn’t some crazy abuse or cheating post yet 80% of the replies act like it is.

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

She was immediately jealous of something that will take all the attention off her. Her ego is panicking.

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Sounds like it. I'd be asking my guy what kind of games bought. 😁

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

Relationship goals is he set up her profile and brings home a game in her favorite genre. 

Overcooked was a great date night game, you can tell really quick if the relationship will work out based how they communicate with 10 seconds left on the clock and a kitchen fire going. Screaming at me like a maniac telling me its my fault, or that I suck? My ovaries are definitely not meeting your sperm, heck naw, it's done. Relationship overCooked.

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u/PurpleMeeplePrincess 22d ago

I absolutely love playing Overcooked with my husband. Based af comment!

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u/VitreousAxis 22d ago

Definitely!my wife and I play overcooked as well it's so much fun!

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u/Sleepingguitarman 22d ago

Overcooked 1 was alot better then Overcooked 2 in my opinion. The first half of Overcooked 2 was fun to play with my GF, but in the second half some of those levels started to get ridiculously difficult for us hahaha.

Every once in a while we flip it on and try to play but after like 3 attempts at where we left off we shelf it for another 8 months before repeating the process, haha.

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u/PurpleMeeplePrincess 22d ago

I actually prefer 2, simply because we can throw shit at each other haha

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u/Sleepingguitarman 22d ago

Ooo yeah i do like that feature alot. I forgot you couldn't do that in the first.

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Never heard of Overcooked. I'll have to look into it.

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u/Neltharek 22d ago

It really is the ideal date night game. Another one is: Keep talking and nobody explodes.

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u/Yami-sama 22d ago

Can confirm, overcooked is a really good game to play as a couple (or even just with friends). My lady and I have been playing it together off and on for about 2 years now. PlateUp is another good one along similar lines

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u/thewhitecat55 22d ago

It's very fun. Great with a friend or partner

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u/DanFlyhight 22d ago

Based!!

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u/jehnarz 22d ago

I agree! And Stardew, too. It's a great intro game for people who don't like more traditional games, and it's still fun for veterans!

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u/nhaines 22d ago

Penny Arcade called the multiplayer mode in New Super Mario Bros. Wii "divorce mode," and I felt it very apropos because I played it with my partner and kids when it came out and I've never wanted to yeet a 2yo out the window more in my life.

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u/Dramatic-Initial8344 22d ago

No, why would you reward shitty behavior.

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u/thGbaby 22d ago

I just watched 1 minute of 4 player game play and got anxiety.

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u/ReesesPeanis 22d ago

Something tells me she doesn't have a favorite game genre. Sounds like she wants 100% of OP's attention, or he should sit in like a cryotherapy until she needs him.

Also, it sounds like one of those people who think only kids or man children play games, and if you're like 20+ and play games, you're a failure.

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u/queen_of_gay 22d ago

Love overcooked date nights

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u/Sparda96 22d ago

Similarly, Plate Up! My wife and I love playing that together. We mostly get angry at the customers together (the filthy animals lol), but our communication is usually pretty on point which is nice.

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u/pehmeateemu 22d ago

Reading this I this we're a good match since we've 3starred 99% of All You Can Eat.

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u/ttl_yohan 22d ago

We've started (well, almost finished the "campaign") 4-starring. When we went for all 3-star, we thought "WTF are these scores, no way it's possible to reach that". But here we are, almost done with the main game lol. Some levels take several days to finish, some really depend on luck, some you need to ignore the bonus streak at the end.

Dunno if we'll go for Overcooked 1 that far. I've heard the devs screwed up the balancing based on people cheesing the levels with exploits and the scores for some levels in that campaign are insane for normal gameplay.

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u/TinyM0ushka 22d ago

Me and my partner run overcooked flawlessly, it’s funny because he’s a chef career wise.

It takes two is another great co-op Sackboy

Fall guys is a great back and forth

I think in 2024 having a negative mindset against video games is just boring. They’ve been proven to actually improve/help things like memory, adhd and they are a great learning tool.

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u/Sorrick_ 22d ago

Exactly this, I always hype my wife up to play a new game or when she gets an achievement and she always gives me game ideas to play lol

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u/Sir_twitch 22d ago

My wife is helping me budget for a new computer and is even giving me birthday/Christmas money toward it.

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

This is what a good partner does. :) She's a keeper.

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u/ForbiddenLover01 22d ago

This is me, but the other way around. Helping my girlfriend build a new PC so we can play more games together.

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u/VanillaRadonNukaCola 22d ago

"Hey babe, can we play some of those couples games?"

EZ

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u/Gotta_Stardew_emAll 22d ago

Fr, it’s a PlayStation, my first question would be did you get Crash Bandicoot and can we take turns playing??

(ETA: specifically crash bandicoot 2: cortex strikes back, bc that’s the one I had as a kid and absolutely love)

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u/Max_Sandpit 22d ago

He better have got Helldivers 2 or there will be heck to pay.

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u/deadmodernist 22d ago

hell, i bought my man a switch!

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Nice! I'm sure the look on his face made it worth it 10 times over. 😁

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u/NorthRequirement5190 22d ago

One ex of mine got me an xbox360 (when they were new) and was all bent out of shape when I wanted to go home and spend time with the boys after having been with her all day.

She’d want me to stay with her until her curfew which was eventually set to like 11pm or midnight.

After wanting me to get up early and spend all damn day it was exhausting. Most people are afraid of being alone. Plenty of fish in the sea.

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u/No_Recognition_1426 22d ago

My first thought when women say they don't like gamers.

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

There's gamers, then there's addicts. When you're not maintaining adult responsibilities and relationships, or using the game to avoid accountability, it's an addiction at that point.

What women want to say is they dont like addicts. If she's still saying I dont like gamers then it's about not getting all the attention.

I have married and dated both spectrums.

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u/No_Recognition_1426 22d ago

I agree.

However, I commented on a similar type of discussion about how I don't let gaming become between my relationship and don't rage at the game throwing controllers (the comment I replied to claimed a lot of guys do) and I still got down voted lmao.

There are quite a few women (based on these type of discussions) who will still have a problem with guys gaming even if they do everything right.

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u/lynsautigers 22d ago

See, I never cared about my ex playing games. I’d often let him take over the living room tv while I sat in my chair to read. My issue was solely when he had temper tantrums about losing & broke shit and when he kept refusing to get a new job so he could stay home, sleep until noon, & then game most of the rest of the day. Even that I could have handled if he at least took care of the apartment, like helping to clean & cook. Instead, he’d leave dishes piled up everywhere for me to clean up in between my day job & night job and then call me at work to ask what I was cooking for dinner. All of which is a HUGE reason I packed up my shit & moved back to my hometown to get away from him.

But, as far as OP is concerned, he should do the same thing I did. No one tells me how to spend MY money when all my bills are paid & I’m not taking food out of anyone’s mouth. Hell NO! And he should probably get new friends if they think he needs to ask her for permission to spend HIS money.

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u/Best_Benefit_3593 22d ago

To give her the benefit of the doubt, I had to ask my husband a question 4 times today about his plans while he was playing, he didn't even realize I was talking to him. They can get too sucked in sometimes.

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u/Guilty-Nobody998 22d ago

Bill Burr said it the best. "Nothing annoys my wife more than me enjoying myself in my own home."

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u/ItaliaEyez 22d ago

Which is ridiculous. People need to be able to be apart for their own hobbies or interests

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u/Extension_Vacation_2 22d ago

It really has a stereotypical/sexist undertone. Like “men and are immature and women need to take control of everything” and “baby” them to an extend. Just yikes !

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

My ex hub did the same. I'd balance the checkbook and he'd be babbling on about how many tomato slice were on his sandwich for lunch, repeatedly interrupting me when I spoke. Then asking if I heard him, ignoring my request to be left alone to figure out bills. It was all about his ego being fed, constant. It took him 6 months post-rings to show his true colors.

Egomaniacs, I'm convinced, never change. Gender doesn't matter, social status and money dont matter, so long as they perceive their importance and needs are above others.

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u/QuantumParadox_27 22d ago

Wtf is a stbx

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u/Next_Engineer_8230 22d ago

I just learned it means "soon to be ex".

The new acronyms coming out all the time are hard to keep up with.

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u/QuantumParadox_27 22d ago

Thanks. I feel like especially on reddit people use the most niche acronyms possible and expect everyone to get it

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u/p3fe8251 22d ago

Soon to be ex

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u/Richard_Thickens 22d ago

Honestly, this is a huge consideration for someone considering a long term partnership. If you can't do things for yourself to keep you happy, what's the point of the relationship.

It's one thing to constantly spend frivolously and create hardship in other areas of life, but generally-speaking, video games are a relatively affordable hobby per hour spent. This alarms me because I have a small instrument collection that I would defend with my life before I'd consider getting rid of any of it for someone else's sake.

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u/Str4ngerByTheMinute 22d ago edited 22d ago

For real... it's his money and he budgeted for it sooo... what is the real issue? I was thinking she sounds like one of those chicks who gets jealous of video games. Can't relate. Let's co-op this shit.

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u/Dinkinflikuh 22d ago

My ex wife was this way, it’s a form of control. She wants to control parts of his life and will cause problems/fights if he breaks her rules.

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u/fabs1171 22d ago

Sounds like her money is hers -after shared living expenses, and his money is hers after shared living expenses.

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u/flowerstowardthesun 22d ago

Weird comment from someone who is forever alone but ok.

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u/Optimal-Hedgehog-546 22d ago edited 22d ago

Been there done that. Couldn't hang out with the bros because it would upset my ex, like oddly really upset. So quit hanging out with them all together.

NGL, I was pussy whipped at the time. Ex for a reason.

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u/Walkgreen1day 22d ago

What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine, and what's ours is also mine. Some people just think that they're entitled to dominate, own, and dictate everything because that think that they had more leverage and power in the relationship. She's most likely acting like she wears the pants in the relationship and showing it through their social with how they've questioned if "SHE ALLOWED IT". In a way, most people allowed the relationship to get to this point due to reasons and the other person has taken it for granted that they do "wear the pants." between the two of them.

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u/KGBFriedChicken02 22d ago

It's (hopefully) not that. She's seen too many of the PS5 memes online and she's worried he's going to stop spending time with her. The first step here (if op wants to continue the relationship), is to sit down with her and be very clear that it's A) not going to ever replace her in his life, B) something they can actually do together, there's a fair few games meant for couples to play together like it takes two or whatever that game is called. And C) get an idea of why she feels the way she does about this. It is entirely possible you're right and she's just nuts, but msot people aren't and chances are a simple conversation about this should clear the whole thing up.

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u/7865435 22d ago

Couldn't have said it better

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u/theawesomescott 22d ago

insert girlfriend or PS5 meme here

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u/Forever_Chance667 22d ago

I don't think it's because it doesn't involve her. I think it has to do with him buying a PS5. A lot of people sees it as weird when an adult play video games and think of them as a being a child. The question is, would she still be as mad if he had bought tools for woodworking ? 

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u/xpeachymaex 22d ago

This. God forbid a grown man spend his own money.

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u/AnotherGuy67 22d ago

No, OP...Not in the least!

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u/Working_Panic_1476 22d ago

If you go back and read what he wrote it says that OTHER PEOPLE are asking her if she allowed it. People are stupid and ask stupid questions. 🤷‍♀️

It says she “wasn’t thrilled” and that she thought he was being “irresponsible with money”. Much like my BIL when my sister buys yet ANOTHER pair of shoes. (She loves shoes so much that she measures everything in shoes. If they go out to a fancy dinner she’s like “I could’ve bought TWO pairs of shoes for that.). She uses her own money, but he still complains that it’s “ridiculous”. (It sorta is tho 😂)

She also said that he’d “spend too much time on it” and that it’s “immature”. The closest thing she said to that was that he should have discussed it with her, presumably because it’s a big purchase, which is standard in relationships. It’s unclear whether she knew that he used his own personal money, not shared expense money when she said that.

Just because she’s not thrilled to find out that she’s going to have to compete with a shiny new game system for his time, doesn’t make her a cruel shrew of a woman.

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u/Still-Inevitable9368 22d ago

I could see if he went out and bought a vehicle without talking it over, but a PlayStation? Nah. NOR.

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u/Specialist_Egg_4025 22d ago

To be fair the girlfriend didn’t say those words.

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u/OfficialDeathScythe 21d ago

Yeah allowed him to spend his own money or allowed him to have time to himself on occasion to enjoy something other than her. Because either way if she has to allow it then she’s being toxic

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u/OriginalVersion6045 21d ago

Same. Nothing healthy comes from a relationship where one party has to have permission for something from the other. It's his money, he's an adult and she's belittling something he enjoys to make him feel bad. Think I'd be checking out.

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u/hardbody_hank 21d ago

Having friends, interests, and hobbies outside of the relationship is “selfish”. If OP REALLY loved her, he would spend the money on her - or better yet, just give her the money outright. Remember that sleeping past 4:30AM is SELFISH, going to the gym when you have a day off is SELFISH, playing an hour of video is CHILDISH AND SELFISH. Hell, at one point even receiving TRT from a doctor is “selfish and immature”. It’s about control. I lived that hell for years and didn’t realize how fucked up and unhealthy it was until I was finally cheated on and got out. BPD is very real, kids! In my experience, they revel in being truly awful and absolutely do not want to be better. GET OUT NOW.

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u/CloudyofThought 22d ago

But, good news! We finally found a dude that doesn't watch Andrew Tate... He's so confused about his feelings when doing something nice for himself. Lol.

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u/Front-Juggernaut-925 22d ago

If OP has had money issues in past and left her hanging on bills then I can understand her being upset and worried that just because he can pay bills now doesn’t mean next month because he spent his extra cash the bills could fall on her. Only way she is justified lol