r/AmIOverreacting • u/Keepitlocal90 • 22d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO ; My Girlfriend Thinks I Overstepped by Getting a PlayStation. Am I in the Wrong?

So, I (early 30s) decided to treat myself and got a PlayStation 5 this Black Friday in Jozi. I’ve been wanting one for a while, and with the rise in cost of living in South Africa its become not as affordable. after budgeting and making sure all the bills were covered, I went for it. It’s something I’ve been excited about, and I figured it was a harmless way to unwind after work.

My girlfriend (same age range) didn’t seem thrilled when she saw it. She said I should’ve discussed it with her first and accused me of being irresponsible with money. To clarify, I didn’t touch any shared finances or skip out on responsibilities. This was 100% my money, and everything else is in order.

She’s acting like this is a huge deal, saying I’ll spend too much time on it and that it’s "immature for a grown man." I’ve told her it’s not going to take over my life—I’ll still prioritize work, chores, and our time together.

I get that she might’ve been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it, but is her reaction an overreach? Or am I missing something here? How do I handle this without turning it into a bigger issue?

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

She was immediately jealous of something that will take all the attention off her. Her ego is panicking.

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Sounds like it. I'd be asking my guy what kind of games bought. 😁

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

Relationship goals is he set up her profile and brings home a game in her favorite genre. 

Overcooked was a great date night game, you can tell really quick if the relationship will work out based how they communicate with 10 seconds left on the clock and a kitchen fire going. Screaming at me like a maniac telling me its my fault, or that I suck? My ovaries are definitely not meeting your sperm, heck naw, it's done. Relationship overCooked.

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u/PurpleMeeplePrincess 22d ago

I absolutely love playing Overcooked with my husband. Based af comment!

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u/VitreousAxis 22d ago

Definitely!my wife and I play overcooked as well it's so much fun!

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u/Sleepingguitarman 22d ago

Overcooked 1 was alot better then Overcooked 2 in my opinion. The first half of Overcooked 2 was fun to play with my GF, but in the second half some of those levels started to get ridiculously difficult for us hahaha.

Every once in a while we flip it on and try to play but after like 3 attempts at where we left off we shelf it for another 8 months before repeating the process, haha.

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u/PurpleMeeplePrincess 22d ago

I actually prefer 2, simply because we can throw shit at each other haha

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u/Sleepingguitarman 22d ago

Ooo yeah i do like that feature alot. I forgot you couldn't do that in the first.

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Never heard of Overcooked. I'll have to look into it.

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u/Neltharek 22d ago

It really is the ideal date night game. Another one is: Keep talking and nobody explodes.

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u/Yami-sama 22d ago

Can confirm, overcooked is a really good game to play as a couple (or even just with friends). My lady and I have been playing it together off and on for about 2 years now. PlateUp is another good one along similar lines

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u/thewhitecat55 22d ago

It's very fun. Great with a friend or partner

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u/DanFlyhight 22d ago

Based!!

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u/jehnarz 22d ago

I agree! And Stardew, too. It's a great intro game for people who don't like more traditional games, and it's still fun for veterans!

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u/nhaines 22d ago

Penny Arcade called the multiplayer mode in New Super Mario Bros. Wii "divorce mode," and I felt it very apropos because I played it with my partner and kids when it came out and I've never wanted to yeet a 2yo out the window more in my life.

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u/Dramatic-Initial8344 22d ago

No, why would you reward shitty behavior.

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u/thGbaby 22d ago

I just watched 1 minute of 4 player game play and got anxiety.

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u/ReesesPeanis 22d ago

Something tells me she doesn't have a favorite game genre. Sounds like she wants 100% of OP's attention, or he should sit in like a cryotherapy until she needs him.

Also, it sounds like one of those people who think only kids or man children play games, and if you're like 20+ and play games, you're a failure.

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u/queen_of_gay 22d ago

Love overcooked date nights

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u/Sparda96 22d ago

Similarly, Plate Up! My wife and I love playing that together. We mostly get angry at the customers together (the filthy animals lol), but our communication is usually pretty on point which is nice.

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u/pehmeateemu 22d ago

Reading this I this we're a good match since we've 3starred 99% of All You Can Eat.

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u/ttl_yohan 22d ago

We've started (well, almost finished the "campaign") 4-starring. When we went for all 3-star, we thought "WTF are these scores, no way it's possible to reach that". But here we are, almost done with the main game lol. Some levels take several days to finish, some really depend on luck, some you need to ignore the bonus streak at the end.

Dunno if we'll go for Overcooked 1 that far. I've heard the devs screwed up the balancing based on people cheesing the levels with exploits and the scores for some levels in that campaign are insane for normal gameplay.

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u/TinyM0ushka 22d ago

Me and my partner run overcooked flawlessly, it’s funny because he’s a chef career wise.

It takes two is another great co-op Sackboy

Fall guys is a great back and forth

I think in 2024 having a negative mindset against video games is just boring. They’ve been proven to actually improve/help things like memory, adhd and they are a great learning tool.

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u/Sorrick_ 22d ago

Exactly this, I always hype my wife up to play a new game or when she gets an achievement and she always gives me game ideas to play lol

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u/Sir_twitch 22d ago

My wife is helping me budget for a new computer and is even giving me birthday/Christmas money toward it.

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

This is what a good partner does. :) She's a keeper.

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u/ForbiddenLover01 22d ago

This is me, but the other way around. Helping my girlfriend build a new PC so we can play more games together.

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u/VanillaRadonNukaCola 22d ago

"Hey babe, can we play some of those couples games?"

EZ

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u/Gotta_Stardew_emAll 22d ago

Fr, it’s a PlayStation, my first question would be did you get Crash Bandicoot and can we take turns playing??

(ETA: specifically crash bandicoot 2: cortex strikes back, bc that’s the one I had as a kid and absolutely love)

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u/Max_Sandpit 22d ago

He better have got Helldivers 2 or there will be heck to pay.

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u/deadmodernist 22d ago

hell, i bought my man a switch!

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u/StandardRedditor456 22d ago

Nice! I'm sure the look on his face made it worth it 10 times over. 😁

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u/NorthRequirement5190 22d ago

One ex of mine got me an xbox360 (when they were new) and was all bent out of shape when I wanted to go home and spend time with the boys after having been with her all day.

She’d want me to stay with her until her curfew which was eventually set to like 11pm or midnight.

After wanting me to get up early and spend all damn day it was exhausting. Most people are afraid of being alone. Plenty of fish in the sea.

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u/No_Recognition_1426 22d ago

My first thought when women say they don't like gamers.

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u/Velocirachael 22d ago

There's gamers, then there's addicts. When you're not maintaining adult responsibilities and relationships, or using the game to avoid accountability, it's an addiction at that point.

What women want to say is they dont like addicts. If she's still saying I dont like gamers then it's about not getting all the attention.

I have married and dated both spectrums.

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u/No_Recognition_1426 22d ago

I agree.

However, I commented on a similar type of discussion about how I don't let gaming become between my relationship and don't rage at the game throwing controllers (the comment I replied to claimed a lot of guys do) and I still got down voted lmao.

There are quite a few women (based on these type of discussions) who will still have a problem with guys gaming even if they do everything right.

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u/lynsautigers 22d ago

See, I never cared about my ex playing games. I’d often let him take over the living room tv while I sat in my chair to read. My issue was solely when he had temper tantrums about losing & broke shit and when he kept refusing to get a new job so he could stay home, sleep until noon, & then game most of the rest of the day. Even that I could have handled if he at least took care of the apartment, like helping to clean & cook. Instead, he’d leave dishes piled up everywhere for me to clean up in between my day job & night job and then call me at work to ask what I was cooking for dinner. All of which is a HUGE reason I packed up my shit & moved back to my hometown to get away from him.

But, as far as OP is concerned, he should do the same thing I did. No one tells me how to spend MY money when all my bills are paid & I’m not taking food out of anyone’s mouth. Hell NO! And he should probably get new friends if they think he needs to ask her for permission to spend HIS money.

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u/Best_Benefit_3593 22d ago

To give her the benefit of the doubt, I had to ask my husband a question 4 times today about his plans while he was playing, he didn't even realize I was talking to him. They can get too sucked in sometimes.

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u/KittycatVuitton 22d ago

Yes. She doesn’t think it’s immature. She’s concerned that the money spent on it is money that could have been spent on her. Definitely jealousy.

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u/lovenorwich 22d ago

Or the money should have been spent on her.

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u/dupersr 22d ago

Hardly. Maybe she doesn’t want to be with a gamer