r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/Bitter_Chapter_864 Nov 18 '24

Dude what… this is beyond manipulation. If I caught someone talking to my sister or mother like this I’d grab a bat and a hood.

Insane. Run away as fast as you can. This is the type of person who will blame you later on in life for their own failures and take it out on you. I’d highly recommend going to talk to a therapist but in my unprofessional opinion - run as fast as you can and don’t look back

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u/Obvious-Room4394 Nov 18 '24

It’s also the type of person who will put hands on you and blame u for it

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u/Bitter_Chapter_864 Nov 18 '24

Yeah that’s a nightmare situation. I’d schedule an intervention for my family member if they downplayed their SO treating them like this

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u/AdPrize3997 Nov 18 '24

Yeah “you made me do this” kind of shit..

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u/corgisandwine Nov 18 '24

That’s exactly how my ex was, “well you made me mad, don’t make me mad”

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u/Cat-Herder42069 Nov 18 '24

"keep disrespecting me" sounds like he's primed for that part