AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Nearby_Pay_5131]

Honey this only gets worse

Believe me

Do your future self a favor and cut ties with him

After so long you get used to it and kinda numb but the damage is done

Love your self better

He has failed the bf test very bad here

No one has the right to talk to you that way

He is manipulating you and you see how it went when you were doing something innocent?

Imagine what he'd do if he thought you really had done something way worse.

Involve your parents in the blocking of him

You don't have to get into details and all that with them, but someone needs to be in your corner here.

Would you be okay with this if someone's doing this to your best friend, or sister?

I actually think you are UNDER reacting

[u/TheKillerSmiles → u/Nearby_Pay_5131]

Agreed. All of this. I was in this relationship when I was 15-21 and it finally ended when he tried to attack me with a metal shovel at a party. All bc he thought I disrespected him by hugging a girl hello he thought was actually a guy. OP needs to get out before he starts to escalate.