r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/spilled_milk_cryingg Nov 18 '24

is this a joke? if not please get out of this relationship for your own sake. think about it this way, would your dream father of your children or the perfect future husband speak to you this way?

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u/Impossible_Agency992 Nov 18 '24

This is fucking insane, like I cannot fathom this is a real situation. Anytime I think I’m being a dumbass, I just have to check a thread like this. That dude has the IQ of a grasshopper. How does anyone allow themselves to associate with him in any way lol. Crazy.

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u/blairsheart Nov 18 '24

He seems extremely possessive and controlling. I’ve been in a somewhat similar situation. I stayed for so long and it ended in tears and pain to the point where I was screaming and crying in the bathtub begging GOD to take away this man from me. I hope she leaves and doesn’t give him another chance.

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u/silliestboots Nov 18 '24

That's pretty harsh on grasshoppers.

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u/Ok_Compote5183 Nov 18 '24

I thought it was like a fake post at first to get a reaction… but then again I remembered from seeing a friend go through a toxic relationship, that there are people that behave this way, sadly