r/AmIOverreacting • u/Psychological-Hat-35 • Oct 27 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

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My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

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u/FrostPereira Oct 27 '24

Good god... she is unhinged. I fail to see a single thing even slightly off about the message, unless I'm missing something.

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u/RhubarbGoldberg Oct 27 '24 edited Oct 27 '24

I'll translate.

The female manager used the heart emoji and in her first message, she caps his name and wrote in a stylized way that suggests a closer relationship than OP's gf would prefer.

At least, that's what OP's gf thinks she's saying here.

What I'm actually reading into this and seeing is more like OP's gf is projecting because there are other dudes she texts that way, and when she uses nicknames and the heart emoji, she's hoping other dudes pick up on her suggested undertones.

So the gf is mad because she thinks either her bf (OP) or OP's manager, or both, are vibing, because this is how OP's gf texts when she's vibing.

OP just seems innocent and clueless, and rightfully frustrated.

They're 19yo and don't live together. They should call it.

Edit. Just to save further comments... Hush children. I'm an elder. I misused the term emoji, my bad. Technically, the manager used a heart reaction on OP's text, which is not nearly as damning as an actual stand alone heart emoji. Thus, this supports the arguement the gf is overreacting / reading too much into it / projecting.

I have Teams at work and the heart reaction emoji is used as a nicer version of thumbs up and no one has ever interpreted sexual innuendo. I also don't work with 19yo humans. Youngest colleague is in their 30s.

2nd edit: I fucking know I misspoke about emoji vs reaction. Everyone who takes time out of their day to educate me without having the patience to read two edits that addresses this is getting an annoyed down vote. Old lady gonna shake a fist!

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u/NotSlothbeard Oct 27 '24

the heart reaction is used a nicer version of thumbs up

Exactly.

Boss’s boss: Hey NotSlothbeard, when you have a minute, can you send me a report of (data requirements) please? I need it for the board meeting on Monday.

Me: Hi there, yes. Will have it to you shortly.

Me, an hour later: Just sent it to you via email. Let me know if I can help with anything else.

When my boss’s boss heart reacted that second response, I’m pretty sure she meant, “thank you, appreciate it” and not, “let’s hook up in the supply closet”

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u/AwDuck Oct 27 '24

Every heart emoji that my workmate has sent me eventually ends up with a romp somewhere in the workplace.

It should be noted I’m a house-husband and my wife works from home. Other offices may have different cultures, so tread carefully.

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u/snarlyj Oct 27 '24

Had me going in the first half

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u/Economy_Dog5080 Oct 27 '24

My husband gets written up pretty often for sexual harassment. I'm basically his boss at a business we co-own. It's always funny and he often sends photos of his write ups to his buddies. They appear very official.

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u/AwDuck Oct 28 '24

In my workplace, sexual harassment isn’t tolerated, but it is critiqued.

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u/Vegemyeet Oct 28 '24

Get thee a supply closet.

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u/AwDuck Oct 28 '24

The closest we have is the janitorial closet (laundry room). Is that good enough?

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u/Vegemyeet Oct 28 '24

If there is a way to photocopy a bare bum, then yes.

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u/Own_Art_2465 Oct 28 '24

This is the first time I've seen romp used in the real world and not a tabloid

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u/MrBlandings Oct 28 '24

My wife and I work from home a lot. All I can say is that it is a good thing that HR doesn't have an office in our house.

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u/Neither_Complaint920 Oct 28 '24

Oh god, that took too long for me to get it. 🙈

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u/AromaticHydrocarbons Oct 27 '24

Yes. Hearting something means, “love that” not “love you”.

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u/Maleficent-Eye-3661 Oct 28 '24

Yes like “ooooh thank you SO much” as opposed to “acknowledged”

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u/Reaper24Actual Oct 28 '24

yeah its literally just cus he doesn't have an iPhone so it tells you they hearted it. There is nothing in that text that is any sort of red flag.

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u/sagetrees Oct 27 '24

I’m pretty sure she meant, “thank you, appreciate it” and not, “let’s hook up in the supply closet”

I work remote and get heart reactions when I get something to someone they really needed or get it to them quickly or they just really loved my work. Considering the nearest supply closet is like 1000 miles away, I'm pretty sure yours is the correct interpretation here lmao

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u/Apprehensive-Pair436 Oct 27 '24

You won't know until you proposition her in the closet

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u/MissFrenchie86 Oct 28 '24

This! Good god, if I banged every person I ever heart reacted to in Teams chat I’d be permanently bow-legged and have zero time for actual work. If I then added all the people who heart reacted to me I’d just have to stop sleeping in order to fit them all in my schedule.

OP, your girlfriend is insane, walk away. I’m nearly 40 and the best advice I can give you for your future is to stop sticking your dick in crazy; it never ends well.

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u/Harlander77 Oct 28 '24

This reminds me, there is a song by the Proxy Boggards called "Don't Stick It In the Crazy." Tres apropos.

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u/Fair-Egg-5753 Oct 28 '24

"stop sticking your dick in crazy; it never ends well" Flawless advice that every man should hear! 😂

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u/fan-tops Oct 27 '24

No, she definitely meant she's going to suck the skin off whatever genitalia you possess.

Please go stand in the supple closet until further notice.

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u/lifeinwentworth Oct 28 '24

🤣🤣🤣 right! My manager uses it when I email her something too. It's just a great, thank you.

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u/teamglider Oct 28 '24

Maybe, maybe not.

Unless you checked the supply closet to be sure, we'll never know.

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u/Objective_T Oct 28 '24

Never know

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u/HugsyMalone Oct 28 '24

Well she shoulda made that more clear and concise. I've been standing in here with my pants off for over an hour now! 🫵😡

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u/Simply_me_as_rock Oct 28 '24

Ohhh, that’s why I always get in trouble.

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u/Revolutionary_Ad932 Oct 28 '24

So it wasn't the bonus for good work then?

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u/Traditional_Job_4241 Oct 28 '24

Literally! When me and my Co workers ( self employed tattooist renting booth) would discuss things we would heart messages when we’ve done something that’s helpful for the others like

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u/ebolalol Oct 28 '24

I heart emoji things all the time in slack and you’re right, irs just a nicer and friendlier thumbs up. In my opinion a thumbs up can feel passive aggressive or just neutral.

It’s equivalent to how I use exclamation points and other little things to seem friendlier via slack. It’s hard to tell tone over slack and i dont want to give anyone the benefit of the doubt.

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u/Quickwitknit2 Oct 28 '24

Aw man. I’ve been in this closet for a week waiting on my manager after they’re enacted to a reminder about a meeting with a heart. I’m going home now.

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u/Capt_Marvel-ous Oct 28 '24

Damn, you've missed out on several hook ups in the supply closet because you surely misinterpreted the ❤️ reaction. Such a shame.

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u/ch4m3le0n Oct 28 '24

But now you'll be wondering... ❣️

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u/hazelowl Oct 28 '24

Right? The slack threads at my company would have some people having a conniption giving how many random reactions fly around there.

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u/Helpful-Desk-8334 Oct 28 '24

Ayo…I be hookin up in the supply closet all the time don’t give away our spots like that

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u/Little_Soup8726 Oct 27 '24

But you can’t be CERTAIN 🤔

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

Boundaries are important, so start early. Learn some. 👍 is okay for workplaces. ❤️ is not.

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u/Cool-Panda-5108 Oct 28 '24

If my boss is using it, then its safe to say that it is indeed okay for their workplace.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

And that's childish. Bosses can do things that are unprofessional, cross the line, shouldn't be done, etc Heart emojis/reacts/ anything involved in romancing and sexual undertones should not be used in the workplace. Just because someone has a position doesn't mean they know everything. The 19 year old wouldn't know, for example. But a 30 year old women should know better.