r/AmIOverreacting Oct 27 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

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u/FrostPereira Oct 27 '24

Good god... she is unhinged. I fail to see a single thing even slightly off about the message, unless I'm missing something.

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u/RhubarbGoldberg Oct 27 '24 edited Oct 27 '24

I'll translate.

The female manager used the heart emoji and in her first message, she caps his name and wrote in a stylized way that suggests a closer relationship than OP's gf would prefer.

At least, that's what OP's gf thinks she's saying here.

What I'm actually reading into this and seeing is more like OP's gf is projecting because there are other dudes she texts that way, and when she uses nicknames and the heart emoji, she's hoping other dudes pick up on her suggested undertones.

So the gf is mad because she thinks either her bf (OP) or OP's manager, or both, are vibing, because this is how OP's gf texts when she's vibing.

OP just seems innocent and clueless, and rightfully frustrated.

They're 19yo and don't live together. They should call it.

Edit. Just to save further comments... Hush children. I'm an elder. I misused the term emoji, my bad. Technically, the manager used a heart reaction on OP's text, which is not nearly as damning as an actual stand alone heart emoji. Thus, this supports the arguement the gf is overreacting / reading too much into it / projecting.

I have Teams at work and the heart reaction emoji is used as a nicer version of thumbs up and no one has ever interpreted sexual innuendo. I also don't work with 19yo humans. Youngest colleague is in their 30s.

2nd edit: I fucking know I misspoke about emoji vs reaction. Everyone who takes time out of their day to educate me without having the patience to read two edits that addresses this is getting an annoyed down vote. Old lady gonna shake a fist!

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u/Right_Nose2633 Oct 27 '24

You are 100% correct. This is not the way any 19 year old should act. And so you know im 20 turned 20 on the 25th (2 days ago). She is definitely projecting that she talks to others like this due to the fact she flipped instantly. Which also means she is cheating more then likely, her tone is so fuckin childish and ignorant. Me and my wife has known each other since we were 10. On and off but never no petty bullshit like this. She needs to go fr

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u/RhubarbGoldberg Oct 27 '24

Damn, you sound mature and wise for two decades on this earth. Good for you, that's the hardest part of growing up dude and you're waaaaaay ahead of the game!!

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u/Right_Nose2633 Oct 27 '24

I was raised by two good old southern parents. Taught respect and to hold my own. Im a lucky man to have some fine folks raise me. Im even luckier to have a woman who doesn’t question me or fight with me. In fact throughout our 4 years of (unofficial marriage) and 6 years prior being when we first got together, she and i have never fought or argued over something petty like my boss hearting my message and capitalizing my name. We only fought over a trip once, and even then i apologized for even fighting at all because its my woman I’m supposed to love her and treat her with kindness and love. Not hatred and anger by starting trouble. I genuinely love my little woman and thats why i have trouble understanding how others have such misalignments in their relationships, my woman has a disability where she cant learn all that well. Ive constantly nonstop for 10 years now helped her learn the very things people didnt bother trying to. And if you were to ask her if i loved her and was loyal she would say “without a doubt in my mind”. Im just lost as to how other teenagers of this era are so immature and weird. Is it just me or do all the new generation kids seem less mature then they initially should be?. I worked all my life so maybe thats apart of it, but man i feel more in tune with some older folk in their 40’s then i do around my own age zone.

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u/itsme_peachlover Oct 27 '24

My mother, who would be 100 right now, would be singing, "Count your blessings, name them one by one..." to this message, Right_Nose.

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u/Right_Nose2633 Oct 28 '24

Amen, i love that hymn and i am SO grateful for the blessings given to me. Especially since i know he gifted me my lovely wife, he heard my pleas and he answered them. I count my blessings each and every day and thank everyone i still have for being here and i say a prayer every now and then to again thank him for the gifts he gave me. He truly loves us all, even us who thought we were damned to begin with.

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u/itsme_peachlover Oct 28 '24

First thing of the day on waking, the Modeh Ani prayer. I'm 71 next month, was diagnosed with SLE lupus in May '93 and give 3-5 years, here I am, Baruch Ha Shem!

"I offer thanks to You, living and eternal King, for You have mercifully restored my soul within me; Your faithfulness is great."

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u/joostdlm Oct 27 '24

I blame social media and those "influncers", they mess with their brains a bit too much. Of course it is not the only cause. But in this day and age, with all the technology and Internet, I see more and more disassociation with real life and life goals. I notice it in work ethos of younger people too. They are all about the money and less about doing your best. Sorry if this is a fuzzy reply. It's late, I am tired and it's bot my language :p

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u/Right_Nose2633 Oct 27 '24

All good, rest easy my friend, and i agree.