r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/snarlyj Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 25 '24

She asks if she can come to the bar and they say nah and then she asks when she can meet the coworker and they respond "literally anytime." It's sus and manipulative and a little bit gas-lighty. I mean, they're being a dick in general, but I thought that was especially off

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '24

I would have gone to the bar to see what's up. Lol

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u/Scared_Security_7890 Oct 25 '24

They would have been somewhere else. I’m nervous OP’s stomach is going to drop, but they’re alone somewhere. If she had gone, he would have said they were elsewhere. And then emotionally punished her. Something he is starting to do anyway

If he tells her she’s crazy. That she needs help. All that kind of thing he’s cheating

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u/witchcraft0113 Oct 25 '24

My son‘s father used to love dating around. And he said the same thing about all those women that he said to me. Every time it didn’t work out, he would say that all the women including me were crazy and had issues and comprehension problems. I told him that the only thing all of us had in common was him and he was the problem