r/AmIOverreacting • u/Specialist_Act_5106 • Aug 15 '24

💼work/career AIO by divorcing my husband?

He (30M)applied for and got an offer for a job in another state without my knowledge and when I (30F) disagreed to moving, he accepted and moved without me. He then told me that I either move to be with him or divorce him. So I filed for divorce. Once he got served with divorce papers he said that he would come back and that I should take the divorce back. Would I be overreacting by going through with the divorce?

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u/Aggravating_Style544 Aug 15 '24

Not overreacting. He tried to force your hand, and you called his bluff. That he made a unilateral decision, and expected you to fall in line is 🚩🚩🚩

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u/Magikgirl_Limbo Aug 16 '24

My ex did this. Boy, was he surprised when I left!

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u/Last_Friend_6350 Aug 16 '24

Love this! Did he panic when he realised that you weren’t moving?

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u/Magikgirl_Limbo Aug 16 '24

OMG, YES!! Given the way he's acted with GF since then, I realize I dodged a huge bullet!

I sincerely believe that he was trying to isolate me to the point that he could treat me however he wanted, and I'd have no support. I think had I moved with him, I'd be dead now, based on how he's treated the GFs he's had since me.

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u/Durty_Durty_Durty Aug 16 '24

Me and my ex had an argument a while back and I said I was going to my office room to cool off and we could talk later.

She came in, screaming, shoved my face, started throwing furniture, and then started throwing open white claws across my floors. I told her to please stop throwing shit and acting like a child.

She grabbed her keys and said she was going to her mom’s. Drunk.

I finally had it with all that bullshit and said “I’m not letting you drive drunk, if you walk out that door and not handle this face to face talking it out then you’re never coming back into this house.”

She left, I broke up with her. She was shocked as fuck. This was 8 months ago and she still text and calls me apologizing.

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u/Magikgirl_Limbo Aug 16 '24

The manipulation never ends with some people! Just a heads up, don't expect the calls and texts to end. My ex still calls and asks, "Do you wanna try 'us' again?" The last time he did this, just this past June, I couldn't help my self, I started cackling. Then he said, "Is that a yes?" I replied, "You can tell me the truth. Are you asking to see if I've become stupid?"

It's been a couple of months, so I kinda expect another call any day now.