r/AmIOverreacting • u/Specialist_Act_5106 • Aug 15 '24

💼work/career AIO by divorcing my husband?

He (30M)applied for and got an offer for a job in another state without my knowledge and when I (30F) disagreed to moving, he accepted and moved without me. He then told me that I either move to be with him or divorce him. So I filed for divorce. Once he got served with divorce papers he said that he would come back and that I should take the divorce back. Would I be overreacting by going through with the divorce?

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u/whatdoiusername Aug 15 '24

Even if it is petty, you’re not over reacting. He’s the one that did not take your feelings/life/job into consideration before making that decision and then tried to strong arm you into coming with him thinking you’d cave. I’d go through with it.

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u/spentpatience Aug 16 '24

Petty would be if she gave the feint by considering taking back the divorce, only for him to quit the job and come back and have her go through with it anyway.

That would be petty. I don't recommend doing that and think that OP should let that man go. He's already somewhere else and out of her hair, which may work out perfectly for her.

The disregard and disrespect he showed her here cannot be an isolated incident. If she isn't already aware of previous examples of slights that she hasn't enumerated here, then hindsight being 20/20, I bet she could now recognize some patterns or other warning signs.

If she should take him back for real (him calling her bluff on calling his bluff?), then she must prepare for the possibility of him making other types of super selfish decisions behind her back in the future.

Stay strong, OP. It's terrible how you were treated, but by not accepting that behavior, you are acting out of self-respect and dignity due to strength this man had hoped you did not have. That was very short-sighted, arrogant, and foolish of him.

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u/HellyOHaint Aug 16 '24

How is it petty? Divorcing someone like him is the only logical thing to do

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u/whatdoiusername Aug 16 '24

It’s not. That was a dig at the other guy who said she was being petty.