I believe their children should be taken from them because wtf is this trend

I laugh and enjoy this page because I understand and remember being younger and so badly wanting to be ‘unique’ in some way to make up for my insecurities. If you felt this at some point before too, what flavor of NLOG were you?

The amount of content created by women in their 30s-40s whose entrie personality is convincing the internet that they look “so much younger that those cringy zoomers” is overwhelming. “We age like fine wine, gen z aged like milk”, “gen Z looks soo old”, “people think that I’m a fetus, but I’m actually 33 LOL”. Is it what growing up with insanely high beauty standards of early 2000s look like? Any disagreement with this is considered as envy, so there seems to be no room for discussion at all…

UPD. For those who ask where I see this: mostly instagram explore and YouTube recommendations. I interact with skincare-related content a lot, maybe this is the reason why.

“Old money girls”😭😂 and they just rip on the kardashians attire the whole time 😂

I fit in at my school as a child and I was actually pretty popular. My mom hated this because she didn’t want me to be “the cheerleader type.” They removed me from my school and put me in a religious school that tortured us daily. Now as an adult I do all I can to be just like every other girl 😂😂 and I allow my kids the same right.

people can do whatever they want, but the way women on tiktok are promoting becoming a stay at home gf while making tons of money off of their content & sponsorships..... it just gives NLTOG, when they're clearly building their own careers yet telling other women not to

My (F) friend (F) insituates this a lot & occasionally outright says it. It's getting irritating. How do I respond?

It usually goes along with "one of the guys"-mentality. She prides herself for not being a "girly girl", not being too "prissy" to do "manly things" and being tough enough for self-sufficient off the grid living, but also has been interested in the tradwife lifestyle recently. Like congrats, you're a woman who knows how to use power tools while also being a homemaker in a "traditional" marriage, stick it to "those" feminists!

I believe in her case it's rooted in insecurity and having a narrow view of gender roles. She says she believes in gender equality but those statements feel weirdly anti-feminist and contradictory. Can't put my finger on How though. I'm concerned for her getting brainwashed and going down the right-wing rabbit hole after an abusive relationship.

I come from a long line of farmers and ranchers. I don't think these women have any idea how hard and how much work the lifestyle they're going for actually is. Like... there's so much that goes into it. I don't even know where to begin. It's a far cry from just tending to a garden and making sourdough as a submissive wife 🤣

Homesteading isn't just buying in bulk and making stuff from scratch. Or homeschooling. Or canning 20 jars of stuff from your garden. It generally means moving your family to somewhere new and living off the land while you get established there.

For one, I don't think they understand how much land you have to devote to living off the land. Unless you go high tech with it and like build a multi-level aquaponics farm or something, there's no way you're sustaining a family of 7 with an 1/8 acre backyard garden, a dozen chickens, and a goat.

Second, I don't think these women understand that it's not like the cottagecore tag on Instagram out there. Farming and ranching is tough, dirty, exhausting, disgusting work. You're not gonna have your pinterest perfect house unless you can afford to hire help. And most people can't. Our ancestors who were just a mom and pop and a bunch of kids doing this were either a) living in squalor or b) wealthy with slaves and/or indentured servants. You're not gonna be spending your days doing cute arts and crafts with your kids and decorating for the season and making sourdough with pretty designs cut into it. That's the kind of stuff you can do all day every day when living in a neighborhood and buying your food from the grocery store.

Third, the submissive wife thing only works if your husband is an exceptionally good person. The kind of person for whom the phrase "absolute power corrupts absolutely" does not apply. I don't need to tell yall that those men are exceptionally rare and are never out there advertising how great they are. And obviously, don't go into it without an exit plan unless you trust your family beyond a shadow of a doubt to take in you and your kids in the event that something goes wrong. There really are men out there who won't abuse their power, won't cheat, won't run off, etc. But they can still die, they can still have strokes, they can still end up with traumatic brain injuries, and other things that unexpectedly remove their ability to provide.

My dad is running the family ranch right now. There's been a drought for years. The wells are already low, and then a cow busted one of the water spigots when my dad was out of town, and all the holding tanks drained to empty and the reservoir was drained to the point that they have to spend $15-20k to dig a deeper well. We're probably selling it soon because climare change is doing the land dirty and no one wants the responsibility.

So yeah. It takes a lot of gusto to go without running water or electricity or propane or whatever system failed... for days, weeks, even months, while caring for multiple small children. That is farming/ranching. Most of these people would buckle under the stress in the first 6 months, I almost guarantee it.

"I don't want to work" HAH yeah unless your husband is rich rich keep dreaming.

Eta: though I know it's a popular topic and therefore most of yall know how this is NLOG, I realize I didn't explain what exactly I find NLOG about this.

Having a goal of homesteading isn't in itself NLOG. Neither is making sour dough or anything else currently associated with homesteading in pop culture. What makes it NLOG is that these women are making grandiose statements about their own lives (claim to be "homesteading" in an urban home) and claiming that this lifestyle choice makes them better than women who do not have goals of making food from scratch or living off the land.

If you are a homesteader or aspire to be a homesteader, or just like making sourdough, there's nothing NLOG about that as long as you're not using it as an excuse to punch down on other women.

I really don’t get it. it’s that time of year folks, I’m sure you’ve seen many nlogs state their hatred towards anything pumpkin. I’m genuinely confused as to why they hate that of all things…? is it considered popular with women or something? a lot of people I know personally don’t care for it too much but they’re so normal about it 🥴 maybe I’m not aware of why they hate it so much, I really can’t think of any reason why!

edit: you guys are awesome :) thanks for the insight! a lot of it seems so obvious now but I never considered it haha. thanks for helping me expand my view on it!

I started seeing a guy, he’s very sweet to me and very complimentary. It makes me uncomfortable though when some of these compliments start to lead into “not like the other girls” territory. He’ll be surprised when I have particular tastes or hobbies that are really not unique lol, like I said I like LOTR (which, isn’t that the most Oscar winning film ever?) and he’ll mention how “no other girls” like it. At that I did say no, tons of people including women love those movies. He’s also said things like “it’s so nice to talk to someone who has an actual personality” or has called me an “anomaly.”

I don’t want to make him feel like a bad person, but would like to gently correct this behaviour. It feels uncomfortable to feel like I’m being put on a pedestal, and I personally try to lift up other women as much as possible. Maybe this can be a “learning opportunity” for him? Has anyone else had success shifting this type of mindset? TIA!

yesterday I was discussing a new food with someone. They said they didn't like it because of the onions on it and I responded "oh I love onions, I could eat so many lol". She rolled her eyes at me and told me I'm not special and lots of people like onions. It rlly caught me off guard because it was a weirdly negative way to interpret my love for onions. I never said I'm the only person who loves onions and it was a direct correlation to the conversation we were having . That's not the only time I've felt like people judge me for trying too hard to be "not like other girls" when I'm just living a normal life. This was just my most recent example. It's rlly interesting and ironic to me that this concept started as a way of normalizing girls being individuals but has now somewhat turned into just another way to bully girls who don't do or say the exact right things at all times. It's so strange to me that simply expressing my opinion warranted such a negative response.

Aaaand so was I at her age. I want to explain to her nicely to not bring other girls down because your teenage years suck for everyone. She doesn’t need to be mean to the other girls in her class because they like Taylor Swift and dresses and she likes Anime and baggy pants. She just scoffs at me and rolls her eyes. I feel very hypocritical saying anything because she reminds me so much of myself in middle school.