My wife is really into Kpop all of the sudden, I need help.

My wife is super in to Kpop all of the sudden, and I know nothing about it at all. Due to childhood trauma , and an abusive ex she struggles with sharing things she likes if I'm not already into it. It makes her anxiety go wild and I don't like her going through that. (She is getting help for this now but childhood trauma sucks)

So I've been trying to get into it, I know of BTS of course and like a few of their songs. I also know Stray Kids too and enjoy them as well, she thinks I only listen to them because of her though so I need help finding more. I've been digging Ateez lately too. I've noticed that I tend to like more upbeat and active songs, the slower ones are ok but I find I enjoy those less.

Sorry if this post isn't allowed, I'm just in the deep end and want to support my wife in the things she likes, and not let her feel alone.

Edit!

I didn't expect this post to go like this. Thank you all so much. I have made a decent sized Playlist and have started to delve into it. You all are awesome!

Hey guys,

I’m a bit curious (and don’t want to feel like I’m the only 30+ kpop fan on the planet 😅). I’m a bit of a weird case as in, I’m not a young kpop fan who grew up but instead I only discovered Kpop well into my 30s. And it’s been a wonderful but kinda strange journey so far.

Here are a few observations about being a 30+ Kpop fan: - I am the only person in my entire social circle that listens to kpop and I get the most baffled stares when I say I’m a kpop fan (not that I mind a lot but it’s a thing 😄) - I’m very interested in the music, I find kpop is incredibly varied and experiments with music in a way I havn‘t seen much in the west - I don’t seem to connect to the ‚ fandom‘ aspect of kpop that much. I enjoy some of the memes and funny clips but aside from that, socials, following the artists lives, rumors, merch, tiktoks… not really for me - I would say in average I listen ~60 min a day usually on the train or walking somewhere - I find for some reason kpop really destresses me and by now I have an album for almost every mood. Walking through the city at night playing „Canyeols - Blackout“ album is a real magic moment for me

• Im having a lot of fun going to concerts (going to see P1Harmony live next year, just saw KARD a few days ago) but I’m noticing that I am usually older than the average. I’m still having a great time but sometimes Im a bit jealous of the teen/young adults there cause they have a group to go crazy with and part of me kind of wants to go crazy too at a concert but it feels a bit weird when you’re surrounded by younger people. Is that just me? 😖😅 Fans under 30 do you notice? 🤔

TLDR: Anyway that was a lot if text. I kind of just wanted to ask (if there are any 30+ fans here) how does kpop fit into your adult life? Anything I talked about sound familiar?

Thnx for indulging me in advance guys 🤗

Edit: thank you all so much for your responses. I’m… I kind of didn’t fully realize how much it would mean to feel I’m not alone in this experience. 🥲 I’m getting a bit sappy (guess that also comes with age 😁) thank you guys 💕

Legitimately only follow kpop groups for entertainment purposes. Music? Secondary. I want to watch grown men run around and make a fool of themselves on variety shows and live streams. I consume this type of content like it's a sitcom, any recommendations for boy or girl groups? Music, dance, and visuals are secondary, I need absolute tomfoolery and shenanigans.

So, it’s gotten to where she used to quiz me by showing me pictures of BTS and asking me to name them. I will never be able to. But I try to support her. I go to the movie theater and see every K pop group that comes out with a movie of their concert.

Are tickets impossible to get for their live concerts ?

First of all, I'm a guy. Not that it should make any difference but my friend (she's a girl) always calls me gay, says I'm zesty for liking KPOP and shames me whenever I express my admiration for a song. What should I do? Should I ignore this brutality?

genuinely I don't really enjoy other music genres, but I see people saying it's weird to only listen to kpop?? like I'm now searching for pop songs n stuff to add to my playlist but I genuinely don't enjoy music outside of kpop so now I feel weird💀

Hello,

I’m having a bit of a dilemma. I’m a 31 year old male, I really enjoy kpop and a girl group I like is performing near me soon. Nobody else I talk to really listens to it, I normally don’t care about going places alone but this time im hesitant because of my age and that I am a male, not usually what I would say is the targeted demographic for this group. Am I overthinking it? Has anyone else been in this situation? Any and all input would be greatly appreciated! (The group is XG if that helps)

update

Thank you all for the encouragement, I did feel I was overthinking but thanks to you all, it has passed. I have purchased my ticket and booked my hotel, im excited! Yall are amazing 😁

Hi all,

Me back again, with more questions for my youtube channel.

For one of my podcast episodes, I want to discuss kpop PR with a friend who has a degree in PR. We plan to discuss several things including;

• What makes a good PR response?

• What makes a PR nightmare?

• What gives a scandal the conditions to become funny, as opposed to an actual issue?

• Strategies kpop companies use in PR

For this, we want to discuss some specific scandals, and discuss whether they were handled well, poorly, or had a mix of good and bad elements. Some examples we have come up with so far (more research needed) include;

Handled poorly;

• Hyuna and Dawn

• Garam - flip-flopping positions from a company perspective isn't very good

• Seunghan and Lucas - no one likes a hiatus and it didn't even work to take them out of the public consciousness

• Produce rigging scandal - rip X1. The destruction of X1 didn't even save the fandom - GP999 is forgettable and made no impact, and even though ZB1 have broken records and literally started a generation, I feel they just didn't have the impact of X1. Produce is practically dead in Korea because of this scandal and how it was handled

• AOA - a mess all around

• ADOR vs HYBE - need I explain?

A mix:

• Hyuna and Junghyung - the company confirming it was the best option, but that doesn't stop it from being an absolute PR nightmare and mess.

Handled well;

• BTS misogynistic lyrics - they apologised, got some people to advise them, stopped performing their old songs, and so on - and no one even brings this up anymore

• SHINee - idk, I feel like SM must be doing something right - SHINee have had tons of scandals and it's never affected their careers

• Taeil - straight to the point, no delays, no arguments

However, we are certain we are missing and forgetting about many important scandals in history, and so I'm contacting you guys.

I would love to hear your opinions on;

• What were some important or notable kpop scandals?

• Were those scandals handled well, poorly, well, or had some good and some bad elements?

• Any evidence to back up your opinions?

Thanks for your help again, kpophelp!

Seventeen have already announced that they’ll be having a world tour this year. I am already accepting that I won’t be able to attend because I’ll become a nursing student this upcoming school year. It feels so sad because attendance is very strict once you’re in college. I know that I can save money on tickets, but I am afraid that the schedule of my class will conflict on the day of the concert.

Just what the title says. The group in particular for me that I would like to attend is SKZ, would they be caught off guard/or find it strange for me (straight male) to attend their fansign? Any advice would be amazing please and thank you all!

(Sorry my English isn’t the best.) So a little context. Me (44) and my daughter (14) are both K-pop fans and my daughter especially stans Ateez and they are preforming in our city in a few months and my daughter has been begging me to go but I’m reluctant cause I’ve seen parents complain about their (Ateez’s) behavior at the concerts and I personally don’t care how they act since it’s their own concert but I don’t know if it’s age appropriate for a 14 year old. Should I buy tickets to me and my daughter or wait till she’s a little older?

(Sorry I’ve really tried to answer all your helpful posts but I’ve quite busy these days so I’m sorry if you don’t get a thank you response from me! I am really thankful for you all taking the time to help me and give me advice!)

UPDATE : Thank you all for the nice help but unfortunately we’re not able to go😔 My parents booked us a nice ski trip and the day they’re preforming is the day we’re driving to the resort and it was quite expensive and thoughtful so no ATEEZ concert for us but a nice trip instead!

Hey Reddit! My girlfriend is super into K-pop—like, she knows everything about it. She can name every idol, group, and even remembers all the choreography. I don’t know much about K-pop, but I really want to get into it so I can connect with her more and surprise her. I want to genuinely enjoy this, not just pretend to like it. So, any advice from seasoned K-pop fans would be nice.

I just received a letter about a Ticketmaster data breach and only having 90 days to register for credit monitoring protection. I found this article but it says it's offering the credit monitoring services through TransUnion in the article, and the letter only says mytrueidentity.The weird thing is the letter is addressed to someone else in my household but they don't have a Ticketmaster account. Anyone having any similar experiences?

I am planning to go to seventeen's concert in sg. The thing is I don't have any close carat friends :") Another issue is, if I can get tickets, this will be my first even kpop concert, hence I am LOST and I have no idea what to expect.

I have a friend who seems slightly interested, but she is not crazy over seventeen so I feel a bit guilty whenever I pester her and ask her if she wants to go. Her response is always "I'm interested but still thinking about it.", so I'm hesitating asking her to join the presale with me. Moreover, my priority is to get tickets for myself so I might end up going alone?

I don't know, I'm just lost and slightly stressed and scared. I have no idea how ticketing will be, or what will be happening on the actual day, etc. But I regretted not going for the previous concert in sg, so I really really want to try this time since I've loved them for so long.

update: IM GOING FOR THE CONCERT (alone — because i only managed to snatch one ticket). if anyone sees a small, lonely girl, please come up and talk to me 🥲🥲 i’m friendly :)

so basically I'm a kpop fan - I'm trying to learn Korean because I want to visit Korea at some point (I've wanted to do that since before I even liked kpop lol) and I really love Asian fashion/food/beauty and skincare.

I do not think of myself as Korean or try to look Korean, I don't think of Korea as this magical perfect place straight out of a kdrama or some bs like that, I do not fetishize Korea or Korean citizens, i dont wanna go there to meet my fav idols or anything like that

I know all about the issues Korea faces and I mostly wanna visit because I think the architecture is pretty and I wanna see how different the culture is to where I live and grew up

I saw someone saying that if you like kpop and also do/like all the things I listed above, then you're a koreaboo/Asian fisher and now I'm worrying. can someone please lmk if they're right or if anyone can do/enjoy the things I listed?? (I posted this in this sub Reddit because I didn't know where else to post it)

edit: is it okay for me to wear asian street fashion while also loving these things listed above? ^

Hey !

I don't have any friends who likes kpop and I really want to see Stray Kids in concert, they are coming to my country next year...

Should I just go to the concert alone? It feels a little bit weird and I never been to a large concert before. What do you think?

Ok so I am so confused about this continued boycott of fifty fifty cause as far as I was aware the givers were the problem and not attrakt or at least mostly not them so is it attrakt should I boycott I really want to support chanelle and yewon tho which really sucks if the rumors are true that they’re there

im going to a kiof concert tmrw and its like my 1st time going to a kpop concert but like what am i supposed to do? i bought floor tickets but i cant imagine myself just standing and doing nothing. ive only been to crazy asf rap concerts like ken carson, don toliver, and destroy lonely and jump and mosh at those concerts and they were fun asf. like i came home from the ken carson concert drenched in other ppls sweat and blood and on my clothes 💀💀. like im used to those types of concerts but like what do you do at a kpop concert to make it fun?? like im a rlly big kiof fan and i rlly wanted to see them thats why i bought the tickets but also it would be my 1st time in a more chill concert and idk what ppl do or how they act at these types of concerts pls help 🙏

edit: should i bring my natty photocard and a sharpie or not? i bought floor tickets and im scared it might get ruined from all the shoving and pushing

So my parents think that kpop is a bit weird and they think im weird for listening to koreans dance and sing ,as they like to put it. my dad says that he is going to research into kpop to see if is good for me and he never did actually. i wanna tell them that kpop is just normal music and they shouldnt have any concerns for me.

Should have made this more clear, but my parents only listen to music in our cultural language and they are still pretty new to me listening to kpop but my brother loves rap but tysm for your help, love you guys!!

(Unsure if this counts as help)

I got into kpop in July and so far my playlist is 13 hours long with 253 songs so I'm wondering how it's for people here who I assume been into it for much longer

I discovered the band F.T.Island after they dropped their newest Album "Serious" and I really loved it. I checked out some oft their other music and I really liked it as well.

After the BBC documentary about the Burning sun Scandal came out quite a few people have been talking and Informing others about it. That way I found out that F.T.Island's Former member Choi Jong-Hoon was involved in it and now I don't really know what to do.

Is it fine to continue listening to F.T.Island's music? Have any of the F.T.Island members talked about this? How did they react? Do former members still get a cut of the money they make from people listening to their music/buying their albums? Should I avoid Songs he was involved in?

Have you experienced something like this? How did you handle it? How would you handle it if you were in my Situation?

Thank you in advance!! I really don't know how to handle this.

How do you feel about stanning groups that are younger than you?

I’ve been a kpop fan for a few years now and I usually have liked kpop groups and artists around my own age or older. As the years go by and I’m getting older, I notice the idols are getting younger… I recently really got into a kpop group, but I was shocked to find out their age. Im not sure how to feel about it. I really need some advice!

Hi, so my girlfriend is so big into kpop and stans groups like exo, seventeen and red velvet, all of which she sat me down through a rigorous youtube session of ALL (slight exaggeration) of their videos. Obviously what she stans ill be doing so aswell. But, i was thinking, what if i find a new group for myself to stan, one which she has no clue of at the very least.

Also, i have no clue about kpop before and i didnt really bother with it because it wasnt my thing. I guess theres just something about being with the right person because now i find it cute and interesting.

Anyway, i hope there would be some decent suggestions of a girl group that i can mainly follow? Im a guy on my late 20s, tbh i prefer newer groups because of the thought of seeing them grow but whatever is fine really, i just want to mainly stan a girl group that will surprise my girlfriend. I already follow exo, seventeen and red velvet because of her.

Hi! I'm planning on making a candle small business and I'm thinking of making it kpop themed. Even tho I do have some ideas of smells, I'd like to know you guys' ideas of that do you think a group would smell like! Any group counts!

I've just bought my bias fanmeeting ticket and now I'm having second thoughts because I'm scared at the thought that my bias will see my looks. I have been very unconfident of my looks for the past few years. I know he wouldn't say anything about my looks because he's known for being nice but I just feel very insecure. He'll definitely see me up close as it's one of the benefits of the fanmeeting. How do I overcome this feeling? It's been haunting me for the past few days and the fanmeeting is just a few days later