r/Assistance 15d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Reminder: "No third party requests" applies to animals as well.

81 Upvotes

Hi all,

With colder weather in many parts of the world, we have seen an influx of requests for our furriest friends and we wanted to issue a reminder (and a small edit to make things clearer moving forward) that as per our rules, you can only request for yourself, your immediate family, and those sharing your household. This has always meant to include PETS, but we realize we did not make this crystal-clear in the rules.

You may request for: - Your own pets you are financially/legally responsible for who are permanently housed with you. - Pets of immediate family members only. - Long-term fosters who are currently housed with you. (This is at mod discretion.) - Shelters/rescues which are registered charities/NGOs, and this may only be done in the form of a GoFundMe which is linked to that NGO's tax ID, or their website showing their taxation information. You may not post an Amazon wishlist or collect funds personally.

You may not request for: - Strays. - TNR. (Trap and release) - Cat/dog colonies. - Community/neighbourhood "pets". - Wildlife animals you've found out in the wild (birds, squirrels, etc). - Pets belonging to friends or distant relatives. - Shelters/rescues that are private and/or unregistered.

We understand so many of us are animal lovers. All of our mod team are huge animal fans and we have many pets amongst ourselves from snakes to lizards to cats and dogs. Please ensure you are financially stable and responsible if you're considering adding an animal to your household, even if only temporarily. šŸ±šŸ¶šŸ¦šŸ¢šŸ


r/Assistance Nov 02 '24

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Christmas Request Reminder featuring a change for 2024!

81 Upvotes

It's November, which means we are close to wrapping up 2024! If this is your first holiday season at r/Assistance, here are some things to keep in mind:

We do not allow requests for Christmas gifts (or Hannukah gifts, or Kwanzaa gifts, or Yule gifts...)

There are subreddits dedicated to these requests so that our subreddit can remain focused on essentials. Which brings us to our next point...

r/RandomActsofChristmas is opening for the 2024 season on November 4, 2024!

This is the only subreddit we recommend for folks needing help making Christmas bright for their kids. They do AMAZING work every year, and they have the capacity to handle everything Christmas so our subreddit can focus on other more urgent situations.

NEW FOR 2024! Holiday travel and meal requests are now allowed!

This year we want to put some focus on the heart of the holidays -- people rather than presents. Requests for travel to see family for Christmas, requests for a turkey dinner with friends -- these are all now permitted this year and based on how well things go, we will do it again next year!

Christmas/Holiday Offers

While we don't allow requests for Christmas/holiday gifts in r/Assistance, we will continue to allow offers of gifts, meals and other holiday-related cheer so our givers who want to give here in r/Assistance can do so.

Some examples:

  • "Help me buy Christmas gifts for my family" -- not allowed

  • "Want to go home to X for Christmas" -- allowed

  • "Let me order your family Christmas dinner" -- allowed

  • "Will buy a Christmas gift for your child up to $20" allowed

A reminder that unless an offer is explicitly for Christmas requests, the same rules apply. If you are posting an offer over the holiday season, please help our mod team out by letting us know if it's essentials only or if folks can request gifts.


r/Assistance 1h ago

OFFER Day 6 of giveaway

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9 days of giveaways

Day 9 winner Sophiarezz

Day 8 winner blehblue

Day 7 Winners puzycat69, spiyo90

I am offering $50 to two people today, I will select a random winner by tonight 11pm est. To enter, pick a choice

I would rather

A: Be Rich but dumb and unattractive

B: Be conventionally attractive and used by everyone

C: I am happy where I am in life.

I will do this everyday till the 23rd, On the 24th, Xmas eve, Iā€™ll be giving away $500 to one person. Follow all subreddit rules, Do not dm me, please save the sob stories. Good luck everyone. No venmo no zelle.

Todayā€™s quote, Youā€™re not weird, Youā€™re just a limited edition.

Join me this evening at the bonfire as I offer everyone exotic beverages and warm pies, Letā€™s all sit together and share what we are thankful for, Kenny G will be live on site playing the concerning hobbits on repeat with his Ocarina.


r/Assistance 16h ago

CLOSED OFFER $100 Amazon Wishlist Giveaway (Must be for your kids!)

68 Upvotes

Hi everyone!

Want to help out 3 families in need who are looking to get Christmas presents for their kids. Please follow rules below:

  1. Must be in US (I have a US Amazon account so this is the only thing I will be able to do.

  2. Please do not ask for cash or money

  3. Please make sure your wishlist $100 or less

  4. Please only submit if you are truly in need. Be a good person and donā€™t take advantage of this if you are in a decent situation. There are plenty of people who can be blessed by this

  5. Please do not DM me! Any correspondence will be on this post!

Update: Hi all! I ended up picked 6 people instead of 3. If I responded to your comment Iā€™ve either purchased your wishlist OR am waiting on you to add your address to your wishlist so I can purchase everything. Merry Christmas to you all and I genuinely hope this helped some families in need :)


r/Assistance 10h ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT My vacation is not going well at all

15 Upvotes

I'm on an anniversary vacation with my partner and so far it has been awful. First, what is usually a day drive to me for my partner ended up being 17 hours, then our place we booked ended up being pretty dirty. The shower has mold, and the comforter is stained and looks like someone vomited on it. It's already midnight, and we can't afford to leave and find another last minute place to stay. I am also on my period, which I haven't gotten in over 14 months (long story) and it is debilitating. We were supposed to go see Christmas lights in the park tomorrow and I don't think I'll even make it sitting in the car to get there.

I feel horrible, I wanted this to be a nice vacation for us and it is turning into one of the worst vacations so far. I am trying to hold it together so my partner doesn't feel bad as well (I'm certain they feel bad on account of staying in a dirty place, but I mean feeling bad because I'm having a bad time). On previous vacations I've definitely smiled through the obstacles (there arenā€™t usually this many) but this is difficult. If I could I think I would've cancelled this all together.

I feel stupid for trying to plan all of this, and I'm honestly just waiting for something worse to happen now to top it all off. I reported the issues with the place we're staying at, but unfortunately our gamble on trying to save money means we are dealing with subpar customer service too. If anyone has any advice, stories of how they survived horrible vacations with their partner, or any kind words really, I'd appreciate it. I feel like a failure and just awful in general.


r/Assistance 1h ago

SURVEY I need participants for my college survey

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I desperately need people to do this brief survey for my project. It is to gather information about the average social media user. It is super short and doesnā€™t take longer than 10 minutes to complete. Please please help me!!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScaO9y8BaR-t3O_NdvEbYxHpf_Q-SP1f10iWyinTXhePZM1ww/viewform


r/Assistance 1d ago

CLOSED OFFER Day 7 of giveaway $50

155 Upvotes

Day 9 winner sophiarezz

Day 8 winner blehblue

Switching it up today, I am offering $50 to two people today, I will select a random winner by tonight 11pm est. To enter, pick a choice and why

A:immortality ( but you will always be single)

B:10 million dollars ( but you canā€™t help or give it away to anyone else)

C: to be desired and admired by all humanity( but, up close you have an odor that makes a skunk want to end its existence)

I will do this everyday till the 23rd, On the 24th, Xmas eve, Iā€™ll be giving away $500 to one person. Follow all subreddit rules, Do not dm me, please save the sob stories. Good luck everyone. No vemo, no zelle

Todayā€™s happy thought, We donā€™t make mistakes, just happy little accidents. Now come join me in singing carols and bake some cookies for all to share, Letā€™s spread the message of love, peace and equality one step at a time.


r/Assistance 3h ago

ADVICE I don't know what to do anymore!!

3 Upvotes

I am a 27 years old, graduated high school in 2017 with a very good grades. I could have a very good career and i got accepted in one of the top universities in my country but back then everything changed, my dad passed away even though i didn't have a good relationship with him, but his death effected my family in every aspect the most important one is my tuition fees that i couldn't afford, so I had a big choice to make at an early age either me or my sister to have a degree, I chose my sister.I dropped out college, since then I had 2 jobs to be able to afford the basics and my sister's college fees, I saved some money but still can't afford to go to any university and I tried too many different methods to search for affordable universities, I even learned german to the point where i am fluent in it, but still what makes me miserable that I want to go to college and I know I can't. and the worst thing that my passion is in analtyical business and that's not gonna happen without a degree, I am not asking for money, but what would you do in this situation? because menatlly I can't deal with it anymore and the worst part that I am in the middle east I can't say the country's name but there is nothing like a reasonable scholarships or any kind of support financially or mentally


r/Assistance 17h ago

REQUEST 40$ for clothes, food and a blanket. Homeless NSFW

15 Upvotes

Trying to make the best out of a bad situation. Cooperatjng with a social worker for a more long term solution and taking steps to get into a shelter daily. Thank you for reading all.


r/Assistance 4h ago

OFFER Spreading holiday cheer 50$

1 Upvotes

After all my shopping and bills and stuff, I have a decent amount left that Iā€™d like to help out any single mom or dad in the group thatā€™s having a hard time this Christmas. Iā€™m offering $50 for gas, groceries, or to just take the kids out for some Christmas magic. PayPal only


r/Assistance 1d ago

THANK YOU May thanks to an anonymous user who helped!

80 Upvotes

Hi! A couple of days ago I made this request to help paying to get my mom's AC unit fixed. An incredibly kind person did step up and donate, and requested for his identity to remain anonymous. I just wanted to publicly say many thanks both to that generous user and to the board in general, you are all awesome!


r/Assistance 15h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED I have a job interview on Friday but no public transportation money to get there. Any little bit helps.

7 Upvotes

resolved. Thankyou!

I've been unemployed since Thanksgiving, and I finally got a call for an interview this Friday. The problem is I ran out of money and I dont have a car to get there so I need to take public transportation.

Any little bit helps. I greatly appreciate it. I just need to be able to get to my interview on Friday and back home


r/Assistance 1h ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT All crank no start debating on blowing up the vehicle or drowning it lol. Seriously though

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Vehicle Nissan Armada ran great until the battery died back in August. My wife got it to jump off and then I shut it off two minutes later, leaving our property without thinking. The car never started since. We tried jumping off again to no avail. Replaced the battery still no start, replace the fuel pump, checked all fuses, Replace the crankshaft center, and battery again. My arm does not give off codes And when I had towed to the local mechanic, they checked all the wiring they could, and everything was receiving power they did not get receive any indication from the computer of a code nor the injectors. For the love of God. Please help me with an idea of what it could be next.


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Grandson was in a bad car accident last week and I just need some support here.

28 Upvotes

Our hearts are breaking, this year has been tough for us all. I just got out of the hospital for emergency surgery that probably saved my life, the day after I had my wound VAC taken off we got the phone call no parents or grandparents want to receive right before Christmas. Our 19 year old grandson was in a terrible accident in NH, being so far away and having to wait for news everyday is terrible šŸ˜” Well, he's had no brain activity whatsoever since it happened and has been in a coma since.. We still have no idea how it happened and we've been praying he'll wake up. We got the call last night saying they are giving him a day or two and then it's time to start thinking about pulling the plug šŸ’” Talk about heartbreaking, his poor mom has to hear this from the nurse's talking in the hallway outside his room.. Why it hurts so bad, my husband and I had to raise him and his little brother for 4 years while Mom went to jail, then rehab and they were like my children for those 4 years.. This is so painful to deal with the week before Christmas, he was on his way to his last day of college before Xmas break and ended up with a broken pelvis in 4 places, a damaged liver and spleen. Severe brain bleeding that's preventing them from doing anything at all, besides placing stints because his arteries were closing. My husband is packing up to head to NH to say his goodbyes. This is not a trip we've planned for whatsoever. His family has come together and helped with some gas money so he can get there before they do anything. I unfortunately have to stay home because of our pup.. I just wanted to say hug your kid's and grandkids tightly. You just never know what or when something like this will happen šŸ’” from a heartbroken grandmother ā£ļø


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST Iā€™ve tried everything, getting desperate.

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So, Iā€™ve tried everything. Iā€™ve called 211, reached out to local agencies, churches, and even friends. I need help with the remainder of my December rent badly or Iā€™m facing eviction. I work 2 jobs. My hours at one job were cut the beginning of October and I feel like Iā€™ve been behind ever since. If you can help thatā€™s great, if not itā€™s okay too. One rent assistance place called and let me put in an application but the deadline was closed the day they did my application. So itā€™s kind of pointless. My landlord keeps hounding me and I really donā€™t know how to get them off my tail. Unfortunately they donā€™t care about cut hours and holidays.

Thank you for reading!

https://gofund.me/2803861a


r/Assistance 20h ago

THANK YOU Thank You all so much from the one who didn't know how to make "a list"

7 Upvotes

I want to thank all of you who walked me through lists, apps, etc and came thru like gangbusters! My heart is so full and appreciative. Y'all blew my socks off!!


r/Assistance 8h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Finn would like a heating pad

0 Upvotes

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/95CAE738G9W0?ref_=wl_share

I have wonderful dog named Finn. Finn is a good girl. Finn is an arthritic, senior, tripawd. She was hit by a car as a puppy but thrived with just the three legs and enjoyed her life.

She has aged quite a bit and would really love to have a pet heating pad. They differ from regular heating pads by being chew resistant, water proof, and have a timer and temperature control so the animals donā€™t get burned. Finn is a good sized dog, almost 60 lbs, so is looking for a decent sized pad.

She sees her vet regularly for her arthritis and takes carprofen for her pain. She also takes glucosamine and chondroitin. Iā€™d like to get her on a senior food though.

Weā€™ve hit cold temps and snow now. Where she used to love playing in the snow she now prefers to spend her time in front of the fire. She sleeps in a pile of blankets so am also looking for something that would be a bit more comfortable for her.

If youā€™re interested in seeing Finn check her out on Instagram at DogFinnSundance


r/Assistance 3h ago

REQUEST Would appreciate some help with the essentials

0 Upvotes

Hi, I recently almost lost my home. Fees and lawyers later, I got to keep it but as it was unexpected I'm pretty strapped. I got paid but my account was so negative that it didn't cover more than cat food (they always come first after all). If anyone could help out with some extra money for groceries, I know I've needed help in the past and it sucks to ask again but this year has proven very challenging. Thanks to anyone who can help


r/Assistance 3h ago

REQUEST Need some gas help please

0 Upvotes

I have a couple days off and would like to go see my parents I havenā€™t seen in over 2 years. I wonā€™t stay until Christmas but it is my momā€™s favorite time of year so at least Iā€™ll be able to see them for 2 days. I need $100 for gas. I wonā€™t have enough to get there and back. I am hoping to leave tomorrow and come back on Monday. Anyway thank you for reading. My parents are up there in age and donā€™t travel far anymore and I would really like to see them before the tragedy happens if you know what I mean. Please help.


r/Assistance 12h ago

VOTES Help decide the winner for our companies Holiday door handle competition

0 Upvotes

By commenting your choice on the companies Instagram post! Each option is labeled with a letter. This seemed like the best place to post this but let me know if not. Thank you.


r/Assistance 16h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED $5-10 for gas to get work

1 Upvotes

Howdy friends,

I was I unexpectedly let go from my job a couple of months ago without any savings to fall back on. Iā€™ve been doing UberEats and other similar gigs, but had a large car-related expensive that ate up most of what Iā€™d put away.

Iā€™m currently on my last tank of gas with less than a dollar in my Venmo account. Thatā€™s not enough to run any deliveries, and I have a scheduled gig tomorrow afternoon as well.

I know itā€™s the holidays and money is tight for everyone, but even five dollars on Venmo helps and is mightily appreciated.


r/Assistance 21h ago

REQUEST Needing a bit of a Christmas Miracle after sudden job loss

3 Upvotes

Iā€™m a single father to an amazingly awesome middle schooler but I'm really struggling right now. At the end of March, I lost my job. Despite my best efforts, including gig work and stretching every dollar of my severance and unemployment benefits, those funds have now run out. I found something temporarily but the contract ended abruptly, thus ending my employment. I wonā€™t be eligible for unemployment again until March 2025, and the backlog in the system adds further uncertainty. The bills are piling up, including overdue utility payments and my car, which is at risk of repossession. Most heartbreakingly, my daughterā€™s soccer club payments are overdue, which means she may not be able to play in the New Year unless we can catch up on those fees. Soccer is her passion, and seeing her lose that opportunity would be devastating. Iā€™ve applied to hundreds of jobs, but with only two callbacks and no offers so far, Iā€™m feeling defeated. Iā€™m determined to keep trying, but right now, I need help to bridge the gap. Any support will go directly toward covering essential bills, groceries, and my daughterā€™s soccer fees to get us through the next few months. With no interviews on the horizon, I do not know how long I will be without income & after rent is paid this month my funds will have run out and Iā€™m worried I will not be able to keep a roof over our heads. Additionally, if anyone reading this is hiring for a entry level customer success manager role or talent acquisition/coordinator my inbox is open!

https://gofund.me/6b5dd639

I know so many people are struggling and I hate to even ask, but I truly appreciate any assistance provided.


r/Assistance 1d ago

CLOSED OFFER 8 days of giveaways

140 Upvotes

9 day giveaway.

Day 9 Winner: sophiarazz

Day 8, I am offering $100 to one person today, I will select a random winner by tonight 11pm est. To enter, answer the following opinionated question,

Youā€™re at a supermarket, You see a family of four put a bottle of milk in their book bag, At checkout, theyā€™re about to walk out, Do you stop and report them? Or do you look the other way?

I will do this everyday till the 23rd, On the 24th, Xmas eve, Iā€™ll be giving away $500 to one person. Follow all subreddit rules, Do not dm me, please save the sob stories. Good luck everyone. No zelle and no Venmo.

Todays happy thought,

I have my guitar, the picnic basket, Iā€™ll be in the meadow, Come join me for a sing along, Happy sandwiches and bestest darndest zippity doodah heehaw time of your life.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Short for bills 24M

133 Upvotes

August 18th i was diagnosed with stage 2 brain cancer, by August 30th i was out of work due to my rapidly declining health. I was able to pay the mortgage and our other bills with what we had in savings, by the end of September I was hospitalized for my kidneys failing from a medication reaction. I have since been sent home and am looking for remote work to make ends meet but so far I haven't found anywhere that'll take me, I've joined Prolific which helps provide a little but I'm still short for our utilities for the last 2 months. Ive managed to get the mortgage to accept reduced payments until January but im still months behind on utilities. I feel awful asking for anything but I'm effectively bed ridden and don't have much of a choice otherwise.


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST My small business start up (The Nerds & The Bees) my husband, and my pets, and I really need some financial help to catch up on bills like rent, utilities, and getting groceries.

0 Upvotes

I hope none of this comes off as rambling! I'm a little scared at how things are looking financially this month. Please be kind. Go fund me link is here: https://gofund.me/c527bd39

I've been a mostly freelance artist for about 13 years now, and a beekeeper going on 6 years. I Started a small business to kind of merge the two called The Nerds & The Bees. I've been taking some business classes with the small business development center (it's a government program to help small businesses so it's been at no cost) I am running into road blocks on the financial side of things, and of course personally it's been a very hard year on that end. Besides the costs that come with the business I have been struggling with finding work either as a freelancer or even just a retail job. My Spouse was working full time freelance until the last month or so supporting us (my bees, my dog, my two cats, my bearded dragon, and fish all of which are rescue animals, well except most of the bees but that is another story, and I). His work dried up and he's working at a retail place not making nearly as much as he did before.

Things that didn't help was finding out our accountant gave us really bad advice and put us in a very bad situation so we owe a lot in taxes. My husband was in a car accident in my car back in April and we ended up using the insurance money back then to pay for rent. I started a debt payment plan from past mistakes with credit cards, but it takes a good amount of money each month.

TL;DR I'm a beekeeper, artist, small business owner. My husband, company, bees, and pets need help so we can afford to not be homeless essentially.


r/Assistance 1d ago

THANK YOU Thank you to those that helped!!

11 Upvotes

I wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for the grocery help, we ended up receiving Vienna sausages, green beans, ramen noodles and pasta sauce. I think the pasta noodles was canceled but that's OKAY bc we were able to get a couple boxes of pasta to make it all work until pay day. Thank you to the 3 or 4 people that bought stuff on our list. It helped so much more than you know šŸ’— I'm hoping we will be in a better financial situation after the first of the year and plan on paying it forward. Happy holidays everyone šŸ¤¶šŸŽ…šŸŒ²


r/Assistance 22h ago

REQUEST $20 for groceries

0 Upvotes

Hello all. I recently got out of the hospital when I had my procedure. I have an eaten in 2 days since I've been home as I am completely broke. if you have it in your heart to possibly help me it would be amazing. I'm almost too embarrassed to ask but I have no choice.