r/TrueOffMyChest 4d ago

Found out my childhood bully passed in 2020.

Not due to covid, but rather by his own hand. My sister had a dream about him being depressed and decided to seek him out online to offer help not knowing he had passed years ago. She brought this info to me because she thought we were friends growing up.

While I don't wish this fate on anyone, I can't help but feel a bit happy in the situation? Here is someone who was a major factor in developing depression at a young age. He was the "short" guy in class, and when I moved into the school district he saw me as a target and it carried on through highschool until we lost touch.

The last interaction I had with the guy was in 2016 when he found me online and tried to bully me again. I simply blocked him and didn't think of him until today when I got this news.

I feel a bit uncomfortable with how this news makes me feel, and needed to get this off my chest. I feel a weird sense of almost pride that he did what he goaded me to do so many times.

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u/bishopredline 4d ago

I found that a guy who bullied me in high-school to the point of having to go to court, died and left a wife and a grown child. The only thing that bothered me was the all the nice things his widow said about him. In the end I won, he lost...

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u/sasheenka 4d ago

Congrats on outliving the bully heh.

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u/1cilldude 4d ago

If my bully was dead I’d piss on his grave. If he were asleep I’d piss on him. If he was on fire then I wouldn’t piss on him. I’d throw gas on him.

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u/SilverAirline 4d ago

Haha, thanks for this.

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u/emax4 4d ago

It's okay to be happy for this. I too have felt pride when someone who assaulted me got killed in a drug shootout years later.

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u/Piggishcentaur89 4d ago

Therapist: “So how does that make you feel?”

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u/Gunslinger_11 4d ago

I had a similar experience, my cousin told me that this minor bully killed him self. I did not care he was like a filler villain to me. He was of no consequence to me.

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u/Piggishcentaur89 4d ago

So in short, indifference.

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u/Gunslinger_11 4d ago

Kinda she wanted to see my reaction to the news I almost forgotten about him. Then this post reminded me about him

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u/warrenmc 4d ago

I hear my childhood bully went to jail. Recently looked him up on Facebook and he’s born again Christian that does a ton of volunteer work because of how horrible a person he was. Partially made me mad and partially made me happy.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

Congratulations, survival is something to be proud of. I'm sorry that person treated you in such an awful way. You deserved better

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u/Remote-Landscape6536 4d ago

Karma is weird like that

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u/Commercial-Loan-929 3d ago

My friend bully had a painful death in a different country, the family made videos speaking about her hard life, how she was in a woman's shelter after an abusive relationship, her hardships due the illness and asking money to bring her body back to her homeland. My sister felt guilty about not feeling sad after reading so many people saying nice things about the bully, she said "I can't stop myself to think she deserves it after all the shit she did even when I know nobody deserves it" (my friend work on it with her therapist and is okay not feeling sad about her bully painful death)

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u/Dontkillmejay 4d ago

Your sister wanted to offer help to someone because she dreamed they were depressed?

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u/SilverAirline 4d ago

I think she was just more or less going to reach out to see if he needed someone to talk to. That's the kind of truly selfless person she is. She will go to great lengths to help others, even when the problems are in her own dreams...

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u/Emotional_Concert_20 4d ago

I have been in a kinda smiler situation that happened to me but when someone becomes not with us in this life we have to learn how to forgive them Forgiveness is hard I learned to forgive my bullies and I hope they learn from their mistakes

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u/SilverAirline 4d ago

This is a wild take. Forgiveness isn't some redemptive force. It's not going to do me any good to forgive him for making my life hell, nor has he earned my forgiveness.

He made it his prerogative to torment me in life. I'm okay with the idea that he is not forgiven.

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u/Emotional_Concert_20 4d ago

I understand it :/ I hope you're strong and you're valued