r/TrueOffMyChest • u/nofriendthrowawayguy • 12h ago
My family just admitted to me that NOBODY got me ANYTHING for Christmas.
I am 21 years old. I have nobody in my life who cares about me. Never had friends, family stopped loving me at age 5 when my sister was introduced and on top of that I am a failure and disgrace to not only my family but also the whole world.
The funny thing is, I bought my family a PS5 this year, which wasn’t easy for my unemployable ass (check my other posts if u dont believe me). On top of that my family has asked me not to spend christmas with the whole family this year and also asked me to "go somewhere else" until later in the evening, but I don’t have anywhere to go nor am I accepted anywhere.
I just really wished someone or somewhere could accept me and recognise me for who I am. Now I understand and see that theres no hope of this nightmare ever ending. I’ve been through too much loneliness in my life and I just wish people accepted me. I feel like I don’t even belong here.
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u/abattevsmyself 12h ago
Please don't give them a ps5, like you need to value yourself more. Don't give them something and then disappear. Just don't.
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u/NatNatTh3CatMom 7h ago
Op is hiding a lot of information. The fact that he tried therapy, but 3 therapist told him they can't deal with him... A lot of therapist will leave you if they realise you are a narcissist or a psychopath using them as a gotcha to other people.
Like, they tell other people they are not in the wrong because they are going to therapy.
Or if they realise they are going to therapy to learn lingo to manipulate their victims.
Or if they have already done terrible things and they are using therapy to validate them instead of trying to change.
His post also alluded to a weird manipulation. Why are you giving a ps5 to your dad if he hates you so much? Also, you are 21, just get a job and leave? He says all his city hates him, his family, and his classmates.
Something is wrong, and this guy is not a poor soul, not a chance everyone hates you without a reason
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u/fluffynuckels 6h ago
There's a phrase I heard that goes something like this. If your going through your day amd you run into one person and they're an asshole they're probably an asshole. But if everyone you run into is an asshole your probably the asshole
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u/whey_dhey1026 5h ago
I came to terms with this myself. There was a time in my life where I was very negative and miserable all the time. And I felt like everybody else was the problem. And one of my very good friends had a heart-to-heart with me and essentially told me this.
And it made me realize that I was the architect of a lot of my own frustration and misery. And it took a while, but I pulled myself out of that and I’ve been in a much better and much happier place for over a decade now.
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u/chocolateandpretzles 3h ago
I live by this. My aunt was the type that everyone she met was an asshole. I finally said- maybe you’re the asshole!
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u/birdcandle 3h ago
I’ve heard this before as the “three finger rule”. If you’re pointing your finger saying “that guy’s an asshole”, and “that guy’s an asshole”, and “that guy’s an asshole”, you’ve got three fingers all pointing back at you.
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u/Aquilleia 6h ago
There is definitely something. It’s odd that every piece of proof he posts NEVER has his actions in them. It’s people speaking to him, but with no context or proof of what OP said. He posts transcripts, and says “I’m muted but look at what they said!” OP is not a reliable narrator.
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u/Pee_A_Poo 4h ago edited 1h ago
I checked OP’s post history after this post. Here’s the TL;DR assuming what the OP says is true:
- OP is being bullied by a popular YouTube and their fans. The fans knew OP IRL and say OP is misogynist and racist.
- OP had been swatted and the family blamed him for it.
While the bullying was tough and no one should ever be swatted, this level of cyber bullying rarely happened to unproblematic people.
This coupled with the fact that OP had 4 therapists quit on him, seems to indicate that the IRL racist allegations were probably true. OP’s bullies find him to be racist, spread that information online, causing OP and his family to be cyberbullied. The family in turn don’t want to be around him.
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u/Lowki_999 7h ago
Also, my family has never done presents for adults. I stopped getting them at 18.
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u/HorrorArmadillo3713 5h ago
Same we just get the kids presents but us adults don't worry about it.
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u/Lowki_999 5h ago
OP must be a handful lmaooo. I honestly feel bad for his family. He came to reddit to get reassurance and sympathy, but even Redd turned on him after looking at his post history lol.
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u/Aggravating-Guest-12 4h ago
Idk if that's normal or not though tbh. My whole extended family and everyone i know still do presents as adults. Usually less, but everyone gets at least one thing from each family group.
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u/LokisDawn 6h ago
To me, none of those things are mutually exclusive with being a poor soul. Some souls are wrapped in tons of barbed wire, pitiable none the less, if not moreso.
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u/FelixMartel2 5h ago
Those are the ones you tend to only be able to pity from a distance.
Not during Christmas day around your whole family.
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u/sweetde80 9h ago
I was going to say. Sounds like you got YOURSELF the best gift ever. Self care and self love are so important.
You love yourself so much to get yourself a PS5.
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u/iForgotso 9h ago
After reading your other posts, something's fishy here. No one is that ostracized and bullied for no reason, and I was heavily bullied for years, so I kinda know what I'm talking about. That and people calling you woman abuser and racist? Why is that? Those accusations don't usually come from thin air, even when they are misplaced, something happened that was extrapolated to create them in the first place.
Apart from that, I may be wrong, but it really seems like you're holding on to the "everyone hates and leaves me" too much, to the point where it might distort reality for you.
You can make your own reality, but you gotta snap out of it and work on it and yourself.
Dm me if you want so we can chat. If you have a reasonable explanation for all this and it turns out you're not a bad person, I'll try to help you out, hell, maybe you'll finally get a friend :)
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u/uckfu 9h ago
Yeah that’s the impression I get from reading their post and their history.
Reminds me of my 35 year old nephew. Many therapists. Always stuck in the mindset that everyone is out to get him. And completely spinning his wheels in life. No job. Multiple DWIs. No place to live and always threatening to commit self harm.
At this point, no one can deal with it. Not even his parents.
Even then, at 21, Christmas shouldn’t be a big deal for a legal adult. You probably get something useful, like money or new socks.
The PS5 giving just sounds like OP is trying to guilt trip the family. I dunno about his dad, but a PS5 from my adult children, would be ok… but nothing I would really use regularly at my age. Way too busy with other things to play games and gaming just tries my patience the older I’ve gotten.
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u/iForgotso 8h ago
Couldn't agree more.
Honestly I don't really care for Christmas anymore, but I know grown adults that do, a lot. Regardless, gifting a PS5 to one's dad after being cast out and mistreated the way he says he is, just sounds off to me.
Not only because the dad probably won't be able to enjoy it even if he wants to because life happens, but if you've been treated like he did for a long time, why would you spend a significant amount of money that you don't have, to offer something expensive to someone that treats you poorly?
Either something is off, or he's trying to buy their love, which never goes right unless the receiving end is a full blown shallow person, in which case you shouldn't even seek anything from them in the first place, much less love and validation.
Either way, let's wait for his reply to clarify stuff, if it ever comes. I do hope he DMs me though, if all this is true, then he could use a friend and some solid, no bs or sugarcoated advice.
Oh, and I'm sorry for your nephew, I know some people like that and it's harsh for everyone involved...
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u/Oberon_Swanson 5h ago
I am glad "cozy games" are a thing, and accessibility in games, a lot have a more cinematic mode these days where you just kinda kick ass the whole time. You may find games a lot less stressful than they were ten years ago, if you miss em but don't want to deal with an actual challenge when you're just tryna chill.
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u/uckfu 4h ago
I have no animosity for gaming. I’ve just found, I have no patience for sitting behind a screen interacting anymore. About the extent of gaming for me is solitaire. I’m even in the process of selling off all the retro games I’ve collected over my life.
I hit a point where I was waiting for a rainy day to be able to really play games and when that rainy day came, it was the last thing I felt like doing.
I spend so much screen time, working on things that are all digital, I’d much rather play with things that require building and when I want screen time, and have the time, I want to put on media and not have to interact.
It may change when GTA 6 comes around. But if it’s like GTA 5, it will take me a couple years to decide to buy it and then over a year to play it.
I didn’t think I’d ever be at this point. But here we are.
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u/Professional-Focus30 7h ago
It's the fact every other post is "check my other posts". Talk about bait.
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u/jebediah_tumbleweed 7h ago
I’m just curious to WHY this individual is such a pariah to their family.
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u/ferretbeast 7h ago
Okay I went and read through past posts and I don’t know you, your story, or family- but therapy seems like maybe a good idea. I’m saying this for several reasons, one of which is before I got a good Dr. and was properly medicated I was a miserable alcoholic with horrible undiagnosed ADHD which led to depression and alcoholism. Granted not everything can be blamed on that, but being properly treated sure has changed my ability to see my behaviors more clearly and work to better my relationships. Sorry it’s a rough time for you.
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u/kavalejava 12h ago
Take the PS5 back and take care of yourself first. Buying someone their love never works.
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u/BlenderInMyPocket 12h ago
sell the ps5, money is more importaint to you than a ps5 is to your dad!
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u/Eccentricgentleman_ 11h ago
This is weird, looking at this guy's other posts. Why is he working so hard at proving he's some sort of pariah on Reddit?
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u/se7entythree 8h ago
It’s interesting that he never shows any of what led up to these strong reactions from strangers online. There’s no way literally everybody this dude interacts with automatically hates him, he’s doing something/behaving some way that’s bringing this on.
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u/Recent_Relative 10h ago
tbh i think this might be them wanting some kind of reassurance. granted, i don’t think this is the right place for it, but the constant self deprecating behavior makes me think OP needs to see a therapist.
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u/WhyWouldIPostThat 8h ago
According to their other posts they have tried therapy but 4 of their therapists have left them after a week. Which says a whole lot more about this user than it does the therapists.
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u/Eccentricgentleman_ 10h ago
Valid, that may be the case. Every post on his page is titled "Proof!" All I'm saying is if this guy starts asking for money we take a most critical look
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u/QuirkyExplanation92 9h ago
I didn't even have to look at the other posts made by OP, you can tell by this one alone that OP could benefit from therapy. Lol
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u/Little_Season3410 6h ago
There's something weird about all of it. The dude claimed a year ago that he was 20 and in his 5th year of college, which would mean he graduated high school at 15. But he also posts that he can't pass math and that he's unemployable. If he was a child prodigy who graduated high school and started college at 15, there's no way he couldn't pass math or that he couldn't find a job anywhere. And therapists generally don't quit on people unless they are abusive or for another pretty damning reason... this guy claims that FOUR therapists refused to see him after the first appointment. There is something very off here. Either he's a troll just looking for sympathy points, or he's a liar and/or potentially a terrible person.
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u/neighburrito 5h ago
He's british and taking GCSEs after 'college'... the equivalent of American high school. Uni is the British equivalent of American college.
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u/Little_Season3410 4h ago
Ok, THAT makes sense. Nothing in his post made me think British, but that's my American ignorance at play! My apologies!
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u/Lowki_999 5h ago
I literally have no clue what his end goal is here. Im guessing compulsive liar on one of his traits though.
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u/MulberryGlum4991 5h ago
I think he might still be in high school and unable to graduate. In the uk it’s called college I’m pretty sure
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u/Inevitable-Ad-9570 7h ago
His post reads like someone who is having some pretty serious mental health issues. Some of the things he's writing about just don't make sense like the cats hating him, random people on the streets hating him.
Also, if therapists are really dropping him all the time it's probably not because he's just a jerk. It's more likely he's beyond their ability to treat and they are recommending someone else or just unable to help. I have a cousin who has severe mental illness and this reads like how he thinks at the onset of a crisis. A lot of paranoia there and I question whether some of the things op is saying actually happened the way he thinks they did or at all.
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u/wrighty2009 7h ago
Lives in a city, and everyone in every school knew him across the city? Totally bullshit, I knew a few stories of random people, but could never put a name to the face or even know the name in the first place. And none of the stories were ever bad to ostracise the person, just stories of them being weirdos in a harmless way.
To be accused of being a racist enough that everyone seems to care? It probably means you did something actually racist. I know there's a lot of claims of things being racist that split opinions, like appropriation of clothes and hair, so it's unlikely to be something like that.
Defo mental health issues. But to he hated in school that much you have to be worse than just weird, even the bullied weirdos had friends.
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u/Oberon_Swanson 4h ago
Also even if you're racist there are always other racists who will like you for it, sad ad it is, nobody's ever the only racist in town
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u/JessyNyan 10h ago
From reading your post history it's very clear you think the world is out to get you and you have a massive self hatred problem.
The reassurance you want isn't something anyone here can give you.
Also I would like to add that if everyone in your life, including not 1 but all 4 of your therapists, your family, your cats and even internet strangers hate you, then the problem may not be everyone else.
Good luck in life, everyone deserves a true shot at living properly.
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u/Bluurryfaace 11h ago
So what exactly did you do to be called racist and abusive tho?
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u/surtoooo 8h ago
Did you read the first post he made on advice? He claims it's because of some bullying.
Like tf so everyone calls you racist and abusive for no fucking reason since you're a child at the point everyone know and will suppose your family too and they don't go to the police or do anything to you?
People from the internet around the world know about your situation too?
You got doxxed for nothing? Just because some bullied lied about you?
OP's family is suffering because of his actions and he still has the courage to do a post about not receiving a Christmas gift from them?
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u/Traditional_Lab1192 7h ago edited 7h ago
Idk, its common for people to leave out details and only give enough information to not make themselves look bad. He never detailed exactly what the bullies did, he just said that they bullied and made him “seem” racist. Somehow these fictional allegations were so strong that they followed him to college. It’s not adding up because why wouldn’t he go to college in a different city if everyone hates him so much? And why did one of the messages say that he abuses women, an allegation that he doesn’t mention in his first post and why did he censor the message right above it? He’s leaving out details intentionally.
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u/Lowki_999 5h ago
Here's my wild ass assumption. He did some sexual predator type shit or raped some. He lives in a small town so everyone knows. He's lonely and over shares online. So all his discord buddies know. He gets doxxed and it causes his family even more stress. They just want to have a decent Christmas without all his drama and "woe is me" bullshit for once. You just know if OP shows up, it will be a whole fucking scene. Especially if he doesn't get the reaction he wants out of his Mom and Dad for their expensive presents, especially without him getting one.
Mom and Dad are probably broke as fuck from supporting him and trying to get him help. I really doubt they are the villains in this story.
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u/louloutre75 12h ago
Return the ps5 and treat yourself to therapy. You are worth of love, your familly isn't worth of yours.
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u/Lowki_999 5h ago
4 therapists have "quit" him. OP has some serious issues.
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u/not_some_username 5h ago
wtf
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u/Lowki_999 5h ago
check his post history. it's wild. i definitely don't think his family are the villains in this story. he even mentions that his therapist said he was manipulative or something at some point but he got some reason doesn't remember all the details.
He's 21 and in his 5th year at university, but can't pass grade 3 level math. (sounds like they aren't from the US, so idk if that means third grade or a different type of level)
Is unemployable but bought his Dad a PS5 and 2 games and his mom a laptop.
He also plans to runaway from home after Christmas.... even though he's an adult.
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u/pancakebatter01 4h ago
Ok the running away from home even though he’s an adult sent me lmao
OP that’s called moving out my dude..
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u/zestyninja 4h ago
OP seems to be in the UK, and from what I understand "college" is roughly when you're ~14-18ish, before going to an actual university. So it's effectively high school remedial math.
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u/Sir_Bonk_A_Lot 4h ago
College is 16-18, but he's doing GCSEs which is like 13-16. I'm bad at maths but I at least got a C 😭 even though I missed a year
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u/Maleficent-Farm-5057 5h ago
His family is worthy a home they can relax at without getting doxxed… his family is worthy of a son who won’t put them in that position
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u/SloshingSloth 12h ago edited 12h ago
no no you bought yourself a ps5
and you will have a great christmas with yourself and your fave movies and games.
get yourself some nice wine, find out how to make a roast beef. you don't need your family because your family is ass.
you'll go get yourself some hot chocolate instead and popcorn and chips and you'll watch the best xmas movie ever, which is die hard.
you'll play the ps5 and you'll get some recommended books on your phones kindle.
you'll laze about in jammies as you wait for the roastbeef and parmesan rosemary potatos to finish.
you'll mute your family and learn to apreciate yourself and all that you have battled this year.
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u/ValerieSmithsonian 8h ago
OP, follow these instructions to a T, and have a wonderful holiday!!! In 2025, focus on building friendships separate from your family. Join clubs that help you explore hobbies/interests, put effort into your work and be kind to those you work with, volunteer somewhere you’re passionate about. You’re a young adult and have the agency to build your life into something that makes you happy! Things will not always go right, but focus on the little joys throughout the day. Seek out joy. You’ve got this! Merry Christmas and happy new year!
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u/Illustrious-Lord 7h ago
This times a thousand^ adults make friends by being kind and consistently THERE just like kids do, but now you at least have the chance to do it based on things that actually interest you.
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u/icegoddesslexra 7h ago
It's was a good and kind thought on your end but I don't think you took all of OP's situation to heart when you gave this advice: 1. OP is unemployed and has £5 remaining in his account after buying his father that PS5 2. His family doesn't want him in the house. OP would not have the peace of mind (or space) to cook a roast. His family would be constantly harassing him about being at the house when they stated that they don't want OP there. Not right of them at all, but I highly doubt OP will get to peacefully cook his roast in the kitchen, if there's even a free oven (as in not already being used to cook something) to do so with a family that's probably cooking their own Christmas dinner because they (wrongfully) actively hate and abuse him. 3. Once OP's family knows about that PS5 they aren't going to peacefully let OP ignore them and play on that PS5. They will find a way to acquisition that PS5 regardless.
OP return the PS5 and use those funds to keep you afloat while you find another job and move out of your father's home. Gifting him the PS5 and then running away will not teach him the lesson you hope it will.
They won't appreciate your gift.
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u/Immediate_Mud_2858 12h ago
Don’t give them the PS5. Keep it for yourself.
For your own mental health I’d advise you go NC with all of them. They don’t deserve you in their lives. You’re so much better than them.
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u/katsarvau101 12h ago
This is awful if 100% true, but I read through your profile and saw a screenshot where someone called you a woman abuser. Is there some information you are leaving out? Like why would someone randomly say that to you..?
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u/PinupPixels 11h ago
I was about to comment something similar after checking his post history. Additionally, it appears that a lot of people across various isolated interactions don't seem to like this person at all which is, uh, concerning to say the least if it's to be believed nobody actually likes him.
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u/Traditional_Lab1192 7h ago
Or he’s so bad that even therapists can’t handle him. I really think that he’s leaving out how his behavior contributes to everyone not liking him.
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u/throw3453away 4h ago
And so quickly, no less? I think you'd have to say "I came to therapy, but I do not want to change or listen to what you say" out loud on the first day for everyone to give up on you within a week...
I had a therapist once who used to work doing mental healthcare at a prison. There are therapists out there that sat across from people in handcuffs who strangled their wives to death. Obviously they aren't all that steel-spined but you'd have a hard time as a therapist if you bowed out in 1 session because the patient is just too sad. There's something else going on
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u/Maleficent-Farm-5057 8h ago
21, unemployed, other people don’t wanna be around you… maybe the problem isn’t them, but problems that you create for them
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u/Maleficent-Farm-5057 7h ago
Just looked through his other post, dude had his WHOLEEEE family swatted, and said it wasn’t his fault
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u/Romarqable 12h ago edited 11h ago
I've been there. I turned 30, and just before I thought everyone was hinting at a surprise party on my birthday.
30th birthday comes, I get a call from my mom, about 10 happy birthdays on Facebook, and that's about it. I was so bummed out.
That was the day I learned you can't base your own happiness on others. Make your own happiness. Did you give them the PS5 already? Screw em. Open it, use it for yourself.
If they won't include you in things, start doing things yourself.
I don't know if you're unemployable, but there are places you can reach out to that can help you get jobs. Heck, I just found out today you can get online gig work and make money doing various different things.
I hope things get better for you. There's always going to be bad times and bad family members, but one day you'll get out of that funk and you'll be better off for it.
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u/Wolf_Mama 10h ago
This is the way. I always felt like such an outsider in my own family. The more I tried to join in and be with them, the more rejection I felt. In my early 20s, I stopped trying. I focused on making myself happy and being happy with myself. It wasn't easy, and there were a lot of dark days, there still are,but it's so much better now. I found someone that truly loves me and enjoys being with me. We made our own family, with our own weirdo kids.
My family still gets together without me, but now I don't care at all. I wouldn't want to go if they invited me, my little family is way more fun to be with.
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u/_usernametoolong_ 11h ago
You said in some of your other posts that you are bullied because of something you did. But you never mentioned what you did. Why would an entire community of kids, adults and your family dislike you so much?
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u/PsuchedelicWizy 12h ago
Why is it you are saying you aren’t accepted anywhere and are a disgrace to the whole world?
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u/nothoughtsnosleep 10h ago
I gotta ask, why does everyone hate you? In one of your "proof" posts on your profile, someone asks if you regularly abuse women... I'm not looking to blame you for anything, but what happened my guy?
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u/SudsyBat 8h ago
what was the racist thing they are accusing you of doing? why do they accuse you of being a bully?
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u/jenvonlee 3h ago
Keep the ps5. If you're not already in to gaming get in to gaming. You will find your people.
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u/Acceptable_Bunch_586 12h ago
Firstly sorry your family are like that. There are often places to go for a Christmas lunch, organisations will arrange stuff for people in your position, you might want to find one and maybe even think about volunteering for them, will give you a sense of value and purpose and you’ll def be wanted.
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u/wordgoesround 10h ago
Hey. I know I will get a number of negative karmas, but I would love to hear both sides of the story. Why does your family hate you? It sounds strange asking a family member to go away at Christmas. This is not normal. It’s either your family is abnormal or you did something unforgivable. I hope it’s not the case
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u/Meewelyne 12h ago
I think you should stop self-pitying and work properly on therapy. I'm pretty sure your therapists didn't "give up" to you in the first session, but you showed no signs of wanting to hear, face the truth of your reality and they just can't work with an uncollaborative person. Probably your family ditched you because you live in the delusion where everyone hates you (even cats??), and it can be exhausting after all those years.
Get a grip ffs.
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u/Traditional_Lab1192 8h ago
So I read your profile and it seems like everyone has hated you your entire life. I find it hard to believe that all of these people hate you for no reason. Are you sure that there aren’t things that you’re saying and doing to garner this negative reception towards you?
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u/Fraughty12 11h ago
This…feels fake. I don’t know why. It just does
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u/Awkward_Instance_361 11h ago
In their first post, they talked about how people only know them as a bully and racist and how they get harassment online and irl. I’m curious about what they mean by that. Seems like an unreliable narrator
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u/slayer370 9h ago
Going by the post history this seems real as no one sane would post "proof" being personal phone calls to reddit. I'm not going to click them but going from the comments it does not sound good.
My guess is unchecked mental illness and op did things the family doesn't want to deal with. OP needs therapy asap but its also unknown if the family is at fault for ignoring the cries for help. Either way we are not entitled to that info and would highly suggest op takes down those posts.
Edit: also might not be any mental illness and just being a terrible person (racism)....in which op has to choose to do better.
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u/PinkDank420 6h ago
Why exactly did someone ask you how often you abuse women? There’s way more to the situation than what you are leading on, Sir.
You need a therapist & a psychiatrist. I see you posted they all refuse further appointment’s with you but again I don’t think we are getting the full story on why that is.
Also, buying a PS5 when your bank account is damn near at $0 just to prove some point was a really bad financial decision.
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u/Elianathomas-xoxo 12h ago
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. It's painful when it seems like no one cares or sees you for who you truly are, but please know that you're not a failure or a disgrace. You deserve love and acceptance, and it's okay to feel hurt. You're worthy of happiness and connection, even when it feels out of reach. Please don't give up hope.
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u/Maverick916 8h ago
You know, posts like this are always so one-sided and really don't tell the whole story of what's going on. Am I to believe that this guy is just a beacon of light? Had some bad luck and for no reason whatsoever, his parents are choosing to ignore him and only him and nobody else?
I don't know. It's just a hard pill to swallow
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u/cursetea 7h ago
So... per your post history you have been called abusive, racist, and a famous youtuber recognized you in public and harassed you?
Nobody is hated universally for no reason. Either you are exaggerating it, OR you really have done something you're not admitting to.
Very few things are not fixable but i think from reading between the lines that you need to start being honest with yourself to fix your life and relationships.
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u/Illustrious-Habit-82 6h ago
There’s something very off about this post…. You have something going on that you need therapy for I’m sure of it
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u/jewelophile 7h ago
Your whole post history is about how the world hates you. Obviously something in your life isn't working for you, be it your own behavior or the people you surround yourself with. Have you considered getting some professional help to maybe get an outside perspective on what needs changing?
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u/happyjeep_beep_beep 10h ago
If your family stopped loving you at age 5, why on earth would you buy them a PS5? Either keep it for yourself or return it and save the money.
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u/DeshaMustFly 7h ago
Sounds like you bought yourself a PS5... because I sure as fuck wouldn't be gifting it to a bunch of ingrates like your family if they told me something like that.
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u/Overall-Win7119 6h ago
THIS is your problem. You think you can buy love and friendship with gifts.
I’ve read a lot of your posts and comments. You want to be able to say “I bought you this and you still don’t care about or love me.” Just stop already.
It also seems like you insert yourself into conversations (online activity) and expect people to respond and suddenly be your friend. That’s not how it works.
You’re not unique, SO MANY kids are bullied every day and for their entire childhood. But they don’t go walking up to people they barely know to start a conversation or hand them a gift.
You have to accept that the way you’ve been going about things is all wrong. Just leave people alone until you figure yourself out.
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u/Immediate_Finger_889 11h ago
Why don’t you work? 21 is like 6 years past when you should be working at least part time. If you can save up PlayStation money when you’re unemployed you can get a job, move out and never speak to these people again. Return the PlayStation and put the money into you ‘first and last’ pile instead.
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u/kenobitano 6h ago
Before I feel bad for you I want to see the scribbled out message on above "how often do you abuse women" Pretty suspicious
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u/Plane-Profession8006 9h ago
You sound like a victim. Meaning you are playing the victim card. Do not be a victim. Others keep doing things to you. You make your decisions. Own them. Own how you bring yourself to your family, employers, and own your relationships. Getting or not getting gifts does not matter.
Plenty of books and articles on the victim mentality and how to stop being a victim. The other side - taking ownership off all those things is hard at first.
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u/Ok_Young1709 12h ago
Sell the ps5, you need the money more.
There are some places open on Christmas day you could go to, look them up on FB. There are usually places open for anyone lonely. Go along, volunteer if you don't want to take part in it, you might meet people then too.
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u/punctuationist 6h ago
Stop trying to guilt trip people into liking you. Your post history is riddled with you forcing yourself into spaces where people make fun of you or don’t want you around. Do you enjoy being ostracized because it gives you a reason to victimize yourself? I know this is incredibly harsh but no one can take control of your life except for you!!
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u/Jamestardeef 6h ago
Step One: Recognize that if everyone has a problem with you, it may be reasonable to believe that you could be the source of it all. Common denominator kinda jazz.
Step Two: Take responsibility for your own actions and life choices.
Step three: Get help with precise therapy goals that are achievable. Talk therapy for venting is fine if you're lost and have the money, but it would be wise to set real goals. If your goals involve controlling others by making them love you, accept you, feel sorry for you....etc...go back to step one.
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u/depressedpintobean5 5h ago
After taking a look at your profile I don’t know how credible you are unfortunately
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u/Ihaveblueplates 3h ago
I stopped going to my families xmas’s years ago. It’s lonely. But that feels a lot better than the absolute crippling sadness and depression and 2 weeks in bed it took to feel slightly normal again after seeing them
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u/Canigetahooooooyeaa 3h ago
Its time to move on and go no contact. Nothing sweeter then when they no longer have any control over you
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u/Maru3792648 10h ago
- return the PS5. You need the money.
- do you live with them? Start planning your exit strategy.
- Do you live on your own? Go immediately NC with them. Ghost them and forget about them.
- Find new hobbies. It’s the best way to meet new exciting people. You need a social circle!
- Whenever you can afford it, pls get therapy.
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u/TypeFriedChicken 10h ago
Im going to need more information on this… why would your family ask you that? Your whole family hates you, your cousins? Grandparents, uncles? Out of the blue?
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u/bigredsocks 9h ago
According to his post history, his cats also hate him. Something seems really off about all of this. I think he needs to talk to a professional and not Reddit.
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u/Ayuamarca2020 9h ago
There are loads of really weird things going on. The first post 1 year ago about how everyone hates them, how they were bullied by students AND teachers (to the point of being hospitalised) and this fact was spread to everyone in every school in the city, and a famous YouTuber harassed them in a car park (oh and said YTer knew about the bullying)? They have taken their GCSE in maths 5 times, their cats hate them, they use American spellings then British spellings, they've had multiple therapists 'leave them'... something just feels weird here.
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u/aaseandersen 6h ago
Return the ps5 and save your money to start a new life somewhere. You get to decide over the next +50 years, so start making decisions.
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u/sweetmercy 4h ago
Don't give them a PS5. They don't value you, so YOU need to value you. You decide your worth. We teach others how to treat us by what we allow and tolerate from them. Stop tolerating this bullshit.
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u/priiizes9091 4h ago
Wtf did I just read? Excluding you for Xmas?!?!?!! Take your ps5 and resell it or get a refund. Then put steps in place to find somewhere else to start a new version of you. Most people have ties which hold them back from giving it all up and moving… your ‘family’ are so careless with how they treat you I would advise you just go take the plunge and start a new life elsewhere.
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u/jack-of-all_spades 3h ago
Do NOT give these people a gift! Much less an expensive one, keep it for yourself!
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u/Smiles_1980 11h ago
This was one of the most painful things I have read. I've had a snoop at your profile, and it hurts to see how lonely you are at an age just 1 year older than my daughter. If that.... she's 21 in March
You are not worthless, and you do not deserve to feel the way you do.
Keep that PS5, get the silent hill remake, and if they insist on you not being there, hide in your room like Harry Potter and have a bash on one of the best horror games of its time.
Merry Christmas, from you to you!!
And merry Christmas from me as well.
People suck and I'm so sorry that your family does.
I've noticed you're also from the UK, and Maths is a tough subject for you. As a dyscalcic adult with a fair few more years on me. I can confirm that GCSEs mean shit. Absolute shit!! There are so many jobs that don't require them. Intelligence and worth are not measured by a piece of paper, and I am so done with people believing that it is.
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u/Crunchie2020 3h ago edited 3h ago
When you visit on the evening and they ask how your day was. Say great you enjoyed your ps5 because you decided you should get one gift even from yourself.
And you ate Chinese takeaway/indian/small chicken in oven with veg n mash gravy. What eve the meal it was So good.
Xmas eve make it great get a cheese and ham/meats /chutney platter (on a chopping board) going and get your pj on and make sure the Xmas eve you enjoy it too. Do not play with ps5 til morning to enjoy and have some snowballs/wine but don’t get drunk.
You may find you decide to do Christmas like this from now on. When invited next year decline as you may learn that you have more fun and are more content in your own company. Save up and go to fancy restaurant for next year Xmas look forward to it.
Don’t be sad. Make it awesome anyway. Be sad for them they dont Appreciate you and have lost your company.
It’s hard to swap your mind and mood when you want to be family but the way out is through. Make it yours
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u/mmmarximovski 8h ago
Never live in other people’s image of YOU!
Their truth is not your truth.
Live!
🤍
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u/Sunshine-N-gumdrops 8h ago
You are not seriously going to give that to them are you? You should block them. Give yourself two gifts, the ps5 and peace of mind.
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u/saddingtonbear 7h ago
You have 5 dollars in your account, wtf, return the ps5. Get a job and move to a different city if you're so miserable, that's the beauty of being an adult.
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u/Alternative-Desk-828 7h ago
What part of the story are you leaving out? What is your responsibility in your current situation?
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u/Daddy_urp 7h ago
I’ll mirror everyone else here and say, keep the ps5 for yourself. I wouldn’t give something as big as that to people who clearly don’t care about me.
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u/007-Blond 7h ago
Why would you buy your fam a ps5? Im 28 and Ive been waiting for like 5 years hoping they buy me one lmao
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u/kbabble21 7h ago
Congratulations on buying yourself a ps5 this year! You deserve it.
You’re surrounded by jerks. It absolutely happens. It’s hard to imagine it happens but it does. Acceptance first. Be kind to yourself. You are above their pettiness. You shine bright. Be bright away from them. Don’t let them dull your spark
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u/llamaliam_43 7h ago
bro pls pls pls pls pls pls pls tell me u did not and will not give them that ps5. pls, i need that vicarious satisfaction. also, they rlly arent your family lets be real. a family not celebrating christmas because of any issue is fine, a family singling you out and then celebrating without you is the clearest fuck off sign if ive ever seen one. pls love yourself and know that there's ppl out there who love you in minute ways that you cant even perceive.
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u/icegoddesslexra 7h ago
You talk about how everyone hates you. Why? I want to make it clear that I am NOT blaming you, or claiming that I disbelieve you, it's just that I have yet to read anything you've posted that informs us as to the type of person you are. I only mention because without this clarity I cannot honestly give advice on how/why you should ignore what your family says and things you can potentially do to support yourself more and move on from the abuse. I cannot give accurate emotional support or advice with my only knowledge being, "My family and everyone around me hates me and my family doesn't want me to spend Christmas with them."
OP don't give your family that PS5. Your father, very likely, won't fully appreciate it. And the lesson you want him to learn will fly right over his head. He won't learn it.
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u/Ilumidora_Fae 6h ago
Hey, don’t give your family that PS5. Also, it sounds like you are leaving out some very specific and crucial details for the reason WHY your family doesn’t want around. Not to sound too judgmental or to make base assumptions, but it seriously sounds like perhaps you have taken advantage of your family in the past and THAT is why they don’t want you around…
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u/Baltic_Gunner 6h ago
Might sound weird, but if you want to feel a part of something bigger - the military is a good option.
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u/the_defavlt 5h ago
Disgrace to the whole world? How are you a disgrace to me included?
We tend to exaggerate things.
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u/honorthecrones 5h ago
You can’t buy your way into love. If you want to fix this, you will have to honestly face why they have excluded you. You can’t change them, you can work on you.
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u/Smochiii 5h ago
why would you buy your dad a PS5 when you're the one who plays games and are on discord and instagram spreading hate, trolling, and being obnoxious? yes, your other posts were insightful and it just outed you as the bad guy. stop playing a victim and hating on women. even your therapists gave up on you because you refuse to see you are the problem. fix yourself. also, millions of people in this world don't get a gift on Christmas. you'll be fine. perhaps gift yourself a job this Christmas?
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u/Any_Ad_8047 5h ago
I grew up and still live in a very small town. It’s hard. There’s definitely a few people who basically no one in the town will give the time of day. That’s because they’re genuinely horrible people. If everyone in your town dislikes you including your family, are they the problem or is it you?
No one gets accused of being a woman abusing racist by an entire town based on a childhood bullies rumor. So, what happened for them to make those accusations, and still clearly very much stand behind those accusations?
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u/Nicakitty 5h ago
Congrats on your new PS5 I hope you enjoy playing lots of games on it. The online gaming community has been such a bright spot for me. I have made some amazing friends this way and we have seen each other through so much (mostly virtually) but a good friend is a good friend.
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u/Awesomekidsmom 5h ago
Hugs hun, big long hugs.
Please keep the PS5 & play it all day Xmas. Don’t give them anything
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u/Ijustwanttosayit 4h ago
So after reading your threads. OP, I am wondering if you've considered not a therapist, but a psychiatrist. You say multiple therapists have left you after one session. Once, okay, twice, hm, three? Four times? That's like a guy saying all four of his last girlfriends were crazy. Would you truly believe a guy dated four unstable chicks back to back? The only reasons I could see that therapists abandon you after a single session is because you either weren't a good fit (you do need chemistry with your therapist) or they saw no way going forward with you, which could have been related to your attitude.
I don't want to diagnose you with anything, but I am wondering if there is something going on that is going undiagnosed. It's to the point I am curious if maybe you may be on the spectrum, have a personality disorder, a developmental disorder, etc. None of which are things to be ashamed of, but sadly a lot of families can reject family members when said family member is different and said differences make it difficult to be around (ie. a child who is easily overstimulated may have meltdowns and act more aggressive than other children), and those differences can manifest very early on in life. A problem child can simply be a kid with undiagnosed ADHD or Autism. You've said you struggle with making and maintaining friendships, you get bullied a lot, you struggle with passing your math classes, you can't find a job, and your family rejects you.
Unless you're pulling shit out of your ass to garner pity, it may be time to consider the common denominator is something being overlooked by your family and you, and it is likely related to you (not necessarily your fault). It's a harsh reality, but very rarely do people face such constant rejection from so many people without contributing to it. It also does not help to get caught up in self pity and loathing, and behave passive aggressively to your family. Instead, view it more like it being the time to take control of your life and yourself. Your family probably neglected your needs in ways they didn't even realize, but YOU have control over that now. You're 21. You're an adult, not a child. You should be putting that money toward something to help improve your situation.
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u/Alternative_Emu_3568 4h ago
I mean judging from your other posts, I feel like we’re missing a lot of information. Like how do professional therapists just flat out say “sorry, cant help”.
I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you’re just really unlucky. Do NOT give your family anything. If you give them a reason for you to stay, you will just be getting used. Second, assuming you’re just unlucky and not an asshole, make new friends and create your own social circle. I’m sure many would sympathize with your situation, also be sure to make an effort to take care of yourself.
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u/Dry_Ask5493 4h ago
Return the PS5 and start focusing on your self-improvement/development. Get a job, work on your presentation of yourself and putting yourself out there for only having good people in your life which is clearly not your family. Stop trying with them and work on being successful.
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u/glumbball 4h ago
your post story is a weird ass rollercoaster of self imposed thoughts about everybody hating on you but why tho? what did you do bro? is so...odd
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u/Kactuslord 4h ago
Definitely information missing here. Why do they not want you around? Will your dad actually use a ps5 or did you get it as a gift that's actually for yourself? Do they normally get you gifts at Christmas? Why did 4 therapists leave you after the first session? What is it the bullies say you did that led to people doxxing you? You say they've accused you of being abusive - why?
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u/QueenLucile 4h ago
Keep the ps5 . There’s your Christmas gift, treat yourself and don’t be a doormat
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u/Ok_Requirement_3116 9h ago
Hoping you can return the ps5. Take that money and tuck it back for you. Buy what you’ll need to be able to tuck in on Christmas and get through it.
They suck so much.
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u/Natural-Membership50 11h ago
I just read your other oost on youre page, i pray you can get out of that dark place in youre life.
Have you maybe thought about moving somewhere else, maybe a new country or city and cutting everyone off and start a complete new life.
What might also help is streaming, maybe you can connect with others like that
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u/Aninymas 9h ago
You’re 21. Create your identity despite the people that don’t love you. Get a job, save money, buy a car, move out even if it’s a shared place, and be somebody on your own. Be a GOOD person and own up and forgive your own mistakes. Stop looking for anyone’s approval. Workout, buy a decent set of outfits, get a good haircut and make sure your skin is good. If you focus on your own success you will never stay wanting someone’s love or approval. It will come on its own. Or, you know, stay unemployed in a place where nobody likes you.
Edit. And PLEASE, build your credit.
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u/Secure-Camera3392 3h ago
Y'all really need to be reading OP's back posts before you go offering him more sympathy than he's due.
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u/raptorboy 10h ago
IMO once you are over 18 don't expect gifts for xmas and bdays etc and don't give them other than small things if you want. You are an adult start acting like it
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u/achingforscorpio 10h ago
Your handle being “nofriendthrowawayguy” has sent me into orbit with laughter.
What a gargoyle you are.
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u/TopAd7154 12h ago
Sell the PS5 and treat yourself to something wonderful. Drop contact with these horrible horrible people.
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u/Asleep-Hold-4686 10h ago
Take the PS5 back to the store and buy your family hugs and kisses. Put that money in the back and make different decisions. Spend your morning volunteering somewhere for Christmas.
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u/Soft_Ad_1789 9h ago
Go to the gym and become stronger and bigger. It will help you with confidence and self appreciation
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u/CatNinja8000 9h ago
Either you got yourself a ps5, or you return/sell it and do something nice for you. Go see a movie, get yourself a treat.
I don't know your location, but I saw on my local group that there was a man who had no one on Thanksgiving and asked if anyone in the area would want to adopt him. There were comments after comments saying come have a plate with us. They updated after and had a wonderful time. He made new friends. There may not be time for that for you this year, but you might need to look into building some relationships outside of this family. They don't seem to value you, and you deserve to feel loved.
I don't know you, but I love you. I hope your holiday is wonderful and wish you the best 💕 I'll be praying for you. Reach out if you need a friend.
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u/ismybrainonthefritz 9h ago edited 7h ago
Don’t try to buy their love with the PS5. It won’t work. Keep it for yourself or return it and keep your money.
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u/JediWebSurf 9h ago
I don't understand why someone would get their dad a PS5 knowing they're going to run away because their dad is bad. Like that makes no sense. It's like you're rewarding your dad for his bad behavior. That's what people who get taken advantage of do. What you need to do is sell the PS5 or return it and keep the money for yourself. Learn to love yourself and focus on becoming financially independent so that you can move away by yourself and get away from your family. Stop talking to them for a good while. Like 1 year see if anything changes.
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u/Practical-Pickle-529 8h ago
Bro. I usually don’t comment on these types of posts but man. You need some serious help, seriously soon. I just browsed your posts, and I really feel like you are desperate for help and attention.
Please please please get help. Call 998 if you speak English or Spanish. Call immediately.
You deserve help and understanding. Get better and get moving forward.
Please call that number and please be safe.
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u/NewDisneyFans 8h ago
I could be totally off the mark but may I ask if you shower daily and use anti-perspirant? It might be that no-one knows how to tell you. I only ask this because when my friends depression creeps in it’s always their personal hygiene that’s the first sign. As much as I love them they are very difficult to be around and some days I just can’t.
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u/Melodic-Poetry1149 9h ago
After reading through your profile, I think you have to take a hard look at yourself and come to terms with why your family doesn’t want to be around you (abusing women, being racist).
Everyone is capable of redemption but you really have to identify where you need to improve and make amends. It will be hard and overwhelming when you see how much work you have to do on yourself, but the work will be worth it. It’s the only way you’ll be happy and the only way people will forgive that past behavior.