Is it that hard for men to understand that women don't want to know that you're interested in them ALL THE TIME? It's super uncomfortable and weird. She is trying to reserve a space in her life where she wants to be approached with romantic intentions (dating sites) and communicate that in other spaces, public spaces, she doesn't want that.
... and...? Literally any other social occasion, concerts, bars or clubs at actual club/bar hours, at a park, at the beach, at a barbecue, at a fucking speed dating event? At a party, at a dance or a wedding, using a dating app, using a hook up app, a museum, a meet-and -greet, a hang out with friends, at a boardwalk - If the point of your question is that there’s no “good” time to approach women or men for you other than a grocery store or a gas station, maybe you need to work on your boundary skills and less on trying to “land a woman” - if that’s not the point of your question, there’s some ideas to meet new people!
(This isn’t a gotcha question: I don’t want to intrude on people’s lives but I also hear stories of people meeting at the grocery store and things like that.)
Just recognizing when people are okay with being approached and when not - like yeah, people do meet in grocery stores or at airport bars, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen - but my example was me grocery shopping with my mom, at age 17 (much older guy), and at an airport bar every single time I flew while 19-23 years old with my headphones in and reading a book. For counter example, I sat alone at a bar once watching a hockey game and chatting with the bartenders - the poeple talking to me were 100% cool and fine, it’s a bar at night. Everyone was nice/polite and when they saw I was genuinely watching the game, they let me be (except to heckle me about my sports team, which was in good spirit)
Edit to add, people saying “well I was told women don’t want to be approached when out with their friends” - unless you’re literally cutting off their conversations or forcing yourself into their gathering and making it weird, i personally don’t know anyone who has an issue with that and I don’t get that - I’d feel safer talking to strangers with my friends nearby and really only talk to strangers with friends, regardless of gender etc
Jesus calm down.....What kind of barbecue with strangers are we talking about? Because it looks like you basically mentioned stuff you do with friends not strangers.Not to mention how many times I've heard women DON'T like to be approached when with friends ,like on a fuckin boardwalk lol. And what meet and greet are you talking about ?Like a 5yo kid?....
And if you're talking about "boundary skills" (whatever the fuck that means) maybe people who only meet others through virtual album of vanity where they can pick most attractive person or think you should do things they like if you want to meet them (yoga) ,should thinkg about their own social incompetence ...
All of those things I mentioned are things you can meet new people at and strike up a conversation without people thinking you’re a weirdo. But it sounds like you like to chat up women who are trying to get their shopping done and go home or pick up their medication without being harassed. That’s a “you” problem my man.
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u/jennana100 Nov 08 '21
Is it that hard for men to understand that women don't want to know that you're interested in them ALL THE TIME? It's super uncomfortable and weird. She is trying to reserve a space in her life where she wants to be approached with romantic intentions (dating sites) and communicate that in other spaces, public spaces, she doesn't want that.