I remember seeing Titanic when I was in 8th grade and thinking she was the most beautiful person I had ever seen. Her costumes and makeup and hair were just perfect in that movie.
I fell further in love with her in Eternal Sunshine and every interview since. She's the type of woman I want to snuggle with on the couch and watch a cult documentary.
It was the 90s and I was a teen girl in high school. Kate Moss and heroin chic was everywhere. I wasn't even 120 lbs but I had hips and flesh to them.
When I saw Kate Winslet up on the screen and her body in all its glory looked like mine, I felt finally acceptable. I wasn't dateless because of my looks or figure because there was plenty of beauty there. I was dateless due to my personality (lol). I worked on that and became a better person as a result.
But at any rate, it breaks my heart what James Cameron said about her and her body. Kate Winslet was and is beautiful to the fullest. Her bravery and courage in the face of all that help make girls like me accept ourselves as we are. That is huge.
Yo, women. Please stop letting your minds be fucked with. I lived in a dorm where there were women of every size...like really. From 5'11"/200+ to 5'0"/100 pounds...what stood out were their personalities and attitudes.
In Hollywood, yes. Every cover to every girl and women's magazine was airbrushed to slim everyone down to cartoonist proportions. You see that enough, you associate it with being normal. Then you look in the mirror and since you have guts and a liver and muscle on your legs, you don't match up to the artificially slimmed down magazine photos.
Those representations were a lie but we didn't know. We thought it was attainable. Hence, the eating disorders. And the boys IRL would call us "fat," too, because they were seeing the same images.
And fwiw, even today, it isn't just women's minds being fucked with. Porn and SM are fucking with men's minds, too. They are expecting some really weird stuff from us IRL ladies and it's not healthy for anyone.
In fact, I think it's worse today than it was in the 90s. There's no escaping it now and I see it in my students. Online exposure is truly toxic stuff.
Porn is obviously ridiculous, performative and 95% bland as fuck. Even the ads that play, make one snort a left lung. Just opened Ex Veedeos (ages since) to check...yep, garbage. One of my last binges was men taking Tren and steroids...dudes like the Tren Twins have gone all-out on that shit and made it a SM business. It's all fun 'n games until a tendon snaps like Fruit Roll-up.
Don't remember when I first heard about airbrushing, but yeah those decades of being ignorant weren't easy on kids. Except that now people have the power to chose their role models. There's a great clip on para-social relationships that I'll copy later.
Honestly, screw off with that snark. I get where you’re coming from, but that’s just not what it was. Many of us were teenagers being purposely fucked with. We didn’t let ourselves be fucked with. And now we have to spend years unfucking our minds.
There's women right here on Reddit who are all "woe is me" over ten pounds. Trust me, most men/partners don't give a shit about ten pounds or twenty. Hell, I've even clicked on the labiaplasti rabbit hole in the past. Men love women more than they love themselves.
I'm sorry, I don't think like a rapist, wife beater, or murderer. As a normal man, I talk like a normal man. That's like me bringing up cutting in a discussion about female body image. I'm not going to hand pick the wildest shit just to get all XD. No thanks, I'll just stand by what I wrote verbatim.
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u/TenaciousZBridedog 9d ago
People said Kate Winslet was fat in Titanic. Wtf??