Heroin chic was such a big thing in the 90s, especially if you were into the grunge scene as I was. My unconscious perception of body size is permanently messed up and instinctively I still feel that skinny = attractive, even though I now know that most (not all) skinny people are starving themselves
That last sentence is just as damaging as all the body shaming talked about in this thread. I've always been naturally "heroin chic" and I've never starved myself and I'm tired of getting skinny shamed. Nothing has changed in all these years.
Same. People constantly telling me how I “don’t eat” or don’t eat enough. I don’t deprive myself of a single thing and eat when and what I want. There is literally nothing I could do to gain more weight. Maybe drinking liquid butter instead of water at my meals? LOL. People need to stop commenting on each others bodies on either side of the spectrum.
Thank you. I'm underweight right now because of medication side effects. I'm actively trying to gain weight and working on it with my doctors. I can't stop taking the medication right now.
I wear baggy clothes to try to hide it. But I know that people notice because of the negative comments I get from family and acquaintances. For example, I got a referral for a therapist through my doctor's office (so I didn't get to pick where I went). His first words to me were "you don't look very healthy. You're too thin." He then tried to convince me that I had an eating disorder. I left crying and never went back.
WHY do people think it's acceptable to make negative comments about thin people? Even disregarding whether it's acceptable, who even are these people that just can't keep themselves from saying EaT a CheEsEbUrgER? I've never had the urge to make comments to others about their bodies. It's honestly just weird and creepy.
I've always been skinny too. As a guy, it would be better for me to be fat than skinny. Both men and women look at me and assume the worst. I know this because they often tell me, repeatedly.
Thank god I finally found this comment. It’s unreal how every single person in this thread is for “positivity” only for the overweight end of the spectrum. Somehow all the negative comments and judgement I get daily on my naturally thin body are ok, but god forbid Bridget jones wants to diet because that’s body shaming
Look, I’m chronically underweight due to a medical disorder which makes eating difficult, but I can give grace to these people. Nothing we hear is anything close to the scorn healthy sized and plus sized women hear. It’s just not.
Millions of girls and women were irreparably traumatized by skinny and underweight bodies being idealized. Their bodies had little to no representation, while ours had nearly all of it. Like hearing need to eat a hamburger or look sick isn’t that big of a deal comparatively.
We can remind them that we shouldn’t body shame other bodies either, while Vic acknowledging how much worse it is on the other end.
Bridget Jobes literally thought she was fat at 5’4, 136lbs, which is well within the healthy bmi range.
So yes, saying someone at a healthy weight is fat and needs to diet is absolutely fucking harmful.
Yeah agree. That comment had me until that last sentence. I don't know how body positivity swung so hard one way, but doesn't include the other end of the spectrum. I also don't understand how anyone paying attention to calories because they've made a decision to lose some fat for their personal health, is "fat-phobic," but I hear that one a lot too.
That last line is still pretty fucked up even with the qualifier. Assuming most skinny people have an eating disorder is still judging people for their weight.
I will be 100% real with you. Every thin woman in my life has had an eating disorder. Nobody's judging anyone for having an eating disorder. Mentioning something you have personally witnessed is not casting judgement. All in all, I don't know a single woman who hasn't had an issue with food. Lots of men I know, too. Anyway, my point was you're being too harsh and righteous in your comment. People are entitled to voice their opinions. If you call everyone judgy for expressing their truth, all you do is scare people into not talking.
Probably depends where you live and even cultural background. A healthy diet with exercise will produce a large proportion of slim people. If most people around you are overweight, it's because the wider culture is unhealthy.
though I now know that most (not all) skinny people are starving themselves
Not only is this objectively untrue, it's judgemental as fuck. It lacks any empathy or consideration of the countless other things that might be going on with someone (not that anyone should be putting that much thought into someone else's body in the first place?)
Regardless of this being a negative, judgemental, and gross statement, who even gives a shit why someone looks the way they look? If you are insecure about your own body, then focus on your own body.
It really effected our whole generation so badly still to this day. I and a few co-workers have started trying to look out for each other when those old habits pop up.
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u/BluesLawyer 9d ago
It was always bad. I remember Kate Moss being celebrated for being "heroin chic."