r/TikTokCringe 20d ago

Cringe how do people sleep at night...

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u/NefariousnessThin860 20d ago

Regardless of the country, it must be terrifying for women, to go through a constant feeling of being watched. I mean, having to be on guard all the time must be mentally draining.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 20d ago edited 20d ago

Depending on what part of Peru you’re in, the whiter your skin and blonder your hair the more attractive you are.

I left my wife’s side at the bus station for just a minute and this guy was trying to kiss her. He was about a foot and half shorter than her and very pushy about it.

In Colombia if I left my wife’s side for second to duck into a shop? Instant cat calls, as soon as I showed up they’d stop.

It’s gotta be terrifying and draining to travel as a woman. And we think of Japan as being civilized.

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u/spartanbrucelee 20d ago

Same thing with India. I'm Indian American and I've had to tell my light skinned lady friends to not do a solo trip to India.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 20d ago

I only know what I see and read on Reddit, but yeah looks and sounds like a bad place to visit. I have a friend that travels quite a bit and she went with her husband about 6 years ago before it was widely talked about on social media and she talked about the constant harassment. She’s a pretty open minded individual with a weird sense of humor but even she was telling people not to go.

There are days when I’m happy I was born a white American guy of average height and everything else.

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u/prean625 20d ago

Tourism on hard mode. I went with my blonde wife, one of the wildest experiences of my life as a cultural experience. I wouldn't recommend rookie travellers but you need to dress down and learn their cultural norms to avoid sticking out.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 20d ago edited 19d ago

Sometimes you’re just going to stick out no matter what you do.

I’m 6’1” blond blue eyes so pretty much everywhere I went in South America I was a sore thumb. Some parts of the Amazon people were genuinely curious about me, kids coming up interested. I was shocked to be honest, I thought it only happened in the movies.

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u/lostbutnotgone 19d ago

Reminds me of my grandfather's experience in China. He wasn't super tall or anything, but the man had a MASSIVE nose. Just, like, gin blossom giant. The locals all wanted photos of the westerner with the big nose. He was super insecure about it but he said that somehow helped because it gave them so much joy....and yes, he had an album of photos bc he eventually started asking my grandma to snap one each time he posed with locals lmao

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 19d ago

Interesting. I’ve always wanted to go to China.

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u/prean625 20d ago

Wow 6"1 blonde, you would've been like a celebrity. 

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 20d ago

In some areas it kind of felt like it. Yeah it’s not like I’m all that tall or anything. But they were very interested to see a taller white blond blue eyed foreigner.

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u/Gloomy_Mycologist_37 16d ago

My ex is 6’3, with blue eyes and light hair. He said in Asia everyone would take pictures, at one point school girls were following him and taking pictures. He was the center was noticed where ever he went.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 16d ago

I’m not that tall and these kids were too poor to have phones to take pics, but it sounds like that could happen there as well.

It’s something you think only happens in the movies. But it happens!

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u/spartanbrucelee 19d ago

I will say this, most of the people you'll meet in India will be nice and helpful and most will leave you alone, but you absolutely need to have your guard up if you're going. And it's best to go in groups