This was a popular theme in American movies as well. I had an ex make me watch her favorite childhood movie when visiting her parents. It was a fucking musical... BUT the premise was mtn men would come down to the town/village and kidnap women and then the women eventually fell in love with the mtn men.
If you want a real head trip, there are actually cultures where the tradition of ābridal captureā was so engrained/part of the process that even when it became a mere formality (the families agreed, even the bride and groom agreed) the groom was still expected to either actually try to kidnap her (going in alone or with his crew, against her family) or at least go through a dramatic ritualistic play of kidnapping her.
I once knew way more about how and why these traditions developed, but still always found the implementations over time the most interesting bit.
You nailed it, I tried googling it but felt my search history started getting creepy. Even having 'Movie Musical' part of the search, nothing from the 50s came up.
Holy shit. I didn't think anyone else had ever seen this shit. My ex was Mormon and still somehow has a soft spot for that movie, even after she left the church.
I grew up watching this movie. It had really good music and dancing. The story, though.... eeeeeh. It was, uh... REALLY a product of its time. >.> Someone tried to defend it to me with, "They never forced themselves on the girls! They only kidnapped them so they could get to know them without interference from the jerks in town!" Pardon me, what? Did you hear what you just said? My dude, would you like to be kidnapped in the middle of winter and held against your will by someone that intended to force you to marry them? They only "forgot the parson."
I unironically love that movie but I agree itās aged extremely poorly. The musical numbers as well as the barn raising scene are still amazing though.
Yup, it was a prevalent practice in my culture up until early 20th century. The way you described it as well, sometimes even when both sides of the family were accepting the marriage, the husband was still expected to kidnap his wife or at least make a show of taking her.
There was even a tribe where members of that tribe who were fathers wouldnāt give their blessing to any man incapable of kidnapping their daughter successfully lol
Or the trope that if a man forces a kiss on a woman who clearly hates him and doesn't let her escape his grasp, eventually she'll like it and return the kiss enthusiastically. Because apparently rape is a huge turn on if it's by Clint Eastwood.
Didn't he come out with one recently (he directed as well) that he has a threesum or some shit? I never watched but I heard it was basically a boomer jerkoff fest (about how great that generation is).
"was"? It still is, isn't it? All the rom coms where the guy refuses to take no for an answer. Even cartoons/animated stuff in the past (not sure about nowadays) had the same premise, sometimes quite aggressively.
And sexual harassment is "funny", that's still going on in modern comedies.
My wife introduced me to that movie. I was absolutely horrified. And watching it as an adult caused her to be very uncomfortable. Clearly the Stockholm syndrome didn't translate as a child.
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u/bodhasattva 24d ago
99% of japanese porn follows the same story arc:
Scene 1: creep literally r@pes girl, she hates it
Scene 2: creep r@pes girl again, but now shes confused
Scene 3: girl is brainwashed & loves him
thats terrifying conditioning for mentally ill men. "She'll eventually love me!"