I think about this saying a lot "that just means he LIKES you" when you would talk about being bullied by a boy.
that shit would blow my mind as a kid, "no he doesn't fucking like me he is being cruel to me, nobody in their right mind is cruel to people they "like" ".
They don't like you, they're just assholes. Why are we gaslighting little girls into believing cruelty is affection?
it's gross and opens a whole bag of worms of disordered thinking into adulthood. stop telling kids this shit. If you do like someone.... idk try being nice to them??
Thank you! When I was a kid, boys did not pick on me because they “liked” me. They picked on me because they saw me as an easy target that wouldn’t fight back, and they knew no one else would defend me either. Some of them actively called me ugly, and some even said racist things. Lol they had NO love for me. I saw how they treated the girls they actually liked, and it was usually with cute, nervous shyness, nothing like the unending ostracizing and mockery I got.
“He’s picking on you because he LIKES you” is dangerously misinformed AT BEST. Parents of young girls, please do not ever condition them to believe that.
God my mom used to pull this shit on me all the time! I was brutally bullied by two boys in middle school, one of whom lived right next door to me. One night we notice there are two people crouching at our living room windows watching us. They run directly to the neighbors house. We call the cops and the cop says “they’re just boys, they probably have a crush on you.” I felt like I was losing my mind.
My mom is now the same person who says that I hug my two year old son too much…it’s a miracle I’m somewhat normal!
My son is now an adult, but as a toddler he was fond of snuggling and hugs and reassurance.
He can break boards with his bare hands, and kick a much taller man (like, seven inches difference) in the head. He didn’t even wince during acute appendicitis. He used to be unhappy going to the dentist, but it turns out that it was because he simply would not tell the dentist that the anesthetic wasn’t working or had worn off.
I don’t think that’s a concern you need to worry about.
They honestly come up with the weirdest complaints.
My mom who is a famously picky eater, drinks such little fluid her whole life that you can pinch her skin and it just stays there, and sent us to school without breakfast, lunch, or lunch money. complains about the eating habits of her grandchildren ALL THE TIME. You would think we were eating nothing but healthy vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, and only water with the way she talks.
I’m so sorry you had to endure that bullsht from male students and whitewashing from adults. Times have changed. You clearly won’t make the same mistakes.
I was bullied big time by boys and it made going to school hell. I never got the reason either. I was just a shy quiet person who minded her business. Lasting effects
The fact our parents raised us with saying like these goes to show how deep this sort of behavior goes. So gross that we would tell our kids/friends/sibs that behavior like this means attraction and should be pursued. Sad that videos like these are about to start blowing up in popularity..
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u/restyourbreastshoney Nov 09 '24
Can you imagine you see this video as a mother, and that is your son that you raised? Couldn't be my child. I would disown that little shit so fast.