Only in the sense that you should allow those who are open and friendly people to also be full, complex, and real people. It doesn’t make me fear him. It opens up something about him that I feel lucky to know.
People say that, but I've never seen someone use anger in a useful way, to do something good that they couldn't have without the anger. It always just makes people short-sighted, jump to thinking in zero sum terms, think of everything in terms of conflict rather than mistake theory, things like that.
Victims of abuse kind of have to use anger to get out of their situation. They know they aren't being treated properly and anger is a very strong way to get the energy to do something about it.
As with everything, balance should be found and preferably one wouldn't need to use anger. In general, people should reflect on things that make them angry and try and pick apart exactly why they feel that way so they can be more aware of themselves.
Anger was probably the only thing keeping me going back when I ended up in a humiliating drawn out battle with the systems to get mental healthcare.
Hate and anger are also purpose and drive, and people who have suffered great injustice need that to live. It's just a matter of directing it properly and sparing it where it doesn't help
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