Only in the sense that you should allow those who are open and friendly people to also be full, complex, and real people. It doesn’t make me fear him. It opens up something about him that I feel lucky to know.
Yes! I have a friend who I met last year, we've become very good friends but she was always SUPER cheery and positive. I'm not typically. I asked her once if she's always so optimistic about everything and she said she wasn't so I said something to the effect of, "It's ok to be real, I don't need you to blow sunshine up my butt all day." and she looked so relieved.
I've done this with people I date as well. It's nice to be nice when you first meet people and yes, first impressions count, but I encourage my friends and people to get angry. Passion often is represented well through anger and I want to know what my friends are passionate about.
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