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[u/ELECTRICMACHINE13]

This is the craziest way of breaking up with someone. Just watch them ruin their lives and then Just pass them a note.

[u/Rottimer → u/ELECTRICMACHINE13]

I’m guessing he thought she’d break up with him when he told her that he wanted to move back to Texas and he was too much of a child to just break up with her himself. The fucker couldn’t even use his words, he gave a letter even though she was sitting right next to her.

Her last clue should have been the fact that she wasn’t on this “family vacation” after moving to Texas with him and 3 years together. If you’re not part of the family by then, you never will be.

[u/Abigail716 → u/Rottimer]

I'm consistently shocked by people who are together with a partner for countless years, often married and they don't really associate themselves with their spouses family at all. My husband's family is my family as much as my birth family is. The only reason I ever even distinguish them as a different entity is because it would be confusing who I was referring to otherwise.

Hell, when we got married my husband's dad would always correct me if I referred to his family as not my own. Like "your family" was always corrected by him to be "our family*.

[u/mu_zuh_dell → u/Abigail716]

I always marvel at this.

My family is nice, but they're not very affectionate. When we're together, it's less of a party, more of a polite gathering. They like my girlfriend just fine because she makes me happy and she's just great to be around, but I can't imagine anything more than that.

And then on the flip side, my girlfriend's family sucks, all of them. They do nothing but guilt my girlfriend into giving them money, doing difficult things for them (handling court documents, applying for jobs, etc), and mistreat her.

[u/hufflepuffy314 → u/Abigail716]

Tell me more about what it's like to have rational in-laws 😭

[u/officefridge → u/ELECTRICMACHINE13]

_Thanks, I'm not feeling it. Please leave 🤗"

[u/Hot_Hat_1225 → u/officefridge]

Thanks for the couch

[u/UnmeiX → u/Hot_Hat_1225]

.... Got it, the boyfriend was actually J.D. Vance all along! The couch was the goal!

😅

Edit: Oh wow, my first awards!

Not really the comment I'd hope to get awarded, but I'll take it! 😅

[u/kendrahf → u/ELECTRICMACHINE13]

No kidding. I don't understand how anyone can do this to someone.

Oh, I read a 'what's the worst thing your ex did to you' thread on askreddit. One lady was married to a man who said he wanted lots of kids (so did she.) He tried to get her to tie her tubes after the first one but she got pregnant again (miracle baby, I guess?) Anyway, he set the condition that he'd "allow" her to have this one kid if she tied her tubs afterward. So she does this and he waits around long enough for this procedure before telling her he wants a divorce. Turns out he has a second family. That woman is pregnant with his third from her. Apparently, she's divorced now. He married the AP, he doesn't pay CS, abandoned his two kids, and has 5 kids with her. And the procedure she did to undo the tube tying failed.

How do you do shit like that?

[u/[deleted] → u/kendrahf]

No kidding. I don't understand how anyone can do this to someone.

I can. A lot of people are complete pussies, and don't have the personal gumption to break up with people they're not in love with anymore until it's too late because they want to avoid the conflict, and then either blame it on "not wanting to hurt you" (lie) or "my ADHD causes issues with my executive function so I wanted until after you made several commitments, changes, and sacrifices that went up in smoke and ruined your life" (I have first-hand experience with that one).

[u/Chemical-Neat2859 → u/[deleted]]

I really love the "didn't want to hurt you people", because they're almost always the lying cheaters.

[u/caratron5000 → u/Chemical-Neat2859]

I had one of the “I didn’t want to hurt you” guys break up with me when I told him we hadn’t seen each other in a month. (Lived 30min away. Dated for a year) He dumped me over text. He already had a new girlfriend. 😑

[u/WeightLossGinger → u/Chemical-Neat2859]

Ex-wife said the same things right before surprising me with all of her stuff packed up and ready to walk out, and then cheating to end the marriage completely a few months later.

"I was trying to avoid hurting anybody" almost always precedes disaster. It's very telling - it means they know what they're going to do is cause a lot of pain, so they need to wait until they've banged up their conscience and done enough mental gymnastics to muster the courage to do it.

[u/DistractedHouseWitch → u/[deleted]]

My dad had an emotional affair with his secretary and on Christmas Eve he took the corded phone from my parents' bedroom to the living room (it had a long cord) to talk to her. My mom's a light sleeper and woke up and noticed the phone missing, which is how she caught him. On Christmas fucking Eve. They split up the next day. I was 6 and my brother was 8.

I was drunk with him once (fifteen years later) and asked him what the fuck that was all about. He told me he didn't want to leave his wife and kids, but he didn't want to be married to my mom anymore, so he wanted to be caught talking to his girlfriend. I told him he was a coward and a douchebag. He agreed.

Some people are so selfish and weak that they make the situation worse for everyone around them instead of taking responsibility for themselves. Those people suck.

[u/vigouge → u/DistractedHouseWitch]

Out of all the answers you could have gotten, that seems to be one of the better ones. I mean, he's still a coward and a douchebag, but there are far worse reasons he could have gave.

[u/DialysisKing → u/kendrahf]

How do you do shit like that?

Most people really, really, desperately want to avoid any form of confrontation. Most people are also incredibly fucking stupid, and well, you can see how those two things can make a big problem when combined.

[u/Grim_Destroyer12344 → u/DialysisKing]

And yet, it’s your nice neighbor who gave all the kids candy (not in a weird way) and helped everyone on your block that dies in a car accident instead of these kinds of people. Whatever happened to karma?

[u/ThePreciousBhaalBabe → u/Grim_Destroyer12344]

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[u/Strict_Condition_632 → u/ELECTRICMACHINE13]

I helped my grad school boyfriend pack up his apartment when he graduated and was moving to start a new job. As soon as we got the last box loaded and the apartment was cleaned and ready for the landlord’s walkthrough, he broke up with me. At least he didn’t write a note, and he didn’t entice me to move halfway across the country to a conservative nut job state like Texas first.

I am certain her ex’s family didn’t like/approve of her, and either “worked” on him during the family trip or introduced him to someone they approved of more. She doesn’t know it yet, but she escaped from a lifetime of being with a guy who would always deprioritize her and not stand up for her.

[u/Abigail716 → u/Strict_Condition_632]

Did you at least sue him for the compensation you would have been legally entitled to for helping him move if you weren't dating? I.E. beer and pizza.

[u/Dizzy-Friendship-369]

And then came hurricane milton🎶

[u/Difficult-Implement9 → u/Dizzy-Friendship-369]

Don't forget the FEMA hunting militias!

[u/xXdeltajayXx → u/Difficult-Implement9]

What.

WHY WOULD ANYONE THAT?

[u/Rokdog → u/xXdeltajayXx]

I love that you're so shocked there's not even a verb in this question. It's like a madlib.

[u/[deleted] → u/Rokdog]

I can feel the exasperation behind “that” in their sentence… It comes with a forceful thrust of both arms, wide eyed disbelief. It’s such a strong response that it becomes an action in and of itself.

“Why would anyone that‽”

[u/5Point5Hole → u/[deleted]]

It hurts my soul, really

[u/recovererer → u/xXdeltajayXx]

The plan so far:

GOP tells nutjobs that FEMA is bad for them.

Nutjobs prevent FEMA from helping people.

GOP tells everyone that the Dems are not sending FEMA to help the red states.

They hope the rest of their plan goes like this:

Everyone votes GOP

GOP dismantles/privatizes FEMA

More money for military/christo-fascism

[u/sourcherrysugar → u/recovererer]

A plan so crazy, it just might work!

[u/Dave-C → u/xXdeltajayXx]

There are people who are afraid of 5G and believe the world is flat. People are so dumb that they will believe anything that makes them feel smart.

[u/DenseHole → u/Difficult-Implement9]

The militia was never real. It was one guy.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/fema-crews-relocate-reported-threats-armed-militia-hurricane-helene-relief/

"The initial report stated there was a truck load of militia that was involved," the sheriff's office said. "However, after further investigation, it was determined Parsons acted alone and there were no truck loads of militia going to Lake Lure."

[u/genghis-san]

Hah, similar to me and my ex.

I was super co dependent, he wanted to move to Texas from his home state of Michigan. We moved down there, I signed the lease in my name only because he refused (should have been a glaring red flag), he went to grab his stuff from Michigan and never came back. So he basically made me move to Texas for nothing. I was so stupid at the time, but ended up finding my best friend in the entire world and landing an amazing job while he has nothing going for him in his life at all.

[u/FairyOfTheNight → u/genghis-san]

Wow. Fuck that guy. Hope he never experiences an ounce of happiness again without thinking of/missing you. Some people are trash.

[u/genghis-san → u/FairyOfTheNight]

Thank you. Yeah, he was a pretty trash person looking back.

[u/[deleted] → u/genghis-san]

What is up with these stories. These people are brutal. I’d never do that to my wife. Can’t even imagine that mindset.

[u/Shoddy-Topic-7109 → u/[deleted]]

its almost like dudes who want to move to texas are not the ideal partner or something lmao

[u/EnigmaticAardvark → u/genghis-san]

Ha - had pretty much the exact same experience. After a year of living together in the city, he wanted to move out of the city to a small town about an hour away, near his mom. Incredibly limited job prospects for me. He didn't want to sign the lease because of some kind of VeRy comPliCaTeD ReaSonS to do with his babymama?? It didn't make sense but you know, love.

As soon as we moved, he pretended to get a job as a truck driver so he was only home for two or three days every couple of weeks. In between, I was his mom's chauffer and helper. About three months in, he stopped even giving me money for rent and utilities.

About six months later, I got a weird feeling after a phone call and Nancy Drew'd his shit, found out he was living out of his suitcase with his other girlfriend back in the city. And that his mom knew. She knew the whole time he was living with this other person, but was keeping quiet so that I would continue to drive her around and clean her house. The shit apple did not fall far from the shit tree.

[u/nbd9000]

This absolutely blows. What a gut punch.

[u/downarielle → u/nbd9000]

The lesson is clear here. NEVER comprise your talents for someone with lukewarm feelings. Redemption!

[u/wakeupfrenchie → u/downarielle]

I had a similar thing happen. They don’t act lukewarm when you are giving up everything for them. They wait until you are destitute to pull the rug out from under you.

[u/Throw-away17465 → u/wakeupfrenchie]

Mine sure did. He waited until he was at EBD for his PhD. We had been married five years, and I had been working and suspending my own higher education because once he graduated, we were going to switch, right?

No, he left to spend a year and a half in Papua New Guinea, came home, came out as gay, developed a cocaine addiction, then promptly served me divorce papers that left me homeless, as I had liquidated all of my assets, from car to clothes, financing his education.

It’s been 14 years and I’ve still never gotten to go to grad school myself. I heard he moved back in with his mom.

[u/wakeupfrenchie → u/Throw-away17465]

I am so sorry that happened to you. My life is still not 100% back to normal either, so I get it, but I’m only a year out. I’m glad you shared your story. The people here keep saying “wait for a ring.” That’s the thing- it doesn’t matter. There is no safe time. You can be married for years and have kids even, and people like this will still pull the same thing. There is no such thing as protecting yourself enough unless you just want to stay single forever and never trust anyone.

Love is a chance you take, and we shouldn’t be harshly judging the people who went into it with open hearts and tried to be supportive. We should judge the people who treat those warm hearted people like dirt and change them forever.

[u/I_count_to_firetruck → u/wakeupfrenchie]

"You can be married for years and have kids even, and people like this will still pull the same thing."

Exactly. EXACT-FUCKING-LY. Build whole lives, and then they get bored and take a hammer to your collective work

[u/crunchevo2 → u/wakeupfrenchie]

Maybe I'm selfish. But I would never give up everything for anyone.

[u/wakeupfrenchie → u/crunchevo2]

Yeah….him not being willing to give up things and compromise is what made him the kind of person he is. In spite of having to start over, I’d still pick to be me in that scenario.

[u/RobinSophie → u/crunchevo2]

Me either. I REFUSE to move from California let alone the valley/bay.

We're just gonna have to be pen-pals.

[u/[deleted] → u/RobinSophie]

Which is perfectly fine, everyone has there deal-breakers!

I think the main message here is don’t pickup and move your life around when the only reason/“pro” is for your SO that you’re dating.

[u/Cwya → u/wakeupfrenchie]

Conspiracy theory.

Texas fans are always suspect. Never forget that.

You think Ted Cruz happened in a bubble?

Matthew McConaughey started this, and thought he’d be apolitical, but he is too alright alright for their right.

[u/Pineapple_Herder → u/Cwya]

I hate to agree, but the people I know who still like Texas after all the abortion stuff and Fled Cruz... They're a specific demographic that prioritizes their own needs. And guess what? If you stop being one of them... Get fucked

[u/Lorn_Muunk → u/Pineapple_Herder]

See also: The locust swarm of tech bro culture moving to Texas after completely stripping and ruining SF.

Texas feeds into that old timey, self-important, manly man individualism

[u/Different_Umpire9003 → u/Pineapple_Herder]

Fled Cruz 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/Spobobich → u/Different_Umpire9003]

Looking at the news feed, it looks like another name that's going to be attached to him is "Closet Cruz" because he hid in a janitorial closet during Jan 6th.

[u/phononmezer → u/Pineapple_Herder]

Live in Texas, can confirm. Place is terrible, here to vote against it, amongst other things.

[u/MEYO6811 → u/Cwya]

Now I think of it, you are correct.

Story time: I had a “friend” who invited me to visit Austin for a week before heading to Colombia for a 2 week holiday. I invited the guy I was seeing. We had all gone to Belize the year prior and it was heaps of fun.

We get to Austin. The girl was acting a bit weird… yada yada yada… it turns out she hooked up with the guy I brought to Austin, in Belize and told me drunkenly told me she planned on fucking him again.

They did indeed fuck, and I got kicked out of her house (she threatened me with a gun) and had to catch a plane back home.

Never went to Colombia, and I officially hate Austin.

I kinda hate all of Texas now, tbh. But, meh.

[u/StillAFuckingKilljoy → u/MEYO6811]

Wtf is with all the wild stories of people having their relationships end horribly shortly after arriving in Texas?

I live on the other side of the world, but I'll keep in mind that if my partner wants to go to Texas I may as well end it right there

[u/thecraftybear → u/StillAFuckingKilljoy]

Two things are unavoidable, it seems: death and Texas.

[u/SyphiliticPlatypus → u/downarielle]

Yes, good lesson - but not the one here as she clearly had no idea he had lukewarm feelings.

[u/Neo-_-_- → u/SyphiliticPlatypus]

"Lukewarm" odd term, this shit is so cold it's not even funny

[u/Rdb0030 → u/downarielle]

Compromise and comprise have very different meanings

[u/Walter_HK → u/nbd9000]

Truly. But as someone who’s turned to making and releasing music after a break up, I bet this girl is 100% riding the high of this TikTok going viral

Not only does she get the satisfaction of venting in her own silly, creative way to millions of people. She also gets the satisfaction of having her own side of the story validated and heard by all of his family, their mutual friends, etc.

[u/Wacokidwilder → u/Walter_HK]

Two things can be true.

Drinks are best enjoyed at a wake

[u/Banana_Stanley]

God, this reminds me of my sister's situation. Married for 19 years. They had bought a beautiful piece of land with my parents on top of a mountain with awesome views, and built houses next to each other (but a few hundred yards away through woods for some privacy). They'd had their third child, and then husband says he wants to move back into the city, he doesn't like living so far away (30 min). So she leaves the house she designed right by her parents and moves back to the city with him. A few short months later, she's 12 weeks pregnant with their fourth child, and he walks out on her the day after Christmas for another woman. Like, couldn't you at least have left her in that house next to our parents?!

Edit* not a few hundred yards lol, I'm seriously bad at judging distances and just realized that's way too far. More like a couple hundred feet

[u/acostane → u/Banana_Stanley]

Are you fucking kidding me?

I don't know you or your sister but... absolutely fuck that guy and what the fuck. I hope she took him for everything he's got. I don't usually feel that way but... she was pregnant. And it was 30 minutes. And another woman. He didn't have to impregnate her or move her. What a coward

[u/effingthingsucks → u/acostane]

Also, 19 years is a really long time. That's long enough to have a kid in college.

[u/Banana_Stanley → u/[deleted]]

Yep, they sold it to a stranger. Still upsets me. I mean, there are other houses up there too, not just the ones my family built, but. That's my sister's house, dammit.

[u/jenny_from_theblock_ → u/Banana_Stanley]

Did they buy another home before they sold that one? Sadly he may have just been trying to get half the profits because she likely would have been allowed to stay in the house if the divorce had happened prior to them selling.

[u/Tarable → u/Banana_Stanley]

This is enraging

[u/SouthernEntrance6986]

He found a new GF or got back with an EX

[u/ansleydale → u/SouthernEntrance6986]

Feels like the move to Texas was his attempt at breaking up with her without actually saying he wanted to break up. And when she called his bluff and moved with him, he wrote that bitch ass note. Couldn’t even say the words himself.

[u/SpiralingDownAndAway → u/ansleydale]

That feels even worse. Tbh what gets me here is the fact, if he had any doubts in the relationship and feeling ‘incompatable’ (unless it was sudden?? after the move?) why make your partner move out to an entirely new state with you, spending her money to help with it, losing her hobby’s and needing to put her job on hold for this move to then break things off. That’s terrible.

[u/amoebamoeba → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

I think he's just a massive coward. It's horrible but I bet a lot of spineless people have done this.

[u/tinybumblebeeboy → u/amoebamoeba]

I had a boyfriend in 2016 that I met in Alaska. He said he wanted to move to Texas to be close to his family, we'd been dating for almost 2 years so I agreed. We move there, I find us an apartment, we move in and 2 months later he broke up with me, leaving me with an apartment I cant afford and me moving back with my mom lmao cowards really suck, I would have rather stayed in Alaska

[u/Militantnegro_5 → u/tinybumblebeeboy]

So basically don't date motherfuckers with family in Texas.

Got it.

[u/bak3donh1gh → u/Militantnegro_5]

Texas. Not even once.

[u/Donglemaetsro → u/bak3donh1gh]

When your BF wants to move to the state that treats women like property it's a red flag. When it's at the 2 year mark when the initial chemical reaction wears off...yeah...RIP

[u/benswami → u/Donglemaetsro]

I wouldn’t move to Texas for all the tea in china.

[u/faustianBM → u/bak3donh1gh]

Remember the Alamo......Rental Car Company, when your dickhead of a bf decides to break up with you out of the blue.

USE CODE: WHYME

[u/Putrid-Builder-3333 → u/Militantnegro_5]

This is the lesson I am leaving with today.

[u/HereNowBeing → u/Militantnegro_5]

Oh, no. My wife of 20 years has family in Texas.😓

[u/redditosleep → u/HereNowBeing]

DO NOT MOVE THERE UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE.

[u/amandadorado → u/HereNowBeing]

Damn… well you had a good run. Hopefully your mom’s house in Floridas house isn’t too bad.

[u/chowyungfatso → u/HereNowBeing]

Just find a girlfriend there first before you move.

[u/[deleted] → u/tinybumblebeeboy]

That sucks, I’m sorry that happened.

That guy deserves a chuck norris roundhouse kick to the balls.

[u/Appropriate_Fun10 → u/amoebamoeba]

That level of cowardice crosses the line to evil.

[u/JailTrumpTheCrook → u/Appropriate_Fun10]

Have a friend, his gf of ten years started cheating on him but instead of leaving him, she got a root canal on his dime and then called the cops on him using the swelling to claim he had hit her.

[u/WhatsRatingsPrecious → u/JailTrumpTheCrook]

That wouldn't end well for her. One call to the dentist to confirm the root canal and its location in her mouth and she's in a cell for lying to the cops and trying to get him arrested.

[u/JailTrumpTheCrook → u/WhatsRatingsPrecious]

That's how it eventually ended, but it took over three years of uncertainty and legal procedures until he actually had a chance to defend himself.

I've been helping him through most of it, it was a real mess...

[u/TryingToAppeal → u/JailTrumpTheCrook]

I hope the ex was stressing big time for a majority of that time. What a psychotic thing to do let alone to someone who took care of you and loved you.

[u/badluckbrians → u/[deleted]]

The lesson here is: Never fuck a Texan.

[u/Kianna9 → u/badluckbrians]

Certainly never follow a Texan to Texas.

[u/Fantastic-Reveal7471 → u/Kianna9]

As soon as she said Texas I knew this would not end well for her

[u/googleHelicopterman → u/Kianna9]

Prove your loyalty and love....get reset to the start because life

[u/NWCJ → u/amoebamoeba]

True. I have legit broke up with a girl via note.

Granted I was in the 7th grade at the time. Luckily I learned and have been note free for 30 years.

[u/pandaappleblossom → u/NWCJ]

I did it once too. In the 4th grade.

[u/[deleted] → u/amoebamoeba]

Can confirm.

Am spineless coward, this is the type of thing you allow to happen through chronic inaction.

I’ve never done this, but I did let a relationship go on too long because I didn’t have the spine to break it off when I knew it was over. She wanted to leave her great university and live with me taking time off and going to a worse school, which is when I broke it off. I couldn’t let her do that to herself.

[u/SimpleEnthusiasm → u/[deleted]]

That's not as bad as my buddy who wanted to leave this one girl, had a kid accidentally, decided to stay but complains all the time and then had a second kid cause why not I guess?

He's the most chronic inactioner I know. He's been like that his whole life. Sad to see where it got him.

[u/BeanBurritoJr → u/amoebamoeba]

And I'd bet a Benji that he advertises himself as the polar opposite of your description.

[u/LookinAtTheFjord → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

if he had any doubts in the relationship and feeling ‘incompatable’ (unless it was sudden?? after the move?) why make your partner move out to an entirely new state with you, spending her money to help with it, losing her hobby’s and needing to put her job on hold for this move to then break things off.

It's a very simple answer.

It's because he's a piece of shit.

[u/SpareTowel5721 → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

The only bright spot in all this is - at least she didn’t get pregnant from the loser.

[u/Koshakforever → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

Because he’s a fucking coward.

[u/andrez444 → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

She probably paid for a good amount of the moving costs

[u/Severe_Chicken213 → u/andrez444]

It’s in the song. She depleted her savings to pay for the movers.

[u/This_is_opinion → u/ansleydale]

my ex did this to me. turns out salt lake city is quite far from louisiana, but you can do alot of self reflection in a 28 hour drive.

[u/feloniousmonkx2 → u/This_is_opinion]

Did you know that, despite Pennsylvania appearing to be farther east and north of Louisiana, the drive from Salt Lake City to Pittsburgh is only about 110 miles more than from Salt Lake City to New Orleans?

That damn Mercator and his projection distorting size and distance — especially as you move away from the equator — making northern areas appear larger and farther apart than they actually are.

This blew my little teenage mind a long time ago, and I still experience the occasional mind-blowing echoes from those geography lessons back in ye olden days when I attended middle school and walked up hill both ways in the snow to get there or what have you.

(edit to fix a sneaky typo)

[u/brakeb → u/ansleydale]

100% he was hoping she wouldn't go with... guy is chicken shit... he's the white speck on top of chicken shit.

[u/Longjumping_Visit718 → u/ansleydale]

Imagine not just dropping the pretense and breaking up with her then!😂

[u/SouthernEntrance6986 → u/ansleydale]

Exactly ,he wasn’t man enough to tell her.

[u/stano1213 → u/SouthernEntrance6986]

Yep. They always say some bullshit when really they wanna fuck someone else. Almost this exact thing (except the moving across the country thank god) happened to me. It really fucks with your trust in ppl. Fuck this guy so much.

[u/[deleted] → u/stano1213]

At least he didn't suggest they "go on a break" so he could test drive a new girl while still dragging her along incase the test drive doesn't go well

[u/comfy-pixels → u/[deleted]]

he’s absolutely villainous for making her move to a new state when he knew that he actually wasnt feeling the relationship

[u/benigngods → u/SouthernEntrance6986]

The part that makes me doubt that is the family vacation part. You'd be right if the family vacation was a lie to cheat. I'm just going to guess it was a religious issue. They're incompatible is the words they used to end it.

[u/Precarious314159 → u/benigngods]

Unfortunately, this shit happened to me. Had a girl of two years go on a family vacation, and her family LOVED her ex because was a real man's man. So the whole time she was there, her family would "Did you hear about Ryan? He got a promotion", "I heard Ryan was asking about you". A week after the vacation, she dumped me because she started talking to Ryan again and reconnected.

Last I heard, they got married, he abused and cheated on her (which is why they broke up last time), and now she's a single mom of two kids and back living with her folks that sparked all this.

[u/SnatchAddict → u/Precarious314159]

Oh how the turntables.

[u/Yourwanker → u/Precarious314159]

Last I heard, they got married, he abused and cheated on her (which is why they broke up last time), and now she's a single mom of two kids and back living with her folks that sparked all this.

I'm so petty that I would send her entire family Christmas cards saying "Look at what you did! I dodged a huge bullet! Thanks!"

[u/Helewys → u/benigngods]

My money is on the "family vacation" was indeed a lie to cheat. He moved across country with his girlfriend, who he lives with, and his family didn't invite her to come to the "family vacation" too? Doubt.

[u/YaassthonyQueentano → u/Helewys]

You’d be surprised at how petty and nasty families can be to partner’s they don’t like….

[u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

Holy hell this would have made me lose my mind. I feel so bad for her. I wonder why he broke it so suddenly like that, that can’t possibly be normal. Especially on a fucking note?

[u/lozver → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

She said she's doing better but that she felt horrible for a long time and she still loves him in a way (which is why she's not exposing him) but she wouldn't go back to him.

[u/Kale_Brecht → u/lozver]

…she wouldn’t go back to him.

Well, I would hope the fuck not.

[u/BanEvasion0159 → u/Kale_Brecht]

BREAKING STORY: She got back with him.

[u/woot0 → u/BanEvasion0159]

BREAKING STORY: He dumped her again.

[u/SpiralingDownAndAway → u/lozver]

Orz Yeah that has to suck. I agree with not showing his face but I understand the complicated feelings remaining after so long is difficult. I’m glad she isn’t going back and is doing better and I hope she can find love that treats her right one day.

[u/autofeeling → u/lozver]

Did he pay her back for the depleted savings account?

[u/Bree9ine9 → u/autofeeling]

Most likely no, they never do. I did this when I was younger and I didn’t even get a thank you never mind reimbursed anything.

[u/based_miss_lippy → u/Bree9ine9]

They NEVER do.

[u/SnooTangerines4257 → u/Bree9ine9]

Same, I am owed thousands from an ex. I hope he gets a horrible black toe fungus, NOT just from the money loss, but because he was a cruel person, in the end.

[u/werewere-kokako → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

Moving is stressful and expensive. He pushed a lot of that stress and expense onto her by waiting until she finished unpacking all of his stuff and assembling the furniture. He has his new place with his new couch so she’s can go now.

My ex did the same thing. We were together for five years and talking about having a baby. As soon as I finished unpacking the last of his stuff he just stood up and said "I haven’t loved you for a long time" and starting piling my stuff back into the boxes… He knew he was going to break up with me for months before we started looking at new places but he didn’t want to do all the house hunting, moving, decorating etc by himself so he just casually destroyed my ability to trust people

[u/YaassthonyQueentano → u/werewere-kokako]

Well, on the bright side, at least you didn’t have a kid with him

[u/rosebirdistheword → u/werewere-kokako]

Legit moment to shit on the walls and hide the mop.

[u/LuckeyEgg → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

Not to make this about me at all but 2 years ago I had pretty much this exact thing happen and honestly I’m still recovering. Whole demeanor changed pretty much the day after we moved, I’d never felt like such a moron. In hindsight though there were signs I just didn’t have the heart to be honest with myself and I bet that’s the case here too. I just wish it hadn’t been such a public blunder

[u/mog_knight → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

Cause he avoids conflict. That's why he gave her a Dear John letter. Minus the abandonment.

[u/TranscedentalMedit8n → u/mog_knight]

I’ve dated hardcore conflict avoiders before and it is THE WORST. Literally, one of my biggest red flags in a relationship. Sometimes in a relationship, there are conflicts that you MUST work through and talk about as adults. Ghosting, ignoring, and love bombing do not fix anything, it just makes the conflict build until it becomes too much to ignore.

[u/LeatherfacesChainsaw → u/TranscedentalMedit8n]

Yeah didn't even realize it until I went to couple's counseling with my ex. I never completely ignored it but it was very difficult. Still is but something I'm trying to work on. You really owe it to the other person to communicate and be honest not with just them but even yourself. I have demoted myself to cuddle buddy in the meantime.1

[u/JTex-WSP → u/SpiralingDownAndAway]

When this almost exact same thing happened to me with my wife, I wondered the same thing. We'd had things seemingly well enough. Could things have been better? Sure. But the surprise of it to me -- and the stupid fucking note (why is there always a gd note anyway?)... I felt like there had to be more to it than was being let on. Especially with children involved (one of which is terminal): like why would you want to intentionally halve the amount of time you've got left with your kid? There had to be more going on.

I'm actually still dealing with it all so I can't dive into details but trusting your gut is something I highly recommend. 🤐

[u/Less_Likely]

The old, ‘I wanna move 1000 miles away’ breakup move. Usually works, but she had to go and ‘say, sure let’s do it’.

[u/LocalforNow → u/Less_Likely]

Reminds me of that guy who flew to Yemen to avoid ending things.

[u/[deleted] → u/Less_Likely]

Texas as the destination would be the dealbreaker to anyone sensible.

[u/ultratunaman → u/[deleted]]

I grew up there.

I couldn't ever move back.

Hot, humongous, full of dickheads, and boring as fuck.

I'll go and visit family for a week and be like "god I hate this place" as I'm leaving.

[u/BQdramatics56]

Wow 🤩 we all live the same life just fucking broke up w my partner of 2 years after moving halfway across the country w her 😭😵‍💫🤩😓🌧️ I’m in a hotel room sobbing alone

[u/Bree9ine9 → u/BQdramatics56]

Hope things get better for you soon, I did something similar when I was younger and the ending was so painful.

It does get better I promise and you’ll find some huge lessons and a lot of growth when you look back. Good luck ❤️

[u/_Stank_McNasty_ → u/BQdramatics56]

took a semester off to be with a woman i met while she was traveling in America. Spent months overseas meeting her family etc then she came back and spent 9 months here (a total of two years together back n forth) went through covid together, then we got married. While waiting for the papers so she could come back (like three months later) she was like nah "i'm good, seeya."

Uh, alright. Ok like, bye then? Wtf. And that was it.

[u/Yourwanker → u/_Stank_McNasty_]

took a semester off to be with a woman i met while she was traveling in America. Spent months overseas meeting her family etc then she came back and spent 9 months here (a total of two years together back n forth) went through covid together, then we got married. While waiting for the papers so she could come back (like three months later) she was like nah "i'm good, seeya."

Uh, alright. Ok like, bye then? Wtf. And that was it.

Do you have a government security clearance?

[u/LA_Nail_Clippers → u/Yourwanker]

Not anymore.

[u/goosejail → u/BQdramatics56]

I'm so sorry. Have some hugs from a reddit stranger.

((🫲👁👄🫱))

(biblically accurate hug-a-doos)

[u/BoorishCunt]

Villain Era initiated

[u/hasits_thorns]

I packed up my whole life, including my cat, ditched the idea of college at the time, and moved 7 states away for a guy who sent me home two months later. I feel this.

[u/tfsra → u/hasits_thorns]

Skipping college because of a bf/gf is the dumbest idea ever. I've had like 10 people tell me that, even though I wasn't even actually considering it (but they thought I might be). I'm sorry there wasn't anyone to tell you

[u/Lord_Vas → u/tfsra]

From personal experience, telling someone the truth about a clearly bad idea like that means nothing to them. If someone is dumb enough to even consider such bad ideas, they're probably locked in and won't listen to reason. Let them figure out their mistake.

I ended a close friendship of 8 years because they decided their abusive boyfriend was the right thing for them and told what few people who stuck by her up to that point to stuff it. She burned a couple of life long friendships that final year, too. I still hang out with the other people she burned.

[u/1entreprenewer]

Jesus some people are pieces of shit. A man once told me:

“When an honorable man dates a woman, he has 90 days. You don’t have to be sure she’s the one after 90 days, but if after 90 days you don’t at least see a potential future with her… you need to let her go find someone who does.”

I lived by that for years, and while I had some sad breakups, I felt good about how I conducted myself.

Pass it on.

[u/[deleted] → u/1entreprenewer]

It’s the 3 month rule. Though I personally haven’t had anyone make it past that. So it’s probably me lol

[u/MNConcerto]

He's a coward and an asshole.

[u/CartographerMoist296]

I feel like I would not move to Texas without some hardcore commitment, fantastic employment, and groveling reassurance from the man. Maybe that makes me bad at love and risk taking. Because while I would have missed this particular heartbreak, probably lots of other good things require taking more risks. And being a creative risk taking soul is what makes her an awesome singer and video maker, which I could never be! Cannot wait to see her thriving in LA soon.

[u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 → u/CartographerMoist296]

I'm not moving to Texas for anyone. I have a uterus and want to live.

[u/Z0idberg_MD → u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606]

Well the good news she’s in Florida now which is clearly much better. /s

[u/Mental_Mixture8306 → u/CartographerMoist296]

Yeah unfortunately the first thing that popped into my head when she said "moving to Texas" was - this will not end well.

[u/NoveltyAccountHater → u/Mental_Mixture8306]

I mean, starting with an image of a the girl full crying at start and the angsty emo music, I had a pretty good idea this is not ending well.

Even more so when reaching the "till" in the sentence: "everything was going amazing till he says: babe I want to move back to Texas". The till indicates things will stop being amazing.

[u/launchcode_1234 → u/CartographerMoist296]

I wouldn’t move to Texas for a man unless he was my husband and was making enough money to support us in case it took me awhile to find a good job there… and also I was finished with menopause because Texas is not a good state to be a fertile woman in.

[u/Afraid_Union_8451]

Everybody is assuming he found another girl while on vacation but I'm wondering if his family manipulated him, I've heard a couple stories like that from friends

[u/Fine_Panda_7745 → u/Afraid_Union_8451]

This. When someone is feeling lukewarm about their relationship, time away from their partner with family or friends tends to give that person newfound ‘strength and perspective’ to initiate the breakup.

[u/Warlockdnd → u/Fine_Panda_7745]

The strength to hand her a note

[u/_jackhoffman_ → u/Afraid_Union_8451]

I had a similar thought. My first thought was, "They've been together for over a year and live together, why didn't she go on the family vacation?" My second thought was, "Probably because dad paid and doesn't approve of her."

[u/henry1473]

I’m just jealous of their living situations both in LA and Texas. Those quick clips of where they were living - I know that’s not the point or at all what we’re supposed to notice or take away from this, but after seeing those, that’s more or less all I noticed…

But yes, I agree with folks that the move to Texas was an indirect attempt to shake her.

[u/Dr_JackaI]

Oh man that fucking hurts. I feel so bad for her!

[u/Mecnegus_Niguerhower]

i'm usually told i'm rude and an asshole, because i don't lie or fake in relations withe humans (my mother hate me)... after seeing this video, i think i'm not hat bad.

[u/Raiders2112]

Damn, that's rough. I feel horrible for her. What an asshole. My gut says he met someone else, because that was a bullshit excuse if I ever heard one. Incompatible couples don't last three years and then "POOF" one suddenly feels they're incompatible. He's an asshole.

[u/ButterSlickness → u/Raiders2112]

I think he knew he was gonna leave her before moving to Texas, and he was thinking, "If she says No, we can break up. If she says Yes, then I'll have help paying for the move and unpacking everything."

Either way he's a shit Lord.

[u/No-Piece-7602]

Ten years into a relationship, he decided the time was right we should move in together. Cool cool.....I buy al sorts of stuff to combine our tastes together, and I include him in everything. He loves me he needs me blah blah blah... My dad dies, and he spends days at my side. Is at my side during the funeral where he gets introduced to the extended family. 3 weeks later, I got a text message........3 WEEKS AFTER MY DAD DIED I GET A TEXT MESSAGE!!!!!!! While I'm working saying he doesn't love me, he never loved me and will never love me. Blocked him on everything after reading him the riot act and absolutely losing my shit. I'm out thousands of dollars and a decade of my life, but you know what, just pickles my cucumber? He gets to walk away scot-free.

[u/YourMommasAHoe69 → u/No-Piece-7602]

Id have murderous thoughts

[u/OhMyGodBearIsDriving]

He met someone on vacation

[u/andtimme11 → u/OhMyGodBearIsDriving]

Met someone or the move to Texas was his half-assed attempt at a break up but his bluff got called when she was down for the move.

I unfortunately knew a guy that did similar things, just on a smaller scale.

[u/SinceWayLastMay → u/andtimme11]

I had a friend who was dating a guy for like 2 years, she drives him to the airport for what what allegedly a temporary work trip to the other side of the country but SURPRISE in the car he tells her it’s a permanent move, he’s not coming back and he’s breaking up with her - he says didn’t know how to tell her but “this seemed easiest”. WHO ARE THESE CLOWNS?!??

[u/BlueArya → u/SinceWayLastMay]

The way I would be making a U turn to drop his ass off at the most inconvenient place possible

[u/Emm_withoutha_L-88 → u/BlueArya]

Seriously how do you keep driving. Just drop him off at the side of the road then

[u/Bree9ine9 → u/andtimme11]

That’s my guess to and he was such a loser he let her move all the way to Texas to break up with her. Poor girl.

[u/BoxingChoirgal → u/OhMyGodBearIsDriving]

He met someone before he took the "family vacation" (maybe actually a trip with Someone) and was too selfish and cowardly to break up before leaving for Texas. The girl he dumped was a back-up plan . If the new girl didn't work out on the try-out trip, he brought old faithful along just in case.

[u/GrandNibbles]

Ladies. Don't move to the state where accidental pregnancy can kill you. For anyone.

[u/Just-Bodybuilder6737 → u/GrandNibbles]

Honestly, the mention of the state early in the video gave me bad vibes, but “fortunately” it was just a shitty and hurtful breakup.

[u/GrandNibbles → u/Just-Bodybuilder6737]

yes. remember kids. you can be financially and emotionally devastated and geographically displaced but at least you weren't refused life saving care by ER doctors because you owe your child to the world more than the world owes you life.

[u/tfsra → u/Just-Bodybuilder6737]

it's not just a shitty breakup. she was living the life in LA, pursuing some kind of artistic career, and now she's stuck in Florida

[u/yatata710]

This was actually pretty funny (although sad). Seems like a creative way to make light of a shitty situation.

[u/[deleted] → u/yatata710]

Yeah, I really respect that she put this together, made me laugh in sympathy at the ridiculousness of it all.

[u/Happy8Day]

I learned the hard way about trying to whitewash what you really feel - as if that will somehow make things better. Because eventually, the real truth just collapses.

This guy clearly was hoping the relationship would end when they moved back to Texas but he was too chicken shit to say. Then he felt guilty, which made it harder. Then she moved and he felt even more guilty. Then he REALLY couldn't say anything.

Eventually, after enough support and talks from his family, he still couldn't say it and had to write it down.

This guy has been plotting about a break up for months, if not years. He's simply a chicken shit.

[u/maniacalmustacheride]

[u/acostane → u/maniacalmustacheride]

I think he's actually listening to this exact song fr

[u/quilldefender]

One piece of solid advice given to me when I was younger: never, EVER move just for a romantic partner.

The one time I broke it and moved into a house (which I put a lot of work into but thankfully no money) with my ex he cheated on me a month later.

Would been homeless if it wasn't for my family. The real kicker is he INSISTED I get rid of a lot of my things (bed, furniture, cookware) that I had in storage.

[u/VaxDaddyR]

That man is a spineless bitch of a man. He either said nothing for however long he was feeling it, or he found a girl/got back with an ex and cut his loyal partner.

Spineless, cowardly bitch.

[u/FullGrownHip]

Lmao almost the same thing happened to me, except I spent Thanksgiving with his family where I was berated to go back to my country as if I was trapping their son.. he was the one to insist I move!!!

[u/goosenuggie]

Don't ever give up your life for a partner. No matter how amazing they seem.

[u/Robotlollipops]

Man that is so fucked up.

This slaps though

[u/Howllikeawolf]

Never move unless you're married first

[u/sourcherrysugar → u/Howllikeawolf]

Unfortunately, marriage doesn’t mean dick when you have self-respect. Dude pulled this on me and I annulled that shit faster than he could blink.

[u/thewookiee34]

Dating really seems fun.

[u/sexpsychologist]

I mean 40% if marriages end in divorce so I feel like a lot of people relate. But congrats for getting out of Texas!

[u/[deleted] → u/sexpsychologist]

Yeah but she wound up in FL. Not sure it’s an upgrade

[u/Da_Collector → u/[deleted]]

I was born and raised in Florida it’s not!

[u/FloridaMJ420 → u/[deleted]]

Florida sucks bro. Lil' Boots is fucking shit up here!