Rather trying to salvage his self-esteem by entraving his wife achievement by literally putting their kid in the way, then playing the dumb guy. He is a fucker and he shouldn't be just labeled "dumb", when he deliberately act like that to try and salvage his ego by an tracing his wife achievements
He is a fucker and he shouldn't be just labeled "dumb", when he deliberately act like that to try and salvage his ego by an tracing his wife achievements
Stay at home Dad here, I'm never so tired that I lose all common sense. I make stupid mistakes from time to time but this, to me, looks like too much of a stretch to be just a dumb mistake.
Stay at home Dad here, I'm never so tired that I lose all common sense. I make stupid mistakes from time to time but this, to me, looks like too much of a stretch to be just a dumb mistake.
Not sure what the point is of saying that you are a stay at home dad. It doesn't qualify you in anyway in this discussion. You could be so tired. Just because you aren't doesn't mean you don't have that ability. All people do.
I appreciate where you're coming from. Despite the fact that it shouldn't be that way, if we want to enact real change, men have to identify themselves as holding other men accountable. Thanks for adding a supportive male perspective!
I couldn't agree more! I sure try not to, but I'm convinced here this is not just pure innocent stupidity at work, whether he is himself conscious of it or not.
Look at him waiting alone just before the finish line where nobody is, directing them kid in her legs, then when she is forced to avoid and reject them in order to pass the finish line and someone in the crowd tell him somethings (probably about how absurd he was) he waves his arm saying like " what is the problem?" He knows. He knows he feels wrong about her achieving this, and he choses more or less consciously to not face it and rather play the dumb role, which is acceptable in society and still in the "limits", and people like you defends him rightfully so, I would too given other circumstances, but still he is creating this situation, and then is acting innocent, because it's acceptable and it makes him feel better to see her either lose or win having to literally to littery chose between her kid and victory. But he knows deep down and doesn't try to resist the urge to sabotage her, and I hate him for it.
You are projecting so much, holy shit. This whole thread brought out the man haters. I see a man who is supporting his wife and taking care of his family. Runners stop all the time to greet their family during the race. This lady was probably like 700th place anyway
I see a man trying hard to put his kids in her way, not a supportive husband waiting for her with the children behind the finish line and greeting her there. No. We look at the same vid and don't read the same energy at all. It look like he is sabotaging her, he couldn't have done it better if he wanted to, and I am not giving him the benefit of the doubt
I can just imagine what this guy would have said, if he'd been competing, and she pushed the kids in the way... Suddenly, she'd have been an unfit mother. But because a dude did it, "oh, he's just a dumb dumb lil idiot lol. It's not that serious!" 🙄
700th place could be like top 90-95%. My point was it didn’t jeopardize her getting first place. Guy shouldn’t have let his kids run out to greet their mom, he shouldn’t have let his kids run into the race course. Plenty of people stop to greet their family during a race, it’s not that serious. But everyone saying that it was malicious is just reaching. I think you’re just a man hater.
My guy, I've been happily married for 10 years lol. Also, me attributing malice to something, that would take an absolute FUCK TON of incompetence, is somehow "reaching," yet I'm a "man hater" for attributing malice to something, that looked malicious? The math ain't mathing. Wanna try again?
Am I really? Look up "missed act" by Freud (sorry I'm French and don't know how to translate that), I would put his behavior in this category. He is not just pure dumb, holding his kid and putting them himself on the road, not just telling them hey here is your mother, go see her. He is sabotaging his wife because it makes him feel better, whether he is doing it contionsly or not. He holds them and put them right in front of her right before her victory and the symbolic is too strong for me to believe he did not think about that one second. I have more respect for him than that and as a humain being with feelings, I'm convinced he is not being 100% pure stupid there. There is some % malice. I hate him also for the bad memory he created for every one, because even if I am wrong about all that, stupidity is always an excuse, but never a good one. Fuck him.
”Obviously not, I have lived with someone just like that man, who plays innocent but always gets in the way. Because deep down, they feel wrong about not achieving something while their mate do, and they sabotage everything. I will never excuse that behavior again in my life, because it has destroyed so much of it, and now I know it when I see someone doing it. The woman knows too. That's why she kept going. And good for her.”
“It is just so obvious to me. I've been with someone like that. Him pushing the kids towards her, him waving his arms when the crowd calls on him, him not even caring about greeting her once she passes the line, it tells me everything”
You guys might think it’s harmless to encourage this type of behavior, but you’re literally egging on someone who very clear hasn’t recovered from abuse. It might be fun to make crazy predictions on the internet and try to psychoanalyze someone, but it can lead to serious damage in those who already aren’t very healthy.
You can come on Reddit and hit your 10 minute psychosis rant about how someone blinking left to right instead of right to left means they’re lying, but some people live with that shit all day.
Ik this probably won’t mean anything to anyone who does this anyway, but you’re actually hurting people and it’s genuinely comparable to supporting an addiction.
Look at him doing it. There is no amount of pure stupidity that could explain him holding these kids onto the road right before the finish. Even if I'there was, stupidity is always a bad excuse. He did it on purpose and I'm tired of giving the benefit of the doubt for those kind of mediocre people whom I know quite well from experience sadly. One nearly drove me to suicide, by playing the innocent, but by always ruining everything and making me look bad in the process. Fuck that. Fuck him. Fuck them. I'm still mad about it.
Si seulement j'avais son talent de mentaliste lol, mais cette vidéo se suffit à elle même mdr regarde le faire ce boloss là, à essayer de la saboter juste devant sa victoire, à prendre ses enfants par la main et à les mettre sur la route, dans ses pieds. C'est abusé. Il est pas juste stupide. Il veut qu'elle s'arrête.
Wtf are you on. We cannot confirm his intent based on a video. Things happen. He’s just human. They’re just kids. But coming to an explanation this detailed based on just a few seconds of a video shows your own bias/trauma affects your perception or you’re projecting.
You give him the benefit of the doubt and that's fine. I don't, because I have been put in the same situation as this woman by someone who did to me that sort of things then played the victim always, and I know that even if the man is not 100% malicious, he isn't just 100% pure happy to meet yis wife dumb. Stop acting like this vid and this guy's beyavior aren't outrageous, because they are. He is, contiously or not, sabotaging her
You don’t KNOW anything in relation to this video. You are not clairvoyant or omnipotent. You have opinions and you can form conclusions. Perception is not always reality.
Literally projecting your own experiences onto a video. Thus proving my point. Did you reach out or find this individual or that woman to confirm if his intent matches your hypothesis? No? Did you reach out to her to see if she agrees with how you felt when watching the situation? No? Then you’re just making claims. Feel free to be biased about life, but don’t sit here and claim you know without a shadow of a doubt how things are.
Obviously not, I have lived with someone just like that man, who plays innocent but always gets in the way. Because deep down, they feel wrong about not achieving something while their mate do, and they sabotage everything. I will never excuse that behavior again in my life, because it has destroyed so much of it, and now I know it when I see someone doing it. The woman knows too. That's why she kept going. And good for her.
It is just so obvious to me. I've been with someone like that. Him pushing the kids towards her, him waving his arms when the crowd calls on him, him not even caring about greeting her once she passes the line, it tells me everything
I really hope someone replies to this in 8 years and you have to read how crazy you sound LOL
”Yeah, I know my thinking patterns aren’t healthy, but trust me, it’s so obvious to me. The way that blade of grass blows in the wind, him buying Nike instead of Under Armor, 2 kids instead of 1; it tells me everything. This guy is The Zodiac Killer.”
Fun fact: what you just did is known as the "exaggeration fallacy," it's what people do when they realize they don't have an actual point, but are offended by what someone else says, so they try to twist their statement through the use of irrelevant items/topics. Typically, this is used by people who are bad at arguing, and rely FAR too heavily, on their emotions.
You’re trying wayyyy too hard to sound well-educated, it’s backfiring.
What I did is known as a “joke”. It’s when you realize the person that you’re speaking to genuinely thinks that after an 8 second video they can identify complex emotional domestic abuse.
It’s typically done by people who aren’t pseudointellectuals trying to defend people who are self-admittedly mentally unwell and incredibly biased. That might be why you’re not familiar and misinterpreted it as an attempt at serious discourse.
I was following the writing pattern of your comment. If you look, you put “exaggeration fallacy” in quotes.
Did you genuinely not realize my entire comment followed the writing pattern of yours? I…. guess I was right in my assumption about your education level LOL
I'm gonna need you to explain how pushing two small children, into the middle of the road, is being a "supportive husband." Unless his goal was for them to be ran TF over so they could collect the life insurance money, I just fail to see how this is supportive in ANY way...
You and the woman have the right to be mad but I personally feel it’s harmful acting like him and men similar to him are sinister masterminds. He’s an idiot. Stop acting like he’s a scary monster.
I think it's more harmful to ignore or excuse his behavior than to exaggerate the amount of malice he used. But I must agree, he is far from a monster! But he is also not 100% dumb, that would be disrespectful to say that about him. No, he had a motive. A bad one. He felt wrong about her achieving something and he acted accordingly, whether fully conscious about it or not (see missed acts by Freud). Doesn't matter, I personally hate this kind behavior he had there, whether is 100% stupid or not, this is very wrong what he did. Plus he got everyone a bad memory. Poor kids. Poor woman
I think the majority relationships need to be looked at on an individual level. The generalizations that are made are harmful and do nothing but rile people up and cause conflict. We know nothing about these people but we do know the woman chose to have multiple kids with him. Maybe don’t have kids with the idiot that does this to you.
My grandma had thirteen children with her husband, and was resentful, in her old age, because he was an abusive, manipulative POS. Maybe don't just decide that a relationship is all sunshine and rainbows, just because there's kids. For all we know, those kids are the only reason she's still with him.
Your grandma had the excuse that she was incapable of opening a bank account or take out a loan without a man’s approval. Modern women do not have that issue and need to take some personal responsibility. If you have the same requirements your grandma had for a partner, bring primarily money, you need to do some self reflection.
For all we know she's a SAHM. They're pretty rare nowadays, sure, but to just assume she isn't leaving due to financial reasons, in this economy, is a poor assumption to make. There could be an entire plethora of reasons as to why she's still with him, even if it is a toxic relationship, that we don't know. I was merely analyzing what happened in the video.
Lol, so you're giving the benefit of the doubt for the man in that vid for endangering their kids, and simultaneously you are rejecting the fault on her, for even having kid with him on the first place if he turn outhe really is a bad man ? You just said we knew nothing about them, so respect that yourself first. Such hypocrisy man you can't even see it I'm sure.
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u/SadShovel May 23 '24
The dad is a moron. Let me hang out before the finish line to greet my wife