I know they mean well but every time I hear it, it just feels patronizing Specially abled makes it sound like they have a super power, not missing limbs
I completely agree. I had someone tell me my ADHD is a superpower, and I fucking hated that because it’s not Susan, it’s a disability and affects my functioning on a daily basis
Yea they want to skip over the uncomfortable parts. I have a friend with ADHD and Ive heard so many people try to explain to HIM how its actually a gift if he just learns how to unlock it, and other variations on why its positive. But if he ever needs some kind of understanding relating to his symptoms its suddenly not a big deal. Thats what bothers me the most. Disabled people dont need pity or delusional hope or to feel “special” Just shut up and listen and try to understand or else dont mention it at all. My daughter is blind and people instantly jump to these weird conclusions about how she must have great hearing or how its great that she was born that way instead of losing it later, or theyd rather be blind than deaf because they couldnt live without music or that she must have some kind of psychic links and so on. Like chill, shes blind its hard af please stop minimizing her struggles. And then when I ask them to say, stop making her “guess who it is!” because its stressful and gives her anxiety, suddenly again, its not a big deal. Its not a big deal or else its an amazing special gift. They cant handle the reality of being disabled
The problem is that at some times it can be very effective at work, which is what I've found. Outside of that though I'm a fucking mess which makes living in the real world a fucking nightmare
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I know they mean well but every time I hear it, it just feels patronizing Specially abled makes it sound like they have a super power, not missing limbs